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Originally Posted by doudat
 Back to the world of living. Somewhat.
Saw my doctor yesterday, I have pharyngitis and laryngitis so she gave me a week off from work. Yep. I started work 2 weeks ago and only worked 3 days  |
and i hope you feel better quick! i can't believe you got so sick right when you went back to work! 
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Originally Posted by Queen of my Castle
Oh, hon- the pair I was going for stocked at 8:31, and I hit it at 8:31:02 and it was gone. That was so freaking fast it was unbelievable. I've been trying for weeks!
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I'm so heartbroken and I know it's probably silly and I'm crying while I'm typing this up, which makes me feel even more pathetic, but I feel like I've lost my daughter... She comes home and all she does is cry when she sees me and I know it's cause she just wants to nurse, and yet I wish she'd want to interact with me as well... Not just on that one level. Cry & nurse. And if I'm hiding somewhere she's prefectly happy. As soon as she sees me, it all changes. I miss our days together. I miss our complicity. I miss the quiet moments that are always the defining ones. Now that those are gone, I can't seem to relate to her anymore. I hope this will change. But evenings were never her best time, and now it's all I have left with her. 
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Originally Posted by doudat
Can I just feel sorry for myself for a minute?
It seems like every since Romi's in daycare, I've lost my connection with her... Like she and I are not the team we used to be I'm so heartbroken and I know it's probably silly and I'm crying while I'm typing this up, which makes me feel even more pathetic, but I feel like I've lost my daughter... She comes home and all she does is cry when she sees me and I know it's cause she just wants to nurse, and yet I wish she'd want to interact with me as well... Not just on that one level. Cry & nurse. And if I'm hiding somewhere she's prefectly happy. As soon as she sees me, it all changes. I miss our days together. I miss our complicity. I miss the quiet moments that are always the defining ones. Now that those are gone, I can't seem to relate to her anymore. I hope this will change. But evenings were never her best time, and now it's all I have left with her. : |
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Originally Posted by doudat
Can I just feel sorry for myself for a minute?
It seems like every since Romi's in daycare, I've lost my connection with her... Like she and I are not the team we used to be I'm so heartbroken and I know it's probably silly and I'm crying while I'm typing this up, which makes me feel even more pathetic, but I feel like I've lost my daughter... She comes home and all she does is cry when she sees me and I know it's cause she just wants to nurse, and yet I wish she'd want to interact with me as well... Not just on that one level. Cry & nurse. And if I'm hiding somewhere she's prefectly happy. As soon as she sees me, it all changes. I miss our days together. I miss our complicity. I miss the quiet moments that are always the defining ones. Now that those are gone, I can't seem to relate to her anymore. I hope this will change. But evenings were never her best time, and now it's all I have left with her. : |
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Originally Posted by doudat
Can I just feel sorry for myself for a minute?
It seems like every since Romi's in daycare, I've lost my connection with her... Like she and I are not the team we used to be I'm so heartbroken and I know it's probably silly and I'm crying while I'm typing this up, which makes me feel even more pathetic, but I feel like I've lost my daughter... She comes home and all she does is cry when she sees me and I know it's cause she just wants to nurse, and yet I wish she'd want to interact with me as well... Not just on that one level. Cry & nurse. And if I'm hiding somewhere she's prefectly happy. As soon as she sees me, it all changes. I miss our days together. I miss our complicity. I miss the quiet moments that are always the defining ones. Now that those are gone, I can't seem to relate to her anymore. I hope this will change. But evenings were never her best time, and now it's all I have left with her. : |
, one for each of you. It's a big adjustment for both of you, there will be more defining moments I'm sure. Being sick doesn't help either. Can you wear her more when you're home, just for more closeness, or maybe sleep with fewer clothes on for more skin contact?|
Originally Posted by hanno
Oh doudat I'm so sorry! Is your husband still working? I thought he was taking a leave. Maybe he can take her to see you? Is there no way your office can be more flexible with hours?
Oh and yes, my little guy's ribs aren't quite as visible now. I do worry too much. I worry that if he ever gets sick he has nothing to spare and I fear he'd have to be hospitalized or on IV for something that wouldn't be a big deal for a chubbier kid. I've started testing the waters for reactions to almonds and he's had a few with no ill effects and he loves them. Most of foods he likes are very low calorie (apples, celery, strawberries) so I think if I can dip them in nut and seed butters, maybe he'll gain a little. |
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Originally Posted by krismarie
one of my best friends had her baby today, 3 weeks early! she planned a homebirth but had to transfer at the very end of labor when they realized she was breech. she had her naturally, vaginally after 15 minutes in the hospital! her name is kezia grace and they are both doing great!
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Originally Posted by doudat
Can I just feel sorry for myself for a minute?
It seems like every since Romi's in daycare, I've lost my connection with her... Like she and I are not the team we used to be I'm so heartbroken and I know it's probably silly and I'm crying while I'm typing this up, which makes me feel even more pathetic, but I feel like I've lost my daughter... She comes home and all she does is cry when she sees me and I know it's cause she just wants to nurse, and yet I wish she'd want to interact with me as well... Not just on that one level. Cry & nurse. And if I'm hiding somewhere she's prefectly happy. As soon as she sees me, it all changes. I miss our days together. I miss our complicity. I miss the quiet moments that are always the defining ones. Now that those are gone, I can't seem to relate to her anymore. I hope this will change. But evenings were never her best time, and now it's all I have left with her. : |
oh doudat! i'm so sorry that you have to go through this. i'm
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Originally Posted by krismarie
one of my best friends had her baby today, 3 weeks early! she planned a homebirth but had to transfer at the very end of labor when they realized she was breech. she had her naturally, vaginally after 15 minutes in the hospital! her name is kezia grace and they are both doing great!
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Originally Posted by doudat
Can I just feel sorry for myself for a minute?
It seems like every since Romi's in daycare, I've lost my connection with her... Like she and I are not the team we used to be I'm so heartbroken and I know it's probably silly and I'm crying while I'm typing this up, which makes me feel even more pathetic, but I feel like I've lost my daughter... She comes home and all she does is cry when she sees me and I know it's cause she just wants to nurse, and yet I wish she'd want to interact with me as well... Not just on that one level. Cry & nurse. And if I'm hiding somewhere she's prefectly happy. As soon as she sees me, it all changes. I miss our days together. I miss our complicity. I miss the quiet moments that are always the defining ones. Now that those are gone, I can't seem to relate to her anymore. I hope this will change. But evenings were never her best time, and now it's all I have left with her. : |
s s s oh, I'm so sorry doudat- that must be so tough. I can understand how you feel like that...even after I drop off Eva at church or babysitting with family, after a bit it still feels that way. I'm sure part of it is just adjusting...you will find ways to reconnect with her, like bathtimes or another time when it's just you and her. Nursing is her big comfort though, at least you have that! I agree with maxi-mom- I find that after busy or long days, or leaving her for a few hours that wearing her helps, just being close to me seems to console her. Then I don't have to physically hold her. It will get better...is there any way you could work less? I'm sure you've considered that, it must be tough.
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Originally Posted by krismarie
one of my best friends had her baby today, 3 weeks early! she planned a homebirth but had to transfer at the very end of labor when they realized she was breech. she had her naturally, vaginally after 15 minutes in the hospital! her name is kezia grace and they are both doing great!
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Originally Posted by hanno
Oh doudat I'm so sorry! Is your husband still working? I thought he was taking a leave. Maybe he can take her to see you? Is there no way your office can be more flexible with hours?
Oh and yes, my little guy's ribs aren't quite as visible now. I do worry too much. I worry that if he ever gets sick he has nothing to spare and I fear he'd have to be hospitalized or on IV for something that wouldn't be a big deal for a chubbier kid. I've started testing the waters for reactions to almonds and he's had a few with no ill effects and he loves them. Most of foods he likes are very low calorie (apples, celery, strawberries) so I think if I can dip them in nut and seed butters, maybe he'll gain a little. |
but like kaylo he is so interested in anything with nuts?! so i just go for it...even though i've heard we aren't supposed to. but just today zenon was reaching for my nut butter & toast, so i let him have it. i was just happy he was interested in eating something besides bm. 
anyway--i think nut butters are a great idea!
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Originally Posted by jocelyndale
Thanks for the birthday wishes!
I haven't posted pics of Ronan recently. Flickr now has video storage, so I uploaded a vid of Ronan playing his new piano. And while my babe still seems short (and stout), I cannot believe he's big enough to do this. One year ago Monday. |
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Originally Posted by tabrizia
The worst part is I hadn't realized how popular she has apparently become. I have a gorgeous pair of purple longies that we got last fall and love by her. I got them an hour or so after she had stocked and she still had stuff up 2 and 3 hours later.
On the other hand the stocking reminded me why I hate Hyena cart, I hate stalking things, I have done it before, and it just isn't really fun, I would much rather not have to compete with 2930348 other people to get a pair of shorties. It is too bad though because her stuff is really cute and works well for us, I just don't think I have the interest to stalk any more. |
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Originally Posted by doudat
Can I just feel sorry for myself for a minute?
It seems like every since Romi's in daycare, I've lost my connection with her... Like she and I are not the team we used to be I'm so heartbroken and I know it's probably silly and I'm crying while I'm typing this up, which makes me feel even more pathetic, but I feel like I've lost my daughter... She comes home and all she does is cry when she sees me and I know it's cause she just wants to nurse, and yet I wish she'd want to interact with me as well... Not just on that one level. Cry & nurse. And if I'm hiding somewhere she's prefectly happy. As soon as she sees me, it all changes. I miss our days together. I miss our complicity. I miss the quiet moments that are always the defining ones. Now that those are gone, I can't seem to relate to her anymore. I hope this will change. But evenings were never her best time, and now it's all I have left with her. : |
This was happening with us too when I went back and I was only gone for 2 days a week. I actually have stopped going to work right now, since I can't find childcare to work with my schedule and Arlo's age, and it's back to normal now. It is sooooo hard to be away from them. I wish I had some advice for you. I wish I could give you a hug for real.|
Originally Posted by krismarie
one of my best friends had her baby today, 3 weeks early! she planned a homebirth but had to transfer at the very end of labor when they realized she was breech. she had her naturally, vaginally after 15 minutes in the hospital! her name is kezia grace and they are both doing great!
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Originally Posted by krismarie
i think that's a good idea! zenon is following in kaylo's footsteps with eating--not-so-much.
but like kaylo he is so interested in anything with nuts?! so i just go for it...even though i've heard we aren't supposed to. but just today zenon was reaching for my nut butter & toast, so i let him have it. i was just happy he was interested in eating something besides bm. anyway--i think nut butters are a great idea! |
: because Finn feeds him all kinds of stuff before I can stop him. And I'm a terrible mother who doesn't pay a smidgen of attention to the guidelines
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: I have a tan on my face, my kids are covered in dirt and we've been at the park everyday. I am just feeling so good and so lucky. I am weaning myself off my ppd meds too. I think we are in a good place and I'm excited to not take a pill every night. I'm hoping my sex drive will increase a little too
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Originally Posted by finn'smama
Yup, Arlo eats all kinds of nuts, even peanut butter. And he's been eating it for a while : because Finn feeds him all kinds of stuff before I can stop him. And I'm a terrible mother who doesn't pay a smidgen of attention to the guidelines:A |
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Originally Posted by finn'smama
Also, can I just say how happy I am that it's spring!
: I have a tan on my face, my kids are covered in dirt and we've been at the park everyday. I am just feeling so good and so lucky. I am weaning myself off my ppd meds too. I think we are in a good place and I'm excited to not take a pill every night. I'm hoping my sex drive will increase a little tooA |
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Originally Posted by hanno
Oh and yes, my little guy's ribs aren't quite as visible now. I do worry too much. I worry that if he ever gets sick he has nothing to spare and I fear he'd have to be hospitalized or on IV for something that wouldn't be a big deal for a chubbier kid. I've started testing the waters for reactions to almonds and he's had a few with no ill effects and he loves them. Most of foods he likes are very low calorie (apples, celery, strawberries) so I think if I can dip them in nut and seed butters, maybe he'll gain a little.
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