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post #341 of 469
I'm so sorry they're being jerks, I hope he can negotiate with them. Does he have better chances of promotion or anything like that? Are their any upsides to this job compared to what he's already doing? He should start playing a little hard-ball if they're afraid of losing him.
post #342 of 469
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some business-people really make me .
: that's all i have to say about that.
post #343 of 469
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dh is going to have my computer tomorrow.
i'm going to miss you guys. hopefully i'll "see you" tomorrow evening.
post #344 of 469
it's just so frustrating because he works SO hard. and it's not just long hours, but the AMOUNT of work he does when he's there is insane.

apparently, the talk was very 'final' this afternoon. that is all they're offering for that job, and so rather than starting from the ground in a new position, he just said that he would rather stay in his current job and see what would happen in august (when his clients are expanding and may get him a raise). apparently, he thinks they want to keep him where he is and not spend extra money on this position.

i know they don't want to lose him, but at the same time, we cannot afford for him to be out of work. it's a fine line that we're not sure we have the guts to toe.
post #345 of 469
Only have a minute bc my friend's 2 little ones will be here shortly and I NEED to vaccum......

I am soooo sorry about dh's job....that really sucks and it SO isn't right. I totally understand the not wanting to rock the boat, so to say, about the job......

Dp has been working his job AND his old boss's job for the last year and they are paying him the same (i won't even tell you how much lower than the national average..... and he's the only IT guy for the company so he has to travel the tristate area......IF he leaves, they are screwed but he won't bc our area is saturated with IT ppl......

Which is why we aren't following our dream of home ownership this year.....and it sucks.

He pretty much can make whatever descion (can't spell today) he wants regarding what he's doing there but higher pay and benefits that are actually worth what he is paying for (well visits only......health savings plan....grrr)

we've decided not to toe that line for now either.......

so many hugs mama and prayers for august........


ok, i need to jet....the downstairs looks like a disaster so i am just gonna toss everything behind the chairs (i know i know) bc dp was supposed to pick some of it up last night while i was at the gym (my me time) with my friend. but he put together some hobby stuff.....: his priorities are all messed up right now.......

i'm so happy to be here with you guys..........
post #346 of 469
Kurumi - Did you feel the earethquake this morning? It was a 5.2 magnitude centered in SE IL. I think it is called the New Madrid faultline. Who here is in S IL and can tell us? It woke me up and I made dh go see what the little girls were doing to cause such a ruckus. My 3rd one to experience in IN.
post #347 of 469
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Kurumi - Did you feel the earethquake this morning? It was a 5.2 magnitude centered in SE IL. I think it is called the New Madrid faultline. Who here is in S IL and can tell us? It woke me up and I made dh go see what the little girls were doing to cause such a ruckus. My 3rd one to experience in IN.

We felt it! Woke us up from a deep sleep. Yes, it is the New Madrid fault. The same fault that in the early 1800s caused a quake so big land flipped over on top of itself, the mississippi flowed backwards and route was changed, geyser spewed earth into the air, caused bells to ring in Philadelphia....etc : Most people who live around here know to be ready for "the big one".
post #348 of 469
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Kurumi - Did you feel the earethquake this morning? It was a 5.2 magnitude centered in SE IL. I think it is called the New Madrid faultline. Who here is in S IL and can tell us? It woke me up and I made dh go see what the little girls were doing to cause such a ruckus. My 3rd one to experience in IN.

It woke us up!
post #349 of 469
oh my gosh, you earthquake people! that must be a little disconcerting to be woken up by something like that! (can you tell i live in a place where that never happens??- although they say that yellowstone is on top of a huge supervolcano...)

lindsay- that super duper sucks about your dh's job sitch. sounds like they jerked him around and that is just not cool

katie- sorry you lost your ring! i thought i'd lost one of my pearl earrings (that dh gave me on our wedding day) a while ago...i went for days without it and then suddenly, there it was in the middle of the kitchen floor...a floor i'd swept several times since i'd lost it...(*insert twilight zone music here*)

in LWAB- i have a possibly controversial question: with self-feeding/baby led weaning vs. purees and spoon feeding- does it have to be all or nothing? i had a talk with otto's daycare provider today (who i really like and respect- she's been doing this for 25 years) and she is just not comfortable with self feeding at his age because of what she sees as a choking risk. (i think it has alot to do with the fact that she is responsible for several little people all at once!) she is willing to feed him food that i make with no problem but she wants it to be spoon feedable. so i guess my question is, can we do the pureed stuff at school until she is comfortable with him self feeding and continue to self feed at home without confusing the little guy too terribly? i would just let him do bm only at school but he is really hungry and i'm just not able to increase the amount of time i spend pumping while i'm at work.

ok so that was really long and convoluted. am i making sense?
post #350 of 469
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lindsay- that super duper sucks about your dh's job sitch. sounds like they jerked him around and that is just not cool

in LWAB- i have a possibly controversial question: with self-feeding/baby led weaning vs. purees and spoon feeding- does it have to be all or nothing? i had a talk with otto's daycare provider today (who i really like and respect- she's been doing this for 25 years) and she is just not comfortable with self feeding at his age because of what she sees as a choking risk. (i think it has alot to do with the fact that she is responsible for several little people all at once!) she is willing to feed him food that i make with no problem but she wants it to be spoon feedable. so i guess my question is, can we do the pureed stuff at school until she is comfortable with him self feeding and continue to self feed at home without confusing the little guy too terribly? i would just let him do bm only at school but he is really hungry and i'm just not able to increase the amount of time i spend pumping while i'm at work.

ok so that was really long and convoluted. am i making sense?
they completely jerked him around, and now he's so angry. you know when you learn that people don't have your back? how frikkin disappointing it is? his boss promised him this job with a raise and then just took it all away after we got so excited.

as far as the weaning process.... we do a mixture of chunks that are self-fed and purees. : dh isn't too comfy with the self-feeding thing either. we just make sure that she guides when to start and stop when we do purees. she especially likes fruits in puree form (applesauce is a fave). so, we usually let her play with the purees, eat them off her fingers, play with the bowl and the spoon. it's a really relaxed process whether we're doing chunks or purees. while i know they're not "necessary", for our current situation, it works for us. she likes playing with them, and we feel like she's getting a lot of different tastes while having fun. as well, i think it's important for her to see BOTH dh and i in the eating process.
post #351 of 469
The tables are here and I'm expecting some folks to come this afternoon and tonight to get early dibs on things. This money is going to help a lot with gas and travel expenses, I just hope I make enough to cover it all.

jbirdbrain - I think it could work, though I don't know how willing he is to want to be spoon fed when he's used to self-feeding. The only thing I've ever fed Liam was applesauce to avoid the mess, and that was with a big people spoon.

leanbh - My mom just went through something very similar. She had been working for the same people for over 20 years, and they refused to promote her. Over the years she's watched people half her age get promoted and they have less experience. I don't know if it was agism or what. Finally she just said screw it and applied for a job at my old college, and got it. She's starting from the ground up but she's making the same, and she has a greater chance for promotion as well. I hope things work out in your favor, I will have my fingers crossed.
post #352 of 469
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dh just got up, so hasn't taken my computer yet

i did not feel the earthquake. that would have been a big-a$$ earthquake i hope none of you got damage. mommajb - that's always my reaction to an earthquake too "WTH is so-n-so doing to my such-n-such?!?! Oh, earthquake."

i'm kind of grappling with the self-feeding vs puree thing to. ds needed his food absolutely pureed, not even little tiny chunks, until he was 11 months old. he had a serious gag reflex with any kind of chunk. dd1 *hated* puree. i really had to convince her that soup was ok, and that *we* ate it like that too. now i don't know what to do. jamison doesn't seem too interested in chunks of food. i mushed up some pear last night and spoon-fed her and she liked it. i don't really want the "hassle" of making her special food and feeding her :. but she should maybe be trying food since she's 7.5 months. i don't know.....

we learned about a month and a half ago that some people didn't have dh's back. : that's all i have to say about that. oh, and i really hope karma does it's job: it sucks, because now i feel like we can't trust anybody and have to be on gaurd about everyone.

alright, dh is stealing my computer out from under me. hopefully i'll be back tonite.
post #353 of 469
we just felt another earthquake a half hr ago, we're in mt.vernon, il- an hour east of st louis. anyone else?

eta: registered as a 4.2
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we just felt another earthquake a half hr ago, we're in mt.vernon, il- an hour east of st louis. anyone else?

eta: registered as a 4.2
eek!
post #355 of 469
Jbirdbrain – Thanks for the . The day care thing is just really bad some days and then other days it doesn’t bother me so much. I think it was because DH was off from work this week. That is my personal pet peeve more than anything else in the world when he is off and DS is in daycare. As far as the self-feeding/spoon-feeding dilemma…what has worked for us is that at daycare he uses purees/spoons and at home he self-feeds. I also send things that can be easily broken up to daycare so they can either let him do it himself or break it into pieces for him (cereal bars, whole grain waffles, crackers, etc.) I also send really ripe pears and apples cut into pieces so that he can feed himself. So far no complaints…my fingers are crossed!!

Leanbh – I’m so happy everything went well at the doctor – that is certainly a relief! Sounds like you had an awesome day the other day with getting excused from jury duty! That is completely awesome!! Sorry the promotion didn’t work out though.

SweetTexasGal - welcome back!!

Katie – I’m so sorry about your ring. I hope it turns up soon.

Greenmagick – I hear ya on the cold! We are the mucus family this weekend and it sucks!! All three of us are sore throated, post nasal dripping, stuffy nosed sickies – yuck! I hope you feel better soon

Bhawkins – Thanks for your reassurance on my bfing issue. I appreciate knowing that if the right side does dry up that I can sustain him with only one side.

Jannah – Yay for no chicken pox!!

Sunshine – I missed you…even though I wasn’t online either I’m so sorry about things at home. Why do the people we care about most hurt us so frequently? I am feelin’ your pain…though today is a good day, those days are few and far between it seems. I hope DP turns around soon and those teeth come in quickly! Poor LO Thanks for reporting that post…sooo annoying!!

Jeanine – Sorry about the separation anxiety. I think it is kind of a phase thing though that comes and goes. I hope so anyway!

Well I’m back after a too long hiatus from MDC!! I had to bring my laptop to work for some updates and didn’t have any computer at home most of the week. I have a lot of catchin up to do!!

Thankfully my BFing issues seem to have corrected themselves. I pumped at work on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. By Wednesday afternoon all I felt on the right side was a bit of soreness (residual from the clogged duct, I’m guessing) and they were both producing about the same (slightly less on the right, but that is normal for me). I had my OB/GYN check too when I went for my annual that afternoon and he said it seemed fine – just do compresses and massaging to make sure. So all seems to be well and just in time for the return of the : biting boy!! Oh, I thought he was done with biting! Not so much apparently…3 times in 2 days…I’m so sore! I got a wicked migraine last night and girly pain (probably from the stupid pelvic exam) and fell asleep at 7:30 pm after DS went to bed. DH didn’t wake me and let me sleep until 10:45 pm when DS woke to eat and then I went to my real bed not the couch! It was so nice to get some shut eye, especially because DS was up SO much last night. What is up with these LO’s and the nighttime feeding?!

Today I took off of work and DS, DH and I went to a car show/swap meet. Not my dream idea of how to spend my day, but we were outside on a gorgeous 73 degree day, together, and walking around so I am not going to complain! DS was an angel child and DH seemed to actually enjoy having us there. It was a good day and I am so thankful.

Ok, off to the co-op board to check on the things I’m buying…waaaaay too many!!

to you all! :
post #356 of 469
MAN, my friends little one is a SCREAMER......an all day, pretty constant screamer.....and she is not easily comforted.....HOOOOBOY, it's draining.....I wish there were something I could do to help her...... L just looks at her like what are you doing baby???

I am sooo spoiled by my little girl who only cries when wet, hungry or teething at night......

However, I am in the running for the bad mother of a year award.....

We spent part of yesterday morning, into the afternoon at a friend's farm. There is a local AP board held their playgroup there....(they are all a bit too AP for me, all or nothing, which there is nothing wrong with that but geez...I felt pretty mainstream and I am SOOO not)....it's about 40 mintues away and a pretty drive.

M had a blast...loved the baby chickens (they are still fuzzy) and got to lead the baby calf around and watch it nurse which she thought was the best thing...we got some raw milk (fresh from the tap...) and some eggs to bring home too....she LOVED the milk...a bit too rich for me with all the cream still in it. She said it was the best birthday present early (she will be 4 on the 23).

HOWEVER, and i have HORRIBLE mom GUILT over this...

I totally SPACED on the the SUNSCREEN.......mom guilt mom guilt mom guilt and feel so awful....

I got burned a bit....M is a tad pink on her face and arms....

but I baked poor Lilah.....

It was only 72 and I just didn't think about it...

It was a stressful morning, we left later than planned, were in whole foods later than planned......didn't even think about "hey, we are out in the sun at 11am until 130pm....."

And just didn't think about it....left her hat on the kitchen table...

iI had her in a solarveil ring sling.....but her poor sweet face is pink pink pink (thank god she has alot of hair....OY)...

She's nursed a bunch, covered her in creamy aloe.........doesn't seem to bother her...

but I fried her when she's getting 4 teeth at once......


awful mommy....mom guilt...... (she does look pretty sweet though.....and will be brown tomorrow...and I DID put a large tube of sunscreen in my felted bag for diapers and such....)......


so...that's my mom guilt.....I'll have to put up a link with farm pictures. I wanted to take all the chicks home.....but dumb city ordinances won't allow it....and chickens aren't exactly quiet enough for the normal rockwell area we live in.....

She's not as pink today though......and it's just her nose and cheeks today so......but I won't forget the sunscreen.....

There were 10 moms there with like 18 kids and not one remembered sunscreen......I don't think I'll get together again with all of them though. Maybe 1 or 2.

MrsB: I am just waiting for chompers here to get going.....esp now that I can see all 4 top teeth coming.....any day now......she's a bottom teeth scraper, she'll look up at you, with the sweetest twinkle in her eye and scrape and giggle.....she thinkings it's HILARIOUS.....happy that the supply is returning...

OK, K is crying again.....I have 2 more hours......please pray that I can get through it....it's made a relatively short day seem like weeks......I just can't figure out why she cries sooo hard and for so long with nothing seeming to comfort her.......makes my heart sad....

xo
post #357 of 469
sunshine: i'm so sorry you have to go through that! the sun is the worst! my dh is from ireland, and i'm just pale as all get out. we have two hats for ro. we keep one in my car and one in the diaper bag. just in case. our sunscreen stays in the diaper bag too. but i have spaced more than once on our afternoon walks! it's even worse here because denver is a mile closer to the sun.
post #358 of 469
I hear ya on the Denver sun.....

I had just bought her sun hats at the Once Upon a Child the day before but switched out diaper bags.......and there it all sat....

It doesn't seems to be bothering her but I still feel awful....esp when it looked so bad last night....whew.....

But there is a hat in each bag now and sunscreen in the one we use most often. And a cute floppy hat tucked in my best friend's glove box since that's who we are usually out with......

K finally fell asleep.....whew.....I so wish I could help her and my friend just thinks it's normal for babies to cry like that.....Her oldest, A, sleeps almost the entire time she is here (she's almost 3).....sigh....
post #359 of 469
Sunshine - it's ok mama. We all forget things, like sunscreen. Besides, I'm sure she'll forget a hundred times when she's older! Like today when I slathered my son in it and I am red like a lobster! At least you didn't have it in your hands and forget! How dumb can I be??

Hope you laughed and are feeling better...
post #360 of 469
Quick sidebar question...anyone on Depo? I need to switch my BC...I can't stand the damn mini pill one moment longer and my doc gave me the choice between Depo and Mirena. I am allergic to latex (and most plastics for that matter) so I'm figuring Mirena won't work for me, but I don't want to just go with Depo until I hear from some mamas who've used it or are using it. Pros? Cons? Nursing side effects?

Thanks ladies! :
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