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The Big Turnoff by Ellen Currey-Wilson  

post #1 of 14
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You must read this book.

Really, put down the computer, go out to your local bookstore or library, and get this book. (Or don't put down the computer if you prefer to shop online.) Why are you still here? Go!



Ok, stupid jokes aside, I love this book. I saw it first a couple months ago at a local bookstore - it was being featured because it's a local author - but I didn't pick it up until I found it used yesterday, and now I'm kicking myself for waiting.

The full title is The Big Turnoff - Confessions of a TV-Addicted Mom Trying to Raise a TV-Free Kid, and it's a really great read. In the style of Erma Bombeck and Anne Lammot, it's a funny and real account about her neuroses as a parent and her struggles to uphold ideals (and her struggles with the very idea of those ideals) while living life. It covers from -6months to when her son is about 8yo. There is some swearing and sexual references, but there's also talk about cosleeping, natural birth, full-term nursing, etc. It's particularly interesting and inspiring to me as a fellow TV addict, although one who did most of her detoxing before having children. It has references to the research and reasons to go TV free, but it is primarily a story of how that played out in this woman and her son's lives.

I highly highly recommend it, especially to those of us who are not TV free but are trying to raise our children to be so.
post #2 of 14
Thanks for this title! I just put it on hold at my library.
post #3 of 14
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Check back when you've read it. I'd love to talk about it. (Although I should probably move this out to the books forum then )
post #4 of 14
I just put it on hold at my library too! I'm very tv-addicted, but I really want to go totally tv-free within the next couple of years. I don't have any children yet, but when i do I want to have a tv-free home (well, I will still have a tv for watching movies)
post #5 of 14
I finally got this from the library and finished it today. It was fantastic. I really felt for the author. I'm so glad she wrote this book. Her whole struggle to find someone else who was tv-free to connect with is exactly why we need this forum. I want to go buy this book for everyone I know with kids. Or maybe just read pertinent chapters aloud to them.

She mentions Turn off the TV week (or maybe it was TV Turn-off Week?). Maybe I should start a new thread about this, but what does everyone plan on doing, if anything, for this? She eventually becomes really involved with this at her son's school. I was wondering if anyone has plans? I teach 7th graders and I'm thinking of sending home letters or at least posting a link on my web page about it.
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I'm glad you liked it! My partner is liking it, but is also getting a bit annoyed at the writer's neuroses.

Here are a couple threads people have started about TV-Turnoff Week: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=874762 http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=875310

I think doing something with your students is a GREAT idea! Have you read Living Outside the Box by... ergh... barbara something? Barbara Brock? One of the things she talks about is doing a school-based TV-Turnoff challenge, and the fabulous results they got from it. You should check that out and see if you can get some ideas from it.
post #7 of 14
Her psychotic behavior got on my nerves too, but as parents we all have our things I guess.

My favorite part was when she says how parents think they have rules and expectations, but the tv is the ultimate authority in the home and parents invite it in. She wrote it more eloquently than me and I just returned my copy of the book, but that really stuck with me. She's right about how as parents we have the control and we don't realize how influential tv can be.

Thanks for the links. I can't believe I missed them! I love the idea of wearing a tv shirt or putting a sign on my lawn. There are lots of kids in our neighborhood that never seem to be playing on their giant trampolines or huge swingsets. I have read the Living Outside the Box book and it was really good. Lots of tips, but mostly for elementary kids. I'm wondering how middle school kids would respond? Hmmm. . . Now I'm off to add a link on my school web page!
post #8 of 14
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I'm glad you liked it! My partner is liking it, but is also getting a bit annoyed at the writer's neuroses.
Me, too, I enjoyed the book but wouldn't like to have been one of the author's friends...
post #9 of 14
lol - I just fnished. I thought it was a great book, quite funny. Made me laugh out loud a few times and my DD would ask me what was so funny. I liked it. I hope people that know we don't have a tv (I don't really try to hide it) don't think I am as neurotic as that mom though.
post #10 of 14
Thanks for the suggestion, I just checked this out of the library today! It seemed appropriate reading for Turn Off TV Week.
post #11 of 14
I just wanted to post that I realllllly enjoyed this book! Yes, the author is totally neurotic, but you can tell that she's just neurotic in general, not about TV viewing in particular, so it doesn't detract from her overall message. I loved reading about her journey as a mother, how smart her son was, the mommy politics of playgroups, preschools, etc and how she came to peace at the end with her role as an educator. She also has a website/blog and started a yahoo group on being TV-free that I joined.

This book made me take a real honest look at how much TV I watch and the reasons why. And it definitely reaffirmed my belief that children should be TV-free!
post #12 of 14
I'm really enjoying the book. Thanks for the post. We had been cutting down already. I want to go mostly tv-free next year when our cable contract expires. My husband lived for years without a tv. I find that funny because it seems that he would have the hardest time without it. Especially during football season.
post #13 of 14
I read a review of this book in Bitch Magazine that implied the book was more about "Oh, what will people say? How will I relate to folks now?" And that was just something I have no interest in reading about. Thinking like that is so far off my radar screen. I couldn't care less what people think about my not having a tv - and it certainly has no impact on my friendships.
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Originally Posted by zinemama View Post
I read a review of this book in Bitch Magazine that implied the book was more about "Oh, what will people say? How will I relate to folks now?" And that was just something I have no interest in reading about. Thinking like that is so far off my radar screen. I couldn't care less what people think about my not having a tv - and it certainly has no impact on my friendships.
It is a lot about that, it's true - it's one of her main neuroses. She simultaneously doesn't want to tell people about them being TV-free and then kind of gets upset when TV is around (like at a neighbor child's birthday party). It's just one of the issues she works through in the book.

It's not one of my issues necessarily, but I understand where her trepidation comes from. I think when we abstain from things (be it meat, dairy and eggs or TV) telling other people that you have chosen to do so can make people extremely defensive. It's the same with breastfeeding - people coming out of the woodwork telling you how they tried but couldn't do it for x, y, z reasons. Choosing against the mainstream will always make you stand out a little, whether you want to or not, and the author spent a lot of time during childhood feeling out of place, so I think for her this was especially hard.

I still think it's a worthwhile read!
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