2happymamas - I have what I believe (as yet undiagnosed by a dr) is PCOS, and my partner has it too. I have the facial hair (sideburns, primarily, they drive me NUTS), the body shape, the weird cycles, and I had horrible difficulty with nursing my son.
A friend of mine, who contributes to the breastfeeding with PCOS blog
, told me that she found in her research that upwards of 40% of lesbians have PCOS. That startled me at first but I don't know and I'm no expert. I know that my friend is having a horrible time conceiving her 2nd and is probably going to have to use clomid to stimulate those ovaries of hers.
My herbalist and I have talked a lot about PCOS - it is one of the most misunderstood syndromes out there, and it's hard to pin down, because there are so many symptoms and variations of it. Some women have it and are happy to live with it unmanaged their entire lives because it doesn't affect them adversely - like my dp, who's most bothered by the ongoing face breakouts and the weight gain. But she, unlike me, has perfect 28-day cycles.
I was going to have the testing for PCOS done at the start of my next cycle, but then i got pregnant. Mostly because I have read one study that showed that a woman who had low supply with her first child took Metformin (a common drug given for PCOS) during her 2nd pregnancy and had a normal supply for her 2nd baby. I figured if this might be my case, I ought to get a diagnosis so I could "work the box" (I think a medical diagnosis is a lot like being shoved into a box) and have the ability to explore all possibilities of having a better milk supply.
PCOS is not a death knell for getting pregnant. A lot of women who have PCOS have a LOT of children because they aren't able to ever pin down their fertile times. Of course, we have a lot of experience in doing that here, but I am sure that if you work with a doctor who is supportive of you trying to get pregnant, your chances will be good!!!