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post #161 of 464
Frog Sorry for your losses I'm glad you and turtle got to spend some quality time together baby scheming.

Simcon That is wonderful! Congratulations!
Spring is proving to be a fertile time of year all the way around. I'm getting really used to seeing a bfp here every other day. I hope we can keep it up!
post #162 of 464
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I think there are still a few of us in the TWW. Me...I'm starting to test tomorrow. 10DPO...so it's early...but what the heck, right? I've been dying to pee on something!!!
I'm still in the TWW too!

7DPO here, and studiously ignoring the interesting, way early cramping I had going on a few minutes ago......
post #163 of 464
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Well I just peed on a stick and....

!!!

So I might peep at the Dec DDC after all!! I'm cautiously ecstatic... for those new to the thread, we've been trying for #2 since June 2006. We got pg on the first try back then, mc'd 12 weeks later, have been trying almost every month since then, and this is the first + in 18 mos or so. So here's hoping for stickiness!!!

I'm going to keep it kind of quiet for a bit, but since this feels like my ttc community (though I've had trouble keeping up), I just had to share the news here!

to everyone!

Cautious but excited bouncing going on over here for you Simcon!!!
post #164 of 464

Help, please?

I was supposed to trigger last night but my ultrasound yesterday showed a follicle that was almost ready, but not quite. They told me to wait to trigger til tonight and the IUI will be on Saturday now instead of Friday. They want the follicle to be at 18 and it was 17.5 yesterday morning.

The problem? I think I am already ovulating. My temps have been very low. I am on CD13 and usually ovulate on CD14. My CM is very, very egg-whitey and stretchy. And there is a lot of it. Plus, it feels like my cervix is open a little. I am afraid that the timing will be off and I will ovulate before the IUI.

What should I do? I just left a message at the RE's office adn know it will take a few hours to hear back. Please help....I am getting nervous. Can you tell?
post #165 of 464
simcon ...

I'm unabashedly and zealously casting megawatts of sticky happy baby dust your way. I'm located in BC, so if you stand facing me and fling your arms up in the air and give a big glorious holler, I'll aim my fairygodmother goodness right at your baby-blooming-belly!

post #166 of 464
and our update on the Frozen Totsicle Front ...

We had our mandatory counselling session (require for all donation situations here in Canada, from sperm to zygote, et al):

I love a good, professional therapist who doesn't blink an eye at the details ... dyke couple, in which one woman carried the other woman's eggs (avec anonymous sperm donor) and they have two babies ... giving their remaining Froze Embryos, whole heartedly and generously freely (no money allowed to be involved here in Canada) to another dyke couple ...

Now we make our appointment at the fertility clinic for the next step ... the implant!
post #167 of 464
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Now we make our appointment at the fertility clinic for the next step ... the implant!
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post #168 of 464
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Astraphell...looks like you and I are pretty close this month! Yay...someone to obsess with!!! You know...on 7DPO...I had this horrible cramp that lasted probably about a minute...then just kind of dull achey cramps off and on since then. Also...that day I had a huge amount of creamy CM...like tons. Hmmmm...

2HM...I just did my first medicated cycle with a trigger this month...and I too was very close at my scan...but not quite. My RE wanted me to keep checking for my surge to make sure I wasn't O'ing early on my own. Have you done an OPK?
post #169 of 464

this process sucks

So it looks like I will be on the queer and ttc ride a little longer.

We had another blood test yesterday and my hcg levels are falling. They said it was a biochemical pregnancy and that my levels would continue to fall. I have to go back next week for another blood test to see if they have fallen below 5. After that my period should come back.

We were really excited and now really sad, what an emotional week this has been. Is it strange to say that we were really cautious in what we felt as it didn't seem real. We are sad, but are we super surprised...no. I am not sure we ever though it would happen. After 5 months of doctor assisted tries we were starting to get discouraged. I know that there are couples that try for a lot longer than that, but for us it is costing like $1500 - $3000 per try and we are trying not to go into debt. There is only so much extra work you can do before it breaks you down also.

This whole process is so emotional. I think the prospects of starting this whole thing over are more upsetting. I dread all of the tests and shots and money for fertility drugs. But, my relationship with my wife has never been better and yesterday I saw what this whole thing means to her and how much she wants a child also. So together we will move forward.
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post #171 of 464
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2HM...I just did my first medicated cycle with a trigger this month...and I too was very close at my scan...but not quite. My RE wanted me to keep checking for my surge to make sure I wasn't O'ing early on my own. Have you done an OPK?
I just did and it is so, so close to being positive. Not an expert, of course, but I would say it was 90% there.

The RE's nurse called and said they can do a couple things. 1) Come in for IUI this afternoon 2) trigger tonight and do the IUI tomorrow morning 3) trigger tonight and IUI Saturday monning as planned.

She also said they could do an ultrasound to see if I ovulated when I come in...whatever day that is.

Please, what would you all do? I am trying so hard not to stress, but it is the day that my monthly reports are due. I only have a few hours to get them done and turned in....and I have an appointment this evening to supervise a visit for a family whose granddaughter is in foster care! Ah!
post #172 of 464
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I just did and it is so, so close to being positive. Not an expert, of course, but I would say it was 90% there.

The RE's nurse called and said they can do a couple things. 1) Come in for IUI this afternoon 2) trigger tonight and do the IUI tomorrow morning 3) trigger tonight and IUI Saturday monning as planned.

She also said they could do an ultrasound to see if I ovulated when I come in...whatever day that is.

Please, what would you all do? I am trying so hard not to stress, but it is the day that my monthly reports are due. I only have a few hours to get them done and turned in....and I have an appointment this evening to supervise a visit for a family whose granddaughter is in foster care! Ah!
Well, normally you'd have at least 24 hours between a positive OPK and your actual ovulation. Do you know how long you usually take in the past?

Also, was this the first OPK, or have you been testing all along?

I would think that doing the IUI tomorrow morning wouldn't be too late. But then, it's your body and you know it better than I do.
post #173 of 464
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Well, normally you'd have at least 24 hours between a positive OPK and your actual ovulation. Do you know how long you usually take in the past?

Also, was this the first OPK, or have you been testing all along?

I would think that doing the IUI tomorrow morning wouldn't be too late. But then, it's your body and you know it better than I do.
This was the first OPK. If I choose to do the insemination in the morning, do you think I should still do the trigger tonight? Or skip it?

I thought having a medicated cycle was supposed to take all of the timing stress out of the equation.
post #174 of 464
Thread Starter 
I'm not sure the trigger would hurt...if you're gonna O earlier...you just are. It shouldn't stop it or screw with it I wouldn't think. Personally...I'd do another OPK this afternoon...if it's closer to positive...then I'd go in tomorrow. If it's still not 100% by then...then I'd probably wait till Saturday. But, I guess it depends on how quickly you O after your surge. I'm about 24hrs...so that would work for me...but you might be different. GL though.

Travelgirlz...so so sorry to hear your news. But, I'm glad you and DW are finding some extra support and love from one another in all this.
post #175 of 464
2hm, here's how we do it and how my RE advised us to do. I test with OPK's every morning at the same time.

If I get a positive OPK: I trigger right then (to boosted O and growth) and do the IUI the next day (24 hours after the +OPK).

If no +OPK then I trigger when scheduled and IUI 36 hrs later.

Of course, I haven't gotten knocked up yet, but I'm thinking our timing has always been good going that way.
post #176 of 464
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This was the first OPK. If I choose to do the insemination in the morning, do you think I should still do the trigger tonight? Or skip it?

I thought having a medicated cycle was supposed to take all of the timing stress out of the equation.
I totally hear you! My doc did a trigger my last cycle, and I came in the next morning and I'd already Oed! They told me I was supposed to O 36 hours post trigger, so trigger Thursday morning, insem on Friday and Saturday, hopefully Oing Friday night, right between the two insems.

The last time I triggered, I came in the next morning having Oed the night before, so we did just the one insem.

It can still work then - the odds aren't as good as one before and one after O, but the second insem isn't for nothing.

It's so frustrating when the perfect timing doesn't happen. Do you have the option of triggering tonight, insemming Friday and Saturday?

How 'bout going in Friday, see if you've ovulated by U/S, if so, insem then, and if not, see how close you are and then decide whether or not to wait for Saturday?

(Not foolproof - my doc was looking for asymmetry in the follicle, and said I was huge - 22 mm or something, they trigger at 20 mm - but that I would never O because it wasn't asymmetrical, but then I did, twelve or so hours later.)

I'm sorry it's stressful, doing two insems may not be that much more effective (though my doc claimed it was) but it definitely takes some of the stress off.

GOOD LUCK and I hope you hear back from your RE soon!
post #177 of 464
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Well I just peed on a stick and....

!!!
Wowee! Congrats to you!

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The upside in all of this is that turtle and I had some long hours in the car and spent some of that time talking about our hopes to parent and we have agreed to a course of action, so that's good.
I love long car rides for talks with my DP. It seems like when we're home, there's always something else we need to be doing. The frequent car trips we make from Ontario to Quebec (about 9 hours each way) are great for catching up.

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So it looks like I will be on the queer and ttc ride a little longer.
So, so sorry.
post #178 of 464
Travelgirlz, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. This process takes such a toll on you especially when you feel like your constantly getting poked and jabbed with something! BTDT! We've been at it a while also and I've found taking breaks every 3-4 months helps me out, emotionally. I've also read some "coping with infertility" books and that's also given me some support and skills for dealing with the process. Also I've joined a RESOLVE group in my town. You can check their website for your area. I've done a pretty good job of putting in place a support system and developed some coping skills that have really helped me get through this month after month. Of course these aren't for everyone I just wanted to mention them. You do what you feel is right for you and your DP. We'll of course always be here to listen to you, to support you, to chat with you, to stress with you, to analyze with you, and to hopefully make you laugh a little also. Take care of yourself
post #179 of 464
Travelgirlz, I'm sorry about what you are going though.

I'm currently recovering from that exact same thing. Only difference is I didn't find out I had been pregnant until after I started bleeding. (I hate POASing and refuse to do it until I'm a week late.) There is a bittersweet feel to it. You have the knowledge that you did get pregnant, however briefly, but the sadness that comes from it not continuing. This was our 10th try and our first confirmed pregnancy. Strangely, it gave us more hope than sadness.

Take good care of yourself. Hopefully this is just a dress rehearsal to the live show that will open really soon!
post #180 of 464
to Travergirlz

I can't say I know how you feel because I haven't been there, but I know that one of my greatest fears about this whole thing is having the excitement of that first BFP being followed by the devastation of a miscarriage.

Hang in there.....
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