I think I'll have to scream at the next person who makes a comment!

[GardenStream]

Why do people think it's OK to make predictions on MY due date???

I've had two people this week tell me that there in no way I'm going to be having a baby in 8 days because I'm not big enough. I don't care how big you, your sister-in-law, friend, or whoever was. I am not any of those people! If you are going to say something stupid, just keep your mouth shut!

Also, (this is to my friends and family) quit telling me when to have the baby. I'm sure Friday and Saturday work well for you, but telling me what works best for your schedule doesn't help. I've tried having a talk with the baby, but he doesn't seem to care about our schedules.

OK, rant over

[tinyshoes]

well, I'm not sure about when your baby will be born, but from the way you're carrying, it looks like a girl.

People can be dumb, and they just can't resist. (And they work at the bakery where I buy my bread, so they share their maternal opinions with me 2x a week.)

[johnsmom]

I hear you. My MIL is disappointed that I didn't have the baby yesterday because it was her birthday. My mom is pulling for the 6th because it is my grandfather's birthday. She's mentioned it a dozen times in the last week, like there is actually something I can do to make sure it's born when it works for her.
I'm sick of people commenting on whether I've "dropped" or not. I hate leaving the house because one person will say "Oh, it's looking low, that baby has dropped" which to my ears is "wow, your belly is huge, It's hanging out the bottom of your shirt" The next person will say "doesnt' look like baby's dropped yet, still nice and high" which I hear as "wow, you're not having that baby anytime soon"

[spookymama]

I am sorry mama!

For some reason there is a number of people out there who feel like being near someone who's expecting has upped their psychic ability, and it has made them an expert on pregnancy.

"You are going to go any day now!"
"There is no way you are going to last ___ many days"

"Wow, you've gained a lot of weight!"

"Wow , you are big! Are you sure it's not twins?"

I dont think the majority of these are ill intended. Just that people want to share in the pregnancy, don't realize the right thing to say.. so it comes to whatever comes to mind.

[snugglebutter]

I've decided that I really like being pregnant, I just don't like people when I'm pregnant. My biggest annoyance is when people project emotions/feelings on me that I'm not having! My MIL announced at Easter that I am feeling "ready" for the birth - um no, not 6 weeks before my due date! :

My classic favorite is a phone conversation I had with a SIL about 6 weeks before my first was due.....

SIL: How are you feeling?
Me: I'm feeling really well actually!
SIL: Oh hang in there, you'll be done soon. I know it's not easy, I've been there.
Me: Ok......

[amaayeh]

I'm right there with you! My mom actually took pictures of me the other day and sent them to everyone she knew asking if they thought I would make it to my due date. Um, did I ask or care what these people think?? And she says all the time how HUGE I am. Geez, way to make me feel good.

My other favorite is that I'm having a boy because I'm carrying all out front and low. Really?? Those three lines on the u/s sure looked like a girl to me!

I agree that pregnancy isn't bad, just the people around us!

[elleystar]

I'm not looking forward to going in to work today, partially because every single one of the couple hundred customers I'll wait on will have a comment. I actually don't mind it mostly, and find it really sweet that a lot of them are paying attention...but after a while, come on!

Originally Posted by amaayeh

I'm right there with you! My mom actually took pictures of me the other day and sent them to everyone she knew asking if they thought I would make it to my due date. Um, did I ask or care what these people think?? And she says all the time how HUGE I am. Geez, way to make me feel good.

My other favorite is that I'm having a boy because I'm carrying all out front and low. Really?? Those three lines on the u/s sure looked like a girl to me!

I agree that pregnancy isn't bad, just the people around us!

HAHA those three lines sure looked like a girl to me too. Till the 36 wk ultrasound that showed a nice big set of testicles. Sigh...LMAO!

[amaayeh]

Originally Posted by elleystar

HAHA those three lines sure looked like a girl to me too. Till the 36 wk ultrasound that showed a nice big set of testicles. Sigh...LMAO!

I know. Your story has actually scared me into thinking maybe it was wrong. I sure hope not because all of my beautiful new cloth dipes are PINK!!!!!

[Ironica]

I've been lucky, I guess. I know I'm a lot smaller this time around than I was with my son... and my friends at work (who have been pregnant ladies before) say "Wow, you look good!" People tell me I seem to have more energy and get around better than they'd expect for how far along I am. Way, way fewer people have tried to guess the gender this time too. ;-)

The one person who said something about being big enough to have two in there... uh, is a gay man ;-) though between his sisters and niece he's been around pregnant women a LOT, so you'd think he'd know. (Hm, all told, they account for... 10 pregnancies? But half of that is the niece!)

[Grivas]

Originally Posted by snugglebutter

SIL: How are you feeling?
Me: I'm feeling really well actually!
SIL: Oh hang in there, you'll be done soon. I know it's not easy, I've been there.
Me: Ok......

I love that! It sounds like so many conversations I've had with colleagues and relatives. My husband's assistant (5 months pg, herself) was at my baby shower and said "I bet you can't wait for this to be over". She's miserable already, but I'm 37 weeks and feel great. It's like my body is a science experiment, yeah, but I have been (and plan to continue) enjoying this time as much as possible. I'll never get to do this for the first time, again.

Oh, and the people who say "are you sure you're not having twins?!" - unfortunately, I can never speak to them, again. They are dead to me.

[pixiepunk]

Oh, and the people who say "are you sure you're not having twins?!" - unfortunately, I can never speak to them, again. They are dead to me.

oh, man, that cracked me up.

for some reason i am really taking all the stupid comments in stride much better this time around. i guess because i've heard them all so many times already i just don't care anymore.

people are just stupid, they don't know what to say, but for some reason are compelled beyond reason to say *something* - so they pull some stock comment out of their rump.

[chely7425]

I get the "you are too small to be having a baby anytime soon... you still have a waist!!" comments all the freaking time!! Then I want to slap them... or the people who call me or I call them and are like "did you have the baby" and when I say no they are like "ok, gotta go now!!" Apparently I am no longer interesting..

[rubyeta]

My friend called the other day and said "just wondering if you are having any pains, say... every 5 minutes or so??" I was so mad, especially because she was the 4th person to call "just to check in" that day.

[Incubator]

Oh great. A chance to rant some more.
Oddly enough, when it comes to predicting the gender, the strangers are the most polite. They all say, "oh it's so exciting to have a surprise!"
What gets me about my relatives is they're all absolutely 100% positive about what I'm having. SO I tell them all I wish there was a third gender I could have and then they'd all be wrong!

Better yet, is my dad, everytime he sees me he asks me if I've had the twins yet. He wasn't even with my mom when she was pregnant with me, so he doesn't have experience with pregnancy AT ALL! I finally told him if he insisted on saying that that when they came out I was going to send one to him. That got him to shut up. He then said no more kids for him, EVER! I told him it was nice to know I taught him his lesson so easily (I'm his only kid, lol, and I only lived with him for three months in my entire life.)

I love how everyone expects to be the first to get called when the baby is born. "Oh but I'm the <grandma, uncle, cousin, far-off- distant-relative- who-is-never- interested-in-you- until-you're- expecting-a-baby> So I get called first!" Now they've all got me all pissed off so I don't hesitate to tell them I can't call everyone first, and if they think they deserve to be called first then I just won't call them at all. I also don't hesitate to tell them how much I hate spending a minimum of 1 hour on the phone every day informing people who call that no I have not "had that baby yet" and I don't want to waste ever more increasing time repeating this when I might not even "have that baby" for another five weeks!

I'm not just a @#$%^ incubator! Why can't you just call about the weather?!


ETA: Yes, yes, that last part was VEEEEEERY funny. I know. Where do you think the name came from?

[GISDiva]

I too have a hard time convincing people I actually feel well and am not swelled up and am not in any big hurry to "get the thing out" as they put it...

[Grivas]

yeah, why do people want us to hate being pregnant? This whole time, whenever people ask how I'm doing and I telll them (Great, thanks! No complaints), they seem disappointed... I feel like I either need to apologize for not having a problem pregnancy that they can talk about, or that I should make something up!