First of all, I am sooo sorry! I can't imagine.
Here are some articles from LLL on bfing and the law and legal issues:http://www.llli.org/Law/LawUS.html?m=0,1,0
Scroll down here and there are some articles on divorce and APhttp://www.attachmentparenting.org/p...fessionals.php
I would contact API HQ (Attachment Parenting International). Aprise them of your situation and they can put out a call for an AP friendly lawyer in your area or other support for you. It happens frequently.
You could also contact Jan Hunt at The Natural Child Project. She's a counselor and AP advocate. She might be able to help with some testimony/information on your child's mental health as it regards to nursing and co-sleeping. Jan responds to emails, as I understand.
You might, also, email Peggy O'Mara (of this website and Mothering magazine) and no harm in contacting Dr. Sears, either. Most of these folks sit on API's Board of Directors, but asking for help and advice never hurts. You never know who can come through for you!
Finally, I might try to get court transcripts of the judge's remarks and talk with your lawyer about the appropriateness of them. Who knows? I might work in your favor. It might be nothing. But it doesn't hurt to exhaust all options.
Best of luck and please keep us posted!