Do I really WANT this baby??

[Telle Bear]

Help!!! I am having a really emotional day..I am due on sun, but have a c-section set up for Tues...
We have no name...
I feel like I have NO ATTACHMENT to this baby at all..
My husband and I just got into a HUGE yelling fight about where our 2 year old son will go when I go to the hospital (which of course makes me resent having this baby at all)
We even talked about placing this baby..


Have I lost my mind??

[~ATenthMuse~]

No. It's completely normal.

I can't think too much about having an actual new baby in the mix here or I start to freak. I feel like such a traitor towards my five year old dd. I know from experience that that feeling goes away, but right now, it's just overwhelming.

[ChristyH]

s It is completely normal. I felt the same way when I had my 2nd, I was and am so attached to my first and I had such a hard time thinking I could want or love a new baby as much as her but that all goes away it really does. And even if you don't attach right away after birth that is normal too, it will come.

s be easy on yourself

[*Aimee*]

I had absolutely no attachment to DS in the womb and now he's my best friend ever! I was never one of those people that bonded and sang songs to their belly.

I also understand the stress of what to do with DS It has caused me more stress than anything in my whole life to think about being away from him. I've never even left him with a relative or sitter so this is killing me. And we don't have a name either. Its hard to concentrate on all that stuff when you're chasing a 2 yr old!

You'll love this baby SO much Mama, and DS will be so stoked to have a sibling it'll all be worth it

[3for3hb]

if you remember I had a hard time dealing with accepting this pregnancy in the beginning (I wanted the baby, I just didn't want the pregnancy and pospartum/adjustment that goes along with all that).
I had some of the same thoughts while I was pg as you are having now. DH and I got in some arguments too. And we didn't name him until he was a week old (but apparently that is normal for us).

You may not feel any attachment to the LO inside you but it will come, if not immediately afterbirth then sometime during your babymoon. Try and take it easy on yourself. It will all eventually work out!

[spookymama]

As others have said, it's perfectly normal!

I had no attachment to my first either.. I was so worried that I wouldn't love him when he came out, that I would have no feeling what so ever. The minute I saw him, that all went away.. having to spend two hours away from him was complete torture. Once they gave him to him, the nurses had a heck of a time prying him away.

Seems like there is a part of our brains that tries really hard to rationalize things. Sometimes we don't bond as close, because we are afraid of losing our children. Or we feel more emotion that it will be betraying our other offspring. If we already love someone so much, how can we love anyone else?

The human heart as relisant as it is, is also much bigger then we give ourselves credit for.

When we lose our first love, we feel that we will never love again. But we can, and we do. With love all things become possible.

No worries about a name! You have I think its up to a few weeks to choose a name? At least this way you are picking a name tht fits your child.. rather than choosing one for the sake of choosing one!

You are going to do great mama!