Well, Terran's five months old now.
Since we never even started buying toys and pushing him to "play" with them , it feels very natural to me to just keep on living and I am quite jarred by seeing pictures of other kids his age surrounded by brightly coloured plastic. I'm even more annoyed by mainstream web pages about child development where every other word seems to be "toy" and found a very resonant article at the natural child project
(scroll down to where he talks about consumerism) that describes my own experiences, as a downwardly mobile adult with an upper-middle class whitebread suburban background.
I mentioned upthread how gentle my son's hands are compared to other kids his age. I have seen this intensifying over the past month as he gains fine motor control. His favourite game now is to gaze lovingly into my eyes, put one hand gently on either side of my face, and bring it towards him for a "big wet sloppy baby kiss". He will do this spontaneously and also (usually) when I ask him, "Can I please have a big wet sloppy baby kiss?"
I still find myself ridiculed or misunderstood whenever I bring toy-freeness up or brag about him irl and I still find myself having difficulty keeping my mouth shut about how successful my "little experiment" is going so far. Since I do work outside the home, it is SO NICE not to have to spend time away from my baby while I pick up his toys, shop for toys, etc.
I'm still wondering how I'm going to react the first time somebody shoves a piece of plastic or cheap polyester fur in his face and starts squealing "Look at the BUNNY! The BUNNY wants you to play with it! LOVE the bunny! HUG the bunny! HUG the bunny!"
Will I reframe and rename the situation? Will I use words like "pillow", "Polyester", and "foam rubber" to describe stuffed animals? Will I change the focus to the positive intent of the person, i.e. "Susan seems really excited about that pillow. She must really like you to want to share her pillow with you. Do you think she would like a big wet sloppy baby kiss?"
Will I say something offensive and "weird" or will I cave and find myself buying a power rangers action figure every week again to keep another seven year old from throwing another tantrum in another store?
Will I tell the dentist ahead of time that we don't do toys so Terran won't be needing his "goodie bag" after his cleaning? If I'm open about this (or if we get caught) will CPS be called? If so, how will they react?
How can something so simple as not buying a consumer product be so revolutionary?