Wow, every time I start to feel just a little bit sorry for myself for never having found a supportive dh, you married folks cheer me right up again with the truth! The grass really isn't greener, it's just different grass.
Anyway, Terran is seven months old today so I guess this is as good a time as any for an update. He is still 100% toy free!
I'm not sure how much I should advertise that fact, because I cringe whenever I read a sensationalized abused-child-rescued-by-cps story that mentions the poor thing not even knowing how to hold a teddy bear or the neglectful parent locking the child in a closet without any toys at all.
However, I'm doing a bit of catch-up reading about pthalates and bpas (not an issue before since Terran doesn't use bottles either and really doesn't have any plastics in his mouth) and am simultaneously horrified and relieved that toy safety has been a nonissue.
He's growing up and becoming more aware of the world around him, but is still very people-oriented and i get a lot of positive comments about it. There have been a couple of incidents where I was embarassed: a coworker who was busy/ignoring him was treated to a very loud "HEY YOU!!!!!" that was intelligible to the whole room and there have been a few times in the grocery store when he has picked out a person he wanted to "talk" to and been a bit pushier about it than what I consider "normal".
Considering that our society thinks nothing about people my age or older walking up to strange babies and expecting them to be thrilled to interact with them, I don't think my son's behaviour is "rude" or something to be discouraged or distracted away with "Looik at the BUNNY! Hug the BUNNY love the BUNNY!" or jangling my car keys at him.
I have made an effort to stop saying "Hey you." to him quite as much and have identified my coworker as "Kaitlin. Her name is Kaitlin. Kaitlin is an easy word to say. Pretty soon y0ou'll be able to say Kaitlin." but that's another story for another thread; I already have support for precocious verbal development elsewhere.
Terran has cut two teeth with no meds other than an amber necklace and no plastic teething rings. I'm proud of our accomplishment! It has occured to me to wonder why we see teething rings as "toys" and therefore precursors to mountains of stuffed animals, x-boxes, and yachts instead of hygeine tools that are precursors to toothbrushes, dental floss, and braces, of course.
Another poster has mentioned rattles as musical instruments, and although we are no longer a musical family (I haven't performed since damaging my vocal cords in 2000 and the older kids don't play anything any more, although dd is a dancer) I would like to dust off my guitar when Terran can sing lead and provide him with whatever tools he needs for musical exploration--but no frustrating "toys" that can't stay in tune!
I'm thinking about a kalimba (african thumb piano) as a possible first instrument but a recorder might be a good choice as well, since they are inexpensive and safe.
I also had the opportunity to turn down the gift of a stuffed animal for the first time and I think I did okay. I do need more practice and next time I will give one reason instead of three or no reason at all, just "How very sweet of you, but I thin we'll pass this time."
I have some upcoming challenges in the next month and it's great to have this thread for support and even better that it has taken on a life of its own and doesn't need me to monopolize it.