What the hell is going on in seventh grade??? Not that there's a problem with your daughter knowing anything about ending a pregnancy or even having a stance on it, but why is it even an issue in 7th grade? Why would her stance even be known to the other kids?
Birth control? Pot? I remember seventh grade. It was 13 years ago, but I remember. It wasn't like this.
My daughter knows about those things because she is a curious child. I made a promise to her that if she asked a question, I would do my best to answer it as accurately and truthfully as possible and only stick to only answering that particular question. That promise was made when she was quite young, four or so. If she wanted more info or had follow up questions, all she had to do was ask and I would keep answering. She was warned that some of the answers were either sad or gross or whatever. If she still wanted the answer, then she got it. The older she got, the more complex the questions. Not a big deal.
I can't remember for sure, but I think she first heard about pp because she asked about one that we drive by on almost a daily basis. At her age (14 years and eighth grade btw), I can't see how it would be an issue knowing about the more complicated consequences to sex.
Her stance is known because she and her friends challenge each other on their beliefs. They debate things back and forth. It is not part of any regular school lesson if that is what you're thinking. Kids talk, that's all.
I'm farther out from 7th grade than you and went to a christian one at that but still knew kids doing drugs, drinking and having sex. I wonder how you missed it- not being snarky, just amazed.
from the op
|I am a little curious how you would go about limiting this frienship. I do not let them go out together, like to the mall, or things like that (actually, I don't let her go to the mall with anyone, not just this girl...I see no point in it) I suppose i could forbid phone contact, and not let this girl come over to our house, but they would see each other at school anyway every day. I'm not sure how I could do that, in a practical way.|
Don't try to break a bond- try to get your dd building more bonds in areas that she likes. I think we all have a friend or two (or more!) that is like your dd's friend. The trick is to be humane but still not limit friendships to only people in such need.