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post #21 of 42
glad everything is okay!
post #22 of 42
WOW!

Thanks for updating!

Sorry you got a bunch of scare tactics while you were there. But, goodness, it sounds like the information you needed to make the best choice for you & babe!

Sending easy labor vibes for when the time is for the highest good!
post #23 of 42
Fabulous news! I'm glad you followed your gut and everything is back on track. Maybe the relief will tell your body it's time.
post #24 of 42
I'm glad that everything is okay. My heart, my hope, and my prayers are with you mama. May you have the gentle birth and wonderful experience that you long for in your heart.
post #25 of 42
Thinking of you and baby...
post #26 of 42
Sounds like they were "jumping the gun" a bit at the hospital with the induction talk, but it must have felt good to confirm that the baby is in fine shape.
post #27 of 42
Thread Starter 
Thank you everyone for the positive response. It makes me feel extremely better!

I can't believe it either, and neither can my DH.

I think what bothers me most about the situation is that they told me what was going to happen. I was not apart of my care there at all. They were making decisions for me based on what they wanted, but not what was best for us. Possible hyper tention (Blood pressure came down, but I was high stressed. What do you expect when you are worried out of your mind?), possible ability to develop Pre-e (no protien, no swelling..etc) , gestation age of.. ahem, 40 weeks.
The best part is when the attending told me that I would have a valid argument against induction if I wasn't at term. But when I brought up the reasons not to, they really could not refute it.

I guess it's not valid that I am VBAC, my risk of rupture goes up with induction OR with repeat surgery (which she said was no big deal..) so if either of those things need to be done, there needs to be a solid case for them.

The other thing is in the induction would not have been medically needed. Yes, the babies heart rate stayed the same on the strip when I was flat on my back without food or drink.. but is that not normal for a sleeping baby? Also my score of 6 on the BPP was borderline, it was not under 6. Baby was moving, fluid level was okay (over 11).. etc.

The only thing is he said I am measuring 38 weeks by ultrasound which is small. I am sure of my dates since we were charting and we are at least 40. I am guessing that they still can be off at this point, even though he wasn't and wasn't looking for the babies weight.

Either way, this baby wasn't ready to come out. After my bout with castor oil (which did nothing much!), and my low bishop score, I really doubt the induction would have worked anyway. Baby is in position, but not engaged. Minus 3-4 station. Cervix is dilated, but not effaced and high. They wanted to stretch me to 4 (I am 2-3) with a foley and use Pit. Mh.

There is apart of me that they did get to. That wonders if I should not have just agreed. I HATE that.

I really wish that they would have talked to me. To share their *evidence* based practices. Then again, what did I expect from them really?
post #28 of 42
Sounds like you did a good job! You stayed strong, and listened to your intuition regarding the baby. I'm glad that you also got the outcome that you wanted also! These "professionals" aren't used to being told no. ALl they hear is "OK, Sure" and "make the pain go away" when a pregnant lady tells them no they of course freak out. Cheers to making the hospital staff nervous!
post #29 of 42
I am so glad things are well.
post #30 of 42
You were measuring 38 weeks by ultrasound???

HA!

That's ridiculous. Healthy babies can be anywhere from about 5 to 12 pounds or so at term. What on earth makes this doctor think there's a real measurable difference between 38 and 40 weeks??? Unless you've been having serial ultrasounds that demonstrate a clear cessation of growth (and even that would be suspect as ultrasound is more and more unreliable for these measurements as baby gets bigger) there's no way that this means anything.

It is almost as ridiculous as saying, "You're 30 years old, but you're weighing in as a 25 year old."
post #31 of 42
I'm so glad to hear things are ok. I am sorry that they tried what they could to scare you. It really would be nice to know that doctors are there for their patients and not the other way around...
post #32 of 42
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by momileigh View Post
You were measuring 38 weeks by ultrasound???

HA!

That's ridiculous. Healthy babies can be anywhere from about 5 to 12 pounds or so at term. What on earth makes this doctor think there's a real measurable difference between 38 and 40 weeks??? Unless you've been having serial ultrasounds that demonstrate a clear cessation of growth (and even that would be suspect as ultrasound is more and more unreliable for these measurements as baby gets bigger) there's no way that this means anything.

It is almost as ridiculous as saying, "You're 30 years old, but you're weighing in as a 25 year old."
He didn't even get the weight of the baby. Which was a shocker, but I was sure I was going to get the.. "OMG! Baby is HUGE!" card. I am guessing the attending was going to kick his butt for that later.

I've had a couple of ultrasounds. One at the beginning to rule out an etopic, and one to confirm placenta placement. I was measuring right on my dates.
So in part, it does kind of make me go *herm?*that I would be measuring on my dates, then behind my dates. But as we all know ultrasounds can be less accurate the more they go on. Not sure how that applies to measurement .

Fluid is good. Everything else is good, so.. yeah.

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Originally Posted by kalisage View Post
I'm so glad to hear things are ok. I am sorry that they tried what they could to scare you. It really would be nice to know that doctors are there for their patients and not the other way around...
Thank you.

This is what I was explaining to my husband.. I guess they are so used to being the authority and having people do as they wish, they stopped explaining things and use fear instead.

I really wish I could have had a conversation with the attending that went like.. "well, because we didn't see the baby breath in the BBP, we are concerned about this. Though your placenta does not showing aging, we feel this could be indicative of X. These are the kind of risks that we see.. blah blah"

The best part is, if they were so worried about the baby.. I offered to come back the next day for another BPP. To set up an appointment at their clinic. Right after I decide to leave AMA, they could care less. They never gave me the number to the clinic that they promised. Nice, huh?
post #33 of 42
crazy.

i'm glad you're doing well and feeling good!
post #34 of 42
Best wishes on your coming baby! I am so glad you were able to walk out of the hospital with the reassurance you needed.

If you are within 3 hours of Southern Utah I would be happy to help you out, I have been a doula and u/c coach for 2 years. My most recent birth I helped with was via telephone. I always wanted to be a midwife but after many years of learning about birth and even attending the Utah School of Midwifery for a year I have decided that I am not the one to catch any baby other than my own. I then started offering my services as a doula and u/c coach. Seeing parents take responsibility for their birth and being the first to touch their sweet babe is so beautiful. I mainly am there to support the father and make sure any other children are supported, make food and clean up.

Best wishes!
Sarah
post #35 of 42
Good for you! I'm glad to see that you stuck to your guns and didn't let them talk you into it! Do what you gotta do - baby will come when it's ready! Good luck!
post #36 of 42
I'm impressed with the way you stood up to the hospital workers and for the level of responsibility you are taking. You know your stuff, have done your homework and the hospital staff aren't used to that, and don't like it. I think you can be confident that you are making wise decisions for your baby. I hope to check back in here soon and found out everything went beautifully and you have a amazing new life in your arms!
post #37 of 42
What Jenne said. I have had the same experience soooo many times. Doctors, nurses, they really dont like it when a patient questions them at all. They are so used to complient, happy, even thankful patients that when they get one who isnt so easy to deal with, they freak.
post #38 of 42
What Jenne said. I have had the same experience soooo many times. Doctors, nurses, they really dont like it when a patient questions them at all. They are so used to complient, happy, even thankful patients that when they get one who isnt so easy to deal with, they freak.
post #39 of 42
You definetly did the right thing. I'm glad you chose to go home - you're ptobably right about the induction if castor oil did nothing.

Glad that everything is okay - stay strong mama!
post #40 of 42
(((big hugs)))

I'm so sorry they tried to scare you, but happy to hear you are back at home again.

My HBAC baby (DD1) came to us at 41weeks 6days. I was in a near panic at the end since my homebirth midwife continued to remind she wouldn't attend past 42 weeks. :

But I was confident that the baby knew when it was right to be born!

It's hard when you're getting pressure from others, but listen to your body and your baby. Try to get calm and chat with the baby. Let her/him know that you're ready and trust that he/she will come when the time is right.

So rarely do they need any help in coming to us!
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