Originally Posted by Oriole
*** You don't approve of him, but allowing your daughter to see him, that shows me you allow your daughter to make her own choices and mistakes.
*** I'd say no to the trip, and explain why calmly and respectfully.
*** I find it ironic that people that call for you to respect your daughter's decision don't show the same in their replies here.
*** Yeah, I'm all for discussion, I'm all for understanding, and guess what, when my DSD (who is 15) gets cranky when she hears "no", she admits later on that she understands why she got told "no" later on. So Yeah... I'm with "parents have a final say" camp, as long as it's based on love and reason.
*** Throw your tomatoes my way, teenagers act impulsively, and I'm ok with parents stepping in, as long as it's not all the time, and you do allow your kids to grow and mature, which includes dealing with "no"s and not sticking around boyfriends who have no problem leaving you behind for a beach trip.
A big :YEAHTHAT to all of the above.
I say this not as a mom of teenager ('cause mine is just 2), but as someone whose teenage life is still fresh in her mind. I can remember my parents drawing a line sometimes, and as much as I resisted, I always knew they were right, eventually.
And, oh, man, the arguing from Boyfriend would have driven me over the edge
. No means no, dude, whether it comes from Mama or Girlfriend.