Originally Posted by Alkenny
I'll be the odd one out here and say that I'd probably let my DD go if she didn't have anything else going on.
If they're going to have sex or do drugs, they'll do it anywhere. They don't need 125 miles between you to do it. And accidents can happen anywhere too...whether it's 125 miles away or down on the corner.
The reason I wouldn't though? She has a prior commitment. That is reason enough to say no.
I pretty much agree with this post, except saying no because of her prior commitment. I say it's her choice whether or not she "blows off" other plans, she's old enough to know what the right thing to do is.
When I was 16 my mom let me go 3 hours up to Bellingham from where we lived in Federal Way with my boyfriend, on two different occasions. SO MUCH could have happened and I'm probably super lucky it didn't, because he was the WORST kind of guy you can imagine. Did every drug out there, lied about everything, drank, cheated, etc etc etc. At the time, we were semi aware but he was GOOD at what he did, and we were convinced he was "changed."
In any case, my mom was pretty lenient about what she let me do, and I was for the most part a smart girl. I never got into serious trouble, I had no help with homework and I did great in school, I had no serious attitude problems, and with the exception of one girl my mom just didn't like I always picked good friends. (That girl she didn't like was only because I got into trouble with her once when we rode our bikes super far ((for 12 year olds on bikes anyway)) and I fell off and my mom had to drive out to come get us.. )
The point is, my mom trusted me. It didn't matter if she didn't trust who I was with because her trust and faith in *me* was greater. She knew I could hold my own should I need to and she knew that our relationship was something to cherish. I think that if you have that kind of relationship with your daughter you can look past her "yuck" boyfriend and let her go, since the boyfriend (and not having prior plans) seems to be your biggest roadblock. Like Alkenny said, if something is going to happen, it will no matter who what where when or why. Hope I helped at all!