You can do this, sweetie. Enjoy that valerian tea and listen up.
1. GET BOXES. Grocery and big-box stores have loads of them. Go in before 10am, and ask several floor personnel for boxes. You'll have your choice of hundreds if you ask Wal Mart!
2. FOR NOW, STOP WORRYING ABOUT DEEP CLEANING. It is much, much easier to simply to the heavy cleaning AFTER the house is empty. Moving makes a big mess, and you don't want to do it all twice, do you? No. So just keep your house as you normally do, until after moving day.
3. SMALL STUFF PACKS FIRST. Knicknacks, books, and any other items you won't need right away. Pack them into boxes. To save on paper, rather than packing your fragile goodies in newspaper, use clean towels, off-season clothes, extra sheets, etc.
4. START A STACK OF PACKED BOXES (all labeled of course) in an out of the way place, such as a spare bedroom or the garage. Getting the "full" boxes out of the way gives you room to keep packing more!
5. WHITTLE DOWN TO ESSENTIALS. In your kitchen, pack everything except a couple of plates, cups, forks, spoons, and cooking pots... Just enough to keep you serving dinners until moving day. Kitchens take a long time to pack because it's all breakable, so don't wait until the last moment. Whittle down your clothes closet in the same way... pack up everything that's out of season or otherwise unlikely to be needed before the move. Pack a few boxes' worth of your kids' toys ahead of time, too. This is a continuous project; as moving day gets closer, you pack more and more.
6. 2-3 DAYS BEFORE THE MOVE. Take electronics apart and pack them; make sure the right parts and remotes get into the right boxes! Catch up on any laundry that's lying about, and don't forget to wash your curtains and area rugs, shower curtains, etc.
7. DAY BEFORE MOVING DAY. Pack a suitcase of "immediately needed" items that you will want as soon as you arrive in your new home: clothes, shampoo, toothpaste, etc. Pack the rest of your wardrobe, toiletries, and other personal items into boxes. Throw out all food in the fridge that will not survive the move. Pack all NON perishables into boxes. Continue packing everything else in your house until it's all ready to grab and go... the only things you'll leave behind are your vacuum and other cleaning supplies (for cleaning day, after the move).
8. MOVING DAY! Have a mother in law or best friend on the premises to hold baby while you and hubby load the moving van. Big stuff first, such as furniture. Then boxes. Then squashy stuff like bags of bedding. Fragile stuff last (I always transport my most precious things in my own car). Then head for your new house. Come back tomorrow for cleaning day.
9. CLEANING DAY. First knock down cobwebs with a broom. Then wipe down walls and light fixtures. Then clean your bathroom to within an inch of its life. Then clean your kitchen (the easiest way to do a fridge is with paper towels and a bucket of vinegar water; the easiest way to do an oven, baking soda sprinkled in dry and scrubbed out with a rag). Wash windows and sills. Vacuum everywhere. Scrub any carpet stains (Oxyclean works wonders), or use a rented rinse-n-vac machine to clean carpets. Sweep the porch and steps. You're done!
I have moved over 30 times in my life. Just keep slugging away at it, and be sure to treat yourself to a looooong massage when all is said and done.
PS, I almost forgot: Make sure you have a huge box marked DONATE in your garage. Anytime you come across something that you know you don't use, donate it. Donate (and trash) as much stuff as you can before the move. My rule is, if no one's used it in a year, it GOES.