why are men so crappy?

[counterGOPI]

ughh my dh has been pretty bad and unsupportive this whole pregancy, a far cry from the person he was when i was preggo with DD.
he started coming around a few weeks ago and even admitted that he had been crappy and he was now coming around b/c its so close to the baby being born then tonight he goes back to his crappy self :
ive been nervous about labor b/c of his crappiness and he was my suport system for dd's birth and then i felt as ease and ready for this babe b/c he came around but now that he's gone back to his selfish,ungrateful self im freaked out again. wth is his problem?!?!!?

[ChristyH]

s mama

I hope he's more supportive for you

[beansavi]

My immature dh acts like this when he is upset about something else but cannot articulate it... or WILL not. I have very little tolerance for it. Lately I have taken to telling him, "I will not play into your game and be the bitch for you." by telling him off when he acts like that. I could just kick him to the curb for a month when he acts like that.

I wish we all lived in male/female separate tribes again like in the good old Matriarchal Britain days!

[counterGOPI]

so true!! i know its something else bothering DH and he's taking it out on me : being preggo makes me so sick and tired of it. even his precious dog that has become his life the past 3 months has been getting the bad end of him tonight

[chely7425]

Men can be complete morons sometimes... I'm not sure how well me and hubby would be getting along if he was here.

[amaayeh]

I wrote almost the exact same post about my dh just yesterday on another message board. I agree that it is something else bothering him. Hopefully once we go into labor it will slap them back into reality!

[Joezmom]

My (ex)husband was such a turd when our son was born. In order to avoid having to "deal", he decided he had to finish the basement, and his "project"
suddenly took precedence over having a new baby in the house.

[mkmama]

My DH is a great man, but terrible sympathizer...terrible at understanding the LOAD we carry. He was so bad during my labor (made it way worse i think than it had to be) that this time he's allowed in for the pushing/birth...but my mom is my coach/doula. I knwo he's just not fit to be that support for me. He's a great DH but even when i've been deathly ill in the past he does not care.

So maybe your DH just isn't fit for that part of his role, the part we as society put on him and I hope you have someone else at your birth to help you...a doula or friend?

[spookymama]

Yikes!

I don't know the answer to your question... but if you figure it , please let the rest of us know. You will be a millionaire in no time flat.

I second the friend/doula.. If he can not be there for you emotionally or mentally for whatever reason he is going through, you deserve to have someone be there for you.

[milosmomma]

Originally Posted by counterGOPI

ughh my dh has been pretty bad and unsupportive this whole pregancy, a far cry from the person he was when i was preggo with DD.

You know....my DP has been the same way. Last time it was our first and everything was new and exciting. This time he's just all stressed out. Of course, we've also added a 3 year old to the mix, which adds a whole other dimension. He's also recently quit smoking, which doesn't really help

After a complete meltdown last night (me, not him), I think he may understand that I need a bit more support.

Good luck mama!

[HollyBearsMom]

I love my brother to pieces but he SO could not handle my SIL's pregnancy and birth. At least he was upfront about it so she arranged for her best friend to be her coach/support. Is there anyone else who could pitch hit for your husband?

[Jennisee]