Wanted: Online-Midwife for birth in September - Page 2

[deethai]

Originally Posted by ee_lime

I don't see why you wouldn't be able to find a midwife. If you are paying her, then she would just treat you just like any other client by limiting the number of clients that are due when you are. When you go in to labor you call her and then she makes sure that she is getting ready to spend a few hours on her computer, just as if she were coming to your house. I don't see why it would be a problem at all???

Exactly.

[deethai]

Originally Posted by pamamidwife

I agree with Christa - I'm not sure why you feel attacked, but I'm sorry you do.

I have a blackberry and get instant email. If you're interested email me at pamela.midwife at gmail.com

Thank you pamamidwife.

[coobabysmom]

If an online doula works into the equation, I would be happy to apply! I think what you working on manifesting is entirely possible.

[PassionateWriter]

I think what you are doing is great for your situation. I feel kind of like you do about the living in situation but I, as you, have no choice in the matter..so I have a MW who is going to travel to me and live with me for 2-3 weeks. I am well...less than excited about it. I don't really like to live with anyone other than my family..in college I didn't live in the dorms for that reason..and I couldn't have roommates b/c they drove me crazy! lol!

I hope you find what you are looking for ....which is really simply a MW who will make herself available the same as if she were attending you in person. That shouldn't be too difficult to understand. However, for some..who don't have such road blocks and obstacles to overcome...understanding is difficult at times and some probably have disbelief at the scenario. Though you are in Thailand, my option in a state in the US arent much greater......sad state of affairs huh?

I wish you luck in your quest and your birth,

[bionicsquirrel]

In defense of deethai, I do think that it seems like this thread has turned into an attack of sorts. I think that reading her post, the answer should have been yes, I might be able to help or sorry I am not the midwife for you. Why so many questions and suggestions for other options, as if the OP didn't do her research?

I don't see why this would not be like working with any other client, except over skype or something. You can schedule the appts. to coordinate, answer emails when she has questions or concerns and then be online during her birth to assist with suggestions and safety concerns if she has them.
There is a disadvantage not being there in person, but if she needs a midwife in this capacity, we should trust that she knows what is best for her and either offer our services or not.

[deethai]

Originally Posted by PassionateWriter

I think what you are doing is great for your situation. I feel kind of like you do about the living in situation but I, as you, have no choice in the matter..so I have a MW who is going to travel to me and live with me for 2-3 weeks. I am well...less than excited about it. I don't really like to live with anyone other than my family..in college I didn't live in the dorms for that reason..and I couldn't have roommates b/c they drove me crazy! lol!

I hope you find what you are looking for ....which is really simply a MW who will make herself available the same as if she were attending you in person. That shouldn't be too difficult to understand. However, for some..who don't have such road blocks and obstacles to overcome...understanding is difficult at times and some probably have disbelief at the scenario. Though you are in Thailand, my option in a state in the US are much greater......sad state of affairs huh?

I wish you luck in your quest and your birth,

Thank you, yes I feel the same about having someone I don't know live in my house, the pressure that all that hassle just for her to wait for me to give, what a pressure, plus to have someone fly from say Australia means paying the return flight, and the quote I got from one midwife was for example that I pay the equivalent of the 2, 3 clients she would take during the time she would travel:

In Sydney, a homebirth cost $4250.00 AUD in total, this includes all equipment inc. birth pool. I would normally take on 2-3 homebirths per month. I would need to negioate a fee that represents what I can earn in Sydney. If this is in your scope then I am happy to look at the idea.

So I would look at 2-3 times $4250.00 AUD plus return flight plus either holiday accommodation here in Phuket or having someone in my house for 3, 4 weeks.

So after thinking that through, I would either use a midwife who lives locally (and will keep looking for this) or get some remote assistance and do UC.

[majikfaerie]

Email me if you still want to discuss this with me more

[Jane]

I do so much with my hands that I can't imagine doing it by internet. That, and I don't meet the requirements for experience. Good luck finding the right midwife for you.

[wumanh]

I don't think anyone is attacking deethai. Just questioning.

I have learned that sometimes asking the obvious is not always annoying because a surprising number of people do not think of the obvious. Apologies offered since obviously you have! ))

As a midwife, I can say that I could be online but without a visual it would be hard to assess some things. Also being so hands-on (massage, running a bath, making tea, palpating the baby, not to mention if there is an emergency)etc. I guess you'd have to have someone be your hands!) it would be hard for me to do what I do. But there is probably someone who can!

Best of luck!

[nurnur]

I think what your looking for is possible and I hope you find it. Where is Jeannine Parvati Baker when we need her? RIP Jeannine. She was the original phone midwife! Her spirit lives on!

[MamaRabbit]

I was a "phone doula" for a couple doing a UC in Phuket a couple years ago. Not quite that easy because I could only rely on what I was hearing and not seeing. I should have a webcam up and running by August and of course you already have my phone #s.


As for the "have you searched enough" type comments. Believe me, she has. As did I. There are just no options here. Well, unless you make them like I did and just UC, twins and all.

[dewi]

I respect that you left no stone unturned to find a local midwife to attend your birth. However, If you want a midwife to be involved, so as not to be on your own while giving birth how about going somewhere else to give birth. Go to the midwife to have your baby.

As a doula I have been hired by families that come to the USA to have a baby. They nest themselves in a short term sublet to homebirth, or an extended stay hotel, then go home after they had the birth in America. Just an idea. Then you can have a choice of midwives in Bangkok.

It's not uncommon for women to travel elsewhere to give birth.

Best wishes to you in creating
the birth you want.