Originally Posted by Jenlaana
my 2 1/2 yr old DD has bruises ALL the time, and always has atleast one on her upper arms, generally from her attempting to plummet off of some high surface she doesn't belong on and me grasping her at the last second (she's been known to throw herself into the air from alarming heights just because she sees us coming and assumes we will somehow "catch" her) My dd has absolutely zero fear and to add to the hazard, she has an older brother who thinks way too highly of her giggles and not highly enough of her safety (i.e. they're always getting rough because she thinks its fun and he doesnt think about the danger of it)
My mom made it sound like we were abusing her or rather "being too rough" when she came and watched them for us recently (she only sees them a couple of times a year) and I was appauled at it and now I'm all paranoid. I try very very hard not to grab DD by her arms if I can help it and I DEFINITELY do not believe in any kind of physical punishment, but between balancing a 6 month old on my hip (aka not as on top of her as I could be if I only had her to engage), her not responding to verbal redirection with any consistancy, and her desire to defy gravity, its become a dilema.
If your mom saw your daughter's behavior in your son, would she have the same thoughts? I'd bet a lot that she would just feel it's "boys being boys". That's how my friends with only dainty girls feel, when they see their friends with boys. A friend's husband wouldn't let some boys come over because they were too rough, but his version of rough was so far beyond rough...he was just used to his little bitty girl drawing at her table all day rather than running around.
So I wonder if your mom has the same thoughts.
My guy constantly has bruises, silly kid.
Here's something that will get a phone call home (back in the 70s, at least...nowadays it might be a phone call elsewhere). 1st grader comes in with a big ol' shiner. Teacher asks her how it happeend. Little girl says "My mama did it!" The night before I was following my mom way too close, and she stopped and turned around, and her elbow slammed into my eye. Ouch! Thankfully the teacher called my mom and believed her.