I hope that some of you wise women will help me see something I have been missing. My kindergardener is having a very hard time at school and I am unsure what to do. Any advice or insight would be much appreciated!
Here is a little background:
DS is a pretty bright kid. He certainly has his quirks, but is overall a 'good' kid. He was enrolled in a early intervention type preschool (mostly for medical issues--that's a whole 'nother post!). During his preschool year his teacher expressed some concern that ds may have some sensory type issues. Fast forward to this year. We enrolled him at our local Catholic school where my older ds goes. My older son is doing great there--thriving and we love the school. Well, a bit into the school year we start hearing some concerns about ds. At first it was that he has trouble making friends and that he doesn't initiate play with others. Well, he is an introvert and I see him playing well with his sibs and neighbors so I wasn't too concerned. Then his teacher said ds had trouble paying attention and was fidgety. Ok, well I still wasn't too concerned. Next came a sit down conference with his teacher about him "acting out" at school. She compared his impulsiveness to how his brother behaved at that age (she taught him as well, and I was kindof irked by the comparison). She believed it to be attention seeking behavior. She layed it on pretty thick during our meeting on how I was really busy with the baby and ds had told her as much, and that he needed some quality time. I left that meeting feeling like cr*p and very confused since I wasn't seeing this at home (the attention seeking). She agreed to keep us better informed about what was going on at school. That was a month ago. Now his teacher is telling me that she isn't concerned about his behavior, but is very concerned about his emotional state. According to her "all he does is cry and cry" when asked to answer a question, and says that he "doesn't know". I got a note today saying that he hadn't done/learned anything all month. I was furious when I looked at his report card today and saw that he was way behind on his reading. He used to be a little ahead for his age, and now I am seeing that he didn't know his sight words for that last three months!! Why wasn't I told he was struggling with his Jan. lesson in Jan???? Now, I am not seeing this extreme emotional-ness at home at all. Ds is a sensitive kid. He doesn't have an abundance of self esteem (where as my oldest is uber confident). BUT I find it pretty stinkin easy to refocus him when he answers a question with "I don't know". Alot of the time he does know. He is also starting to dread going to school and telling me he doesn't like it. That makes me so sad. I hate to hear of a child this young already losing their joy of learning (I know this is why some of you hs)
I am open to any ideas, although I highly doubt DH would go for homeschooling ( I am starting to see why some of you do it !).
Thank you for your thoughts!
Here is a little background:
DS is a pretty bright kid. He certainly has his quirks, but is overall a 'good' kid. He was enrolled in a early intervention type preschool (mostly for medical issues--that's a whole 'nother post!). During his preschool year his teacher expressed some concern that ds may have some sensory type issues. Fast forward to this year. We enrolled him at our local Catholic school where my older ds goes. My older son is doing great there--thriving and we love the school. Well, a bit into the school year we start hearing some concerns about ds. At first it was that he has trouble making friends and that he doesn't initiate play with others. Well, he is an introvert and I see him playing well with his sibs and neighbors so I wasn't too concerned. Then his teacher said ds had trouble paying attention and was fidgety. Ok, well I still wasn't too concerned. Next came a sit down conference with his teacher about him "acting out" at school. She compared his impulsiveness to how his brother behaved at that age (she taught him as well, and I was kindof irked by the comparison). She believed it to be attention seeking behavior. She layed it on pretty thick during our meeting on how I was really busy with the baby and ds had told her as much, and that he needed some quality time. I left that meeting feeling like cr*p and very confused since I wasn't seeing this at home (the attention seeking). She agreed to keep us better informed about what was going on at school. That was a month ago. Now his teacher is telling me that she isn't concerned about his behavior, but is very concerned about his emotional state. According to her "all he does is cry and cry" when asked to answer a question, and says that he "doesn't know". I got a note today saying that he hadn't done/learned anything all month. I was furious when I looked at his report card today and saw that he was way behind on his reading. He used to be a little ahead for his age, and now I am seeing that he didn't know his sight words for that last three months!! Why wasn't I told he was struggling with his Jan. lesson in Jan???? Now, I am not seeing this extreme emotional-ness at home at all. Ds is a sensitive kid. He doesn't have an abundance of self esteem (where as my oldest is uber confident). BUT I find it pretty stinkin easy to refocus him when he answers a question with "I don't know". Alot of the time he does know. He is also starting to dread going to school and telling me he doesn't like it. That makes me so sad. I hate to hear of a child this young already losing their joy of learning (I know this is why some of you hs)
I am open to any ideas, although I highly doubt DH would go for homeschooling ( I am starting to see why some of you do it !).
Thank you for your thoughts!
I can't stand it!
