Random thoughts/rants I'm having

[GardenStream]

Why doesn't anyone freak out about a baby coming a week or two "early," but if the baby is even a few days "late," it's a major problem? I'm not even due until tomorrow and everyone is already telling me to give in and ask for a c-section. My MIL will come over and watch DS on Monday (I will be 3 days "late" then) and I already know she is going to be disappointed when I walk in the door. The last two weeks she has made a point of saying that she can stay all day and night if I decide to go ahead and have a c-section that day.

I have already told everyone that I would be very shocked if I went into labor on my own at all. That seems to have at least my family backing off. My MIL is another story. I'm totally OK with giving the baby an extra week to try and come out on his own. Why can't everyone else accept it? I know I will probably end up having a c-section in a week, but obviously the baby is staying in there for a reason. I'm the one who's freaking pregnant and uncomfortable, what the hell do they have to be impatient about!

Honestly, I'm in a good positive place about this. I just want to tell everyone to keep their negativity away from me. I can feel the fragile little bubble of happiness I'm living in being threatened and I don't like it.

[Molliejo]

Not in your ddc, but .

What a bunch of jerks.

[anstar]

Yeah, jerks.

[Goddess3_2005]

Umm yeah, MIL is doing the same thing. They came in to help out for my induction and after my failed induction she was all, your pelvis is too small to birth a baby with our family genetics (nevermind I have birthed 5 babies) and you should get a c-section. I never even felt a labor pain, c-sections are the best. Umm yeah, people can be pretty dumb. Don't let them get you down mama. You'll have a successful birth and show them all.

[celestialdreamer]

That sucks mama Don't doubt your body and your baby, they are wise and know the right timing. I don't know your situation regarding the c-section plan, but I do know that it is perfectly normal to go past your due date. My last 2 children were born "overdue" and perfectly healthy at average weights. Due dates are NOT an expiration date!

With that said, I do really understand your frustration as my MIL has repeatedly given me dates she is 'sure' I'll have the baby by. She did the same thing with my ds...so sure he'd be early but he was almost 2 weeks late. Then she kept asking me if I had some emotional issue that was keeping me pregnant I know she means well, but that's just not what I need to hear!

[Jennisee]

Having watched my DH recover from abdominal surgery, I can't imagine anyone suggesting that someone "just ask" for a C-section. I hope you're able to block out everyone's negativity. That's just mean.

[chely7425]

I would probably have kicked someone in the shins by now...

[spookymama]

I am in a similar position myself.

I think it is fantastic that you are in a good head space about this! Keep up the good work, mama! Is there anyway your DH can tell your MIL to back it off? Can you take a few days just to get away from it all?

People are... . They are taught that 40 weeks is pretty much it. You can go under, but you should not go over. It's not like plinko, people! They have a date that is stuck in their heads as being it, and if it's not it, then they are left waiting. I think that is probably it. The waiting.

We want what we want, and we want it now. Babies don't work on that schedule however.

You are doing GREAT. You are giving your little one time to cook. There is no reason to think you won't have a wonderful vaginal birth!