I'm surprised this thread is still alive! I'm still stunned that there are people who still firmly believe I should accept blame for leaving the money on the counter. I'm still happily unapologetic on that point! The money was still on the counter 5 days later, when I finally had time to make a deposit! Posters will be shocked that it did not grow legs and walk away, or my garden nomes did not steal it.
Or maybe I should ask if you WOULD leave it in your car in plain view...if not, then why?
You have to take responsibility for your property and taking good care of it. I would NEVER leave that much money in my car, nor would I leave it sitting out on my counter with a 6 year old around.
maybe I should be able to do these things in a perfect world, but this isn't a perfect world.
In either situation I would take responsibility for leaving the money in a bad spot.
Not that it would be my fault it got taken, but that if I would have made a better choice in the first place then the situation could have been entirely avoided.
I think that you have VERY unrealistic expectations of a 6 (almost 7) year old and I am sure that when your child is this age you will understand what we are saying.
Kids seem older and like they should be capable of more when they aren't your kids, esp when you have never had kids of your own.
I am surprised, though, that you are still so insistent that your decision to leave the money on the counter had NOTHING to do with the outcome of the situation (money almost getting lost!) when the 6 year old was able to take responsibility for his part.
The adults in this situation left the child in a bad position, one he never should have been in. Unsupervised and a pile of cash on the counter that no one explained to him. I think it is silly to leave it there in the first place, but if you were going to do that and then expect him to understand that under no circumstances was he to mess with it, you should have at the very least told him that!!
Instead, you put something valuable in an unsafe place, and didn't explain to the child the importance of leaving it there. You just expected him to know better (which he OBVIOUSLY didn't) and not touch it. In fact, I would be willing to guess that the whole thing never even crossed your mind. You just put the money down and ASSUMED a 6 year old would leave it alone. My son would have thought that it was play money because we would NEVER leave cash just sitting around like that. We are careful to put valuable things away here...esp because we have kids!!!
Maybe you should really think about why SO many people think you had some amount of responsibility in the situation.
Come now, can you really not see where your decisions laid the groundwork for this to happen?
If you were in that situation again, would you still put the money on the counter?
I don't think that anyone is saying that it's YOUR FAULT he took it. People in this forum generally look for ways to change what they are doing in order to get a more positive outcome with their kids. I think we are all just so used to looking at situations like these and thinking "Okay, what could I have done differently to avoid this outcome?", instead of just finding a punishment for our kids and then moving on. We recognize that we are often part of the problem.
You will find plenty of forums out there that will agree 100% that this all the 6 year olds fault, but this isn't one of those forums. We hold ourselves accountable as well as our children when things like this happen.