10yo dsd does not wipe or flush after pooping - Page 2

[lindberg99]

Originally Posted by Novella

But what the heck do you mean about "left one at our house" and "left poops all over their house"? If you mean depositing fecal matter in non-toilet locations throughout the house, then NO - that is not normal behavior for a school-aged child.

That's exactly what I was going to ask. My almost 10 yo sometimes forgets to flush (she sits in there and reads and I guess gets distracted) but she always goes in the toilet. I would find it very strange if she started going in other places.

[bellymama]

i haven't read the whole thread, but have you considered that maybe she is being sexually abused? i really don't know a better way to state that...and i hope you don't take it the wrong way. i just know that this sort of thing can be connected to that, sometimes, and might be worth investigating. by making herself "unclean" or "undesirable" she may be trying to create a defense mechanism against someone who is behaving innapropriatly with her.

[mamahart]

I would have to go with thank goodness you have the opportunity to talk with a professional. Sorry. And the abuse suggestion seems worth checking out. The not flushing seems very kiddish to me but the not wiping or being "clean" seems odd and frankly a bit dangerous ie uti or bladder infection.
Maybe a fantastic book on hygiene that is geared toward a bit younger girl would help...and lots and lots of information about body parts and where they are and how they work.
And I really hope you are doing ok with having to deal with all this. Being a mama is just such a HUGE job sometimes.