One thing that helped (helps) me in coping with being a c-section mama is to ask this question: what would/could I have done differently? And, what would it have taken to make that happen differently?
In my case, if I'd had different or more information about some things, I would have made different decisions. But how was I to get that information? We took a 10-week birthing class, never missed a class, did our reading, took notes, kept all our handouts. We used a midwife practice instead of a conventional, mainstream OB. I read my book (which was What To Expect... unfortunately). I joined a due date club, but the one I found was on Parenthood.com. I simply didn't find the resources I needed to have the information that would have changed our decisions... but it's *not* because I didn't TRY.
And, what also really helped was, our care providers were good at leaving us in the driver's seat. Yes, I wish they'd had different recommendations. But that's what they were, was recommendations. We weren't railroaded or guilt-tripped into anything. We were told matter-of-factly what their interpretation of the information was, what the risks were, and what they'd recommend, and then left ALONE to discuss things and make decisions. So, in the end, we did feel like they were OUR decisions. I think that's pretty unusual in this day and age.
I know now that the two things that probably contributed the most to my c-section happened a month or two before the birth, and I really couldn't have predicted their impact on the outcome at the time. That makes it a lot easier to accept that sh*t happens.