i absolutely cannot believe it...... i won't....... advice???

[Hoping4sumBBdust]

ok...... so here's the scoop......

DD turns 4 months on Sunday. For the past couple of weeks, EVERYtime i eat, i feel horribly sick to my stomach. I realized that my favorite post-partum jeans are getting tight, and I peed 3 times in an hour and a half last night, so I bought a preg test (to put my mind at ease) Well, 6:30 with FMU, my mind was boggled..... i had a positive test...... ran to the store, peed on two 1st response, and 2 mre positives, so i called the doc, went in, and positive. I get results from a blood draw on Thurs or Fri for HCG levels since I haven't had a period since before my daughter.

Which, by the way, took 2 years of trying, and Clomid to get DD..... so I am baffled. I want to think that I still have HCG in my body from her (she was born 12/20/07) can someone please tell me thats even remotely possible (4 false positives)??????

Not that I'm not happy, its just that DH will be deployed for 7 months, and I thought it was going to be hard enough having him miss half of DD's first year of life, but missing the birth, and not meeting that child for 5 months?????

I don't even want to get into it, but I had a c-sec from hell, after an induction from hell, and feel completely traumatized...... DD was 13 hours old when they re-opened my incision for a massive blood clot, and internal bleeding, and my BP went from 211/146 to 68/34 on the operating table, and then had a blood transfusion, and couldnt get out of the hospital bed for 6 days....... barely recovered, and thought I was dying...... literally.

Add to the fact that I couldnt even tell you how far alongg I am, because like I said I havent had a period since april 07', and DH was out to sea for 3 weeks, home for 2, and just got back from another 3 weeks at sea. I'm baffled. Any ideas, hints, suggestions, advice? Am I really pregnant again?

Oh. and Hi I'm Lisa, 22, married for 3 years, blessed with a 4 month old DD, and possibly pregnant?????????

[rachelagain]

False positives might be possible... but are extremely rare and I would very much doubt that that many pg tests are wrong-- it would be unheard of.
At least you know when dh was around, so you can estimate time of conception within those 2 weeks- and early ultrasounds are quite accurate.

You can do this, Mama.

I did it-- my 1st son was 3 months old when I found I was pg again. I'm sorry your dh is going to be away, that's rough- but you can do it.

I would suggest find a doula at the least and possibly a homebirth midwife-- even if you don't use them for your birth, they can help you deal with/work through the emotions of your previous birth and this birth can be wonderful- it doesn't have to be difficult again.

[waldorfknitmama]

Congrats!!! babies are a blessing no matter when they come. You will be wonderul, and everything will work out.

[applecider]

Wow, that's tough! I hope you have lots of support persons around and that everything goes smoothly for you this time around.

[Sage_SS]

Congrats on the impending arrival of baby #2! You'll have yours much closer than I did, I wanted them closer, but my hubby didn't, so there are two years between the ones we've got now.

Having your hubby gone will be difficult, but you can do it! Welcome to our DDC!

[~Megan~]

HCG starts to decrease at 5 months and is gone by the birth. Sorry, mama.

[superlori]

I don't have any advice for you, but I repeat other posters - you can do this.

[Starfish11]

No advice either, but wanted to give you a cyberhug and let you know that you CAN do this

[RoadWorkAhead]

DH is gone for the next 2-3 months with occasional 1 day trips at home, and I feel so overwhelmed myself. Surround yourself with support and take all the time you need to adjust to the idea that you are pregnant. Its okay to not be thrilled from the get go...Sometimes we need to process the shock and grief to see the beauty of our blessing

[twointhenorth]

I'm not in the same situation but i feel for you. My son is 7 months and I was not ready to be pregnant again. My husband is Canadian and I'm an American who's visa expires in about 4 weeks and that was with an extension. So, I have to head back to the States with my son, and wait for my husbands immigration stuff to go through. It's hard to imagine our life without him for months. It's hard, but you can do it. I know it must seem so overwhelming for you right now. Maybe just give it some time to sink in and take it one day at a time.

[grace's voice]

That's rough... my "baby" is almost 2 and I'm in shock at my own pregnancy... needless to say I cannot imagine your situation.

I just wanted to say, and hopefully not in an offensive way since I don't know a thing about your spiritual beliefs...

...but like I've been telling myself (since this baby was unplanned and I have no clue when or HOW this pg happened), just have faith that this is the time this little soul needed to come to you and into the world. I can't imagine that these things happen by accident, and I know sometimes it seems God, or a higher power, or whatever your preferemce, is punishing us with impossible circumstances, but in the long run it is always for the best... it sometimes just takes a long long long time to see that. Good will come of this (somehow), have faith!