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Let's save the plastibell for the baby book!

post #1 of 30
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I was visiting some friends and they brought out the dh's baby book so show how much their son looked like him as a baby. I was flipping through it and came to page with a cord stump and next to it something I didn't recognize. Written next to it was "plastibell". Hanging off of the red tainted plastic, was what I could only assume to be part of his dried up foreskin. I wanted to throw up. Why would you save this? Ugh
post #2 of 30
Gross
post #3 of 30
That's disgusting.
post #4 of 30
Wow that is really horrible what a sad reminder for that little boy when he grows up.
post #5 of 30
Thread Starter 
To be clear, this was the baby book for the adult father, not the baby. I wonder how he feels about seeing it.
post #6 of 30
Disgusting and it gives you a perfect excuse to educate these people!
post #7 of 30
disgusting and sad because it shows the foreskin that never will grow
post #8 of 30
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Originally Posted by notyetamommy View Post
To be clear, this was the baby book for the adult father, not the baby. I wonder how he feels about seeing it.

When this thread first came up, I didn't comment on it. I had an initial reaction and felt I had to let it sink in before I commented for fear that I would go overboard but in the days since, my reaction has not changed.

Now, when I was born, doctors were still circumcising boys without permission of the parents. I know for a fact that this happened in my hometown area. My parents are both dead so this issue of whether or not they agreed to my circumcision can not be explained to me.

I suspect that if I did find a dead and dried out part of my genitals in my baby book I would be enraged. It would appear to be proof positive that my parents did this to me consciously and with their full participation and that my dead dried out genital parts were kept as some kind of morbid trophy instead of a keepsake. It's just too morbid to be a keepsake.

That being the case, I suspect it would have caused a permanent gulf between me and at least my mother and probably my father as well. I don't think I would have ever gotten over it. It would be an implied statement that they were proud of what they had done to me and wanted to keep my dead and dried out genital parts as a reminder.


Frank
post #9 of 30
That is sick...
post #10 of 30
Eww. But then I think saving the cord stump is pretty gross too. A lock of baby hair I can undestand, but a dried up piece of skin? :Puke
post #11 of 30
I think it's gross and sad. It's like when they take a picture of the baby boy fresh from the mother and put him on the scale for weighing or shortly after he's cleaned up. I only think: "*sigh* The last known pictures of an intact [insert boy's name here]." He'll grow up and see how he was born and how he should have stayed until he was old enough to decide for himself. Then you see a couple days later pictures titled "first bath" and you see a bloody raw glans.

Some parents say "I don't even know what an uncircumcised penis looks like; I don't even think I saw what he looked like before he was circumcised.", even though sometimes the proof is there.

I'm kind of wandering off-topic here, but it all comes back to that horid reminder of I use to look like this at one point (the circ'd boy, man saying).
post #12 of 30
Unfortunately, this sounds just like my MIL--I'd been hoping she was one-of-a-kind. When we were expecting DS2 she kept going on and on about how she saved DH's 'bell' and how 'cute' his 'little penis' looked afterward :Puke. When she saw me change DS's diaper for the first time, she was shocked (to put it diplomatically), and wouldn't let it drop until DH finally told her "you know, I really wish you hadn't done that to me!". She wasn't around when DS1 was born, so her attitude was a complete surprise to me--I can almost understand parents who do it because of undue pressure or lack of knowledge, but this sort of rabid enthusiasm for butchery is just disgusting.

I'm afraid I didn't say much of anything to her at the time--I couldn't even really think beyond 'WTF--is she really serious?' I'm more prepared now, although she hasn't brought it up again.
post #13 of 30
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Originally Posted by cat_tengel View Post
Unfortunately, this sounds just like my MIL--I'd been hoping she was one-of-a-kind. When we were expecting DS2 she kept going on and on about how she saved DH's 'bell' and how 'cute' his 'little penis' looked afterward :Puke. When she saw me change DS's diaper for the first time, she was shocked (to put it diplomatically), and wouldn't let it drop until DH finally told her "you know, I really wish you hadn't done that to me!". She wasn't around when DS1 was born, so her attitude was a complete surprise to me--I can almost understand parents who do it because of undue pressure or lack of knowledge, but this sort of rabid enthusiasm for butchery is just disgusting.

I'm afraid I didn't say much of anything to her at the time--I couldn't even really think beyond 'WTF--is she really serious?' I'm more prepared now, although she hasn't brought it up again.
Bravo to your husband for saying that to his mother! And same to you to say it to her. And leaving your sons intact!!!
post #14 of 30
The Jewish grandprents did this same thing in "Meet the Parents 2".
I'm sure it's not as uncommon as we think...

Just when you think it can't get anymore disturbing......
post #15 of 30
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Originally Posted by Microsoap View Post
I think it's gross and sad. It's like when they take a picture of the baby boy fresh from the mother and put him on the scale for weighing or shortly after he's cleaned up. I only think: "*sigh* The last known pictures of an intact [insert boy's name here]."
I feel the same way when a friend shows me a newborn (pre-circ) picture of her boy. I always feel sad that it was the only time he got to be intact, and he didn't yet know the horrible experience he was about to go through.

And big EW on saving a plastibell in a baby book. YUCK.
post #16 of 30
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post
Eww. But then I think saving the cord stump is pretty gross too. A lock of baby hair I can undestand, but a dried up piece of skin? :Puke
At least the cord stump is something that naturally comes off, and is something that helped give the baby life.

But yeah, I don't think I could have caught myself and not been absolutely horrified at seeing something circ-related in a baby book. Ick ick sick.
post #17 of 30
Wow if I was that boy, ad I found that book when I was 15 or so. I would be like Frank, totally enraged, and dont know if I could connect to my parents again. If that had been me, I know for a fact that the first thing I would have done is take out my birth certificate and those actual keep sakes, and hide them. Then I would take the baby books and everything inside them, and burn them.

I honestly believe that would have been my gut reaction.
post #18 of 30
circ is one of the most important things i am passionate about. my brother is having a baby and i am trying to give them as much info on keeping him (if its a boy) intact that i can.

my mom saved my brother and i never thought twice about it. i actually forgot all about it until now.

yeah, it is sick and it gross and it is like a nasty little trophy. but as much as i hate that parents circ children it pisses me off to no end when people bash other parents for it (parents that don't know, not parents that do and decide to do it anyway). not everyone knows. i was young when i had my first son and he is circed (none of the others are though). i didn't have a computer and then one i had access to didn't have anti circ stuff on it where i was looking. i didn't know to look for stuff like that. i didn't know i could choose not to do it, i was handed a paper and told to sign for the circ. i just didn't know. this stuff isn't on the tv much, it's not in mainstream mags, its not in your doctors office. you are a lucky mama if you just happen on this info.
post #19 of 30
Reminds me of Meet the Fockers. That was pretty gross too, IMO.

I just can't see why anyone would want to keep that! I think it's okay to keep something if it's SUPPOSED to come off: umbilical stump, baby teeth, lock of hair (toenail clippings... to each their own). But to cut off part of your baby's body and keep it truely grosses me out! I think it's every bit as disgusting as keeping any other amputated limb (maybe moreso, because I can't think of any other body part that would be amputated for anything less than a dire emergency!)
post #20 of 30
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Originally Posted by scatterbrainedmom View Post
as much as i hate that parents circ children it pisses me off to no end when people bash other parents for it (parents that don't know, not parents that do and decide to do it anyway). not everyone knows.
I just wanted to say I totally agree... Sometimes this board can make me a little uncomfortable, because I understand that people are very passionate about their beliefs (as am I), but I just deem myself blessed to have come to the conclusions I have.

Everyone has a different set of life experiences and it makes me uncomfortable to get too judgemental. "If I don't know my options, I don't have any." - Diana Korte I think that applies to a lot of people when it comes to certain things. Honestly some people do not even know that cloth diapers still exist, or that not circ'ing is an option. And then I have a family member who is an RN and swears that her professors--doctors of course--instructed her (and this was recently) that circ is absolutely medically beneficial. I mean don't get me started on that...but I do believe her...and under the circumstances it's rather hard to tell her otherwise.

Anyway just my two cents. I get really upset too, but figure assuming everyone thinks like me (or should) isn't going to change attitudes.
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