Originally Posted by meowee
Just curious-- are you in the racial minority in your neighborhood (regardless of what your race is)? I live in a mostly black and Hispanic neighborhood and I am white. My children (most of whom look white) go to a mostly black school.
I am used to it by now in that I no longer feel like an outsider, and actually I feel uncomfortable in mostly white neighborhoods by this point (the neighborhoods here are pretty segregated). I also know my family wouldn't be welcome in those white neighborhoods which I think adds to my discomfort.
I just find it interesting that I have encountered little or no racism against me, here. I'm pretty sure if it were the reverse (being one of the only black women in a white neighborhood), I most likely would have encountered some problems.
i am white, and used to live in a predominantly black neighborhood with my baby's father. unfortunately, i always did feel like an outsider, and did experience problems from people around me. People would either come up to me(at gas stations, etc) thinking i was there to buy drugs, or just gave me dirty looks in general. I know there are other black neighborhoods down here that are more accepting though; i usually don't have a problem in my SIL's neighborhood, for instance; no one gives me a second look. I'm still not quite sure why that particular neighborhood was like that-- maybe because it was a really small section of the city? whereas my SIL's neighborhood is a lot larger.
I will probably end up raising my daughter in an ethnic neighborhood, where her fathers side of the family lives-- there's a lot of cousins, etc that i would like for her to be close to-- my side of the family has no cousins her age, or anyone (besides my immediate family) who really takes an interest in any of the family but their own. It's strange, because i am extremely close to my immediate family (mom and sisters)-- family is a huge value for us. But outside of them, none of our extended family really ever talks to eachother-- even though we all live within 20 minutes of eachother. My uncles for instance have only even seen my 4mo old baby *twice* since she was born, and didn't even want to hold her.
my lease is up where i'm at in September, at which point i will probably move to the neighborhood where most of DD's father's side of the family lives-- at which point i will be the minority in the neighborhood again. But as i said before i think things will go much better this time, as i have experienced this neighborhood to be much more laid back than the one i previously lived in.
baby's father has also been the minority in a neighborhood we lived in before-- which also caused problems. I lived in a small condo building where there was an association-- every week someone was trying to get us kicked out. "i smell weed coming from under their door at night"-- we did not ever smoke pot in that apartment! EVER! "there's cigarette butts out in the parking lot"-- about 80% of the people there smoked cigarettes as well, so i dont know how we got singled out. "your trash can has a bad odor, bring your trash out only on the day before the truck comes". uhm, it's a trash can, and it's 90 degrees out here... it's supposed to smell bad.What, so i'm supposed to stack the bags of garbage inside my kitchen until the garbage truck comes each week? yeah right.
The first time he came by, after i had just moved in, I was at work so he left something with a neighbor to give to me-- when i spoke with her, she went on and on in shock abut some "hoodlum" who was looking for me, and not to worry: that her husband would call the cops the next time he came around. Much to her surprise, he ended up moving in the next week-- and she never made eye contact with me again. Believe me, if could have gotten out of that lease, I would have. :sigh: