Originally Posted by dewi
I also think this is the case. We live in a crazy culture And that is why i wrote what i did.
Fem earth, She is not the cable guy!
It's a UC, if you want another women there get a midwife, have family or a friend come over, but don't 'hire" someone.
I guess I'm a purest when it comes to Unassisted childbirth.
I definitely don't want to get into the "What is the true definition of Unassisted Childbirth" discussion...that's not what this topic is about.
However, I really don't think it's fair to say that if a UCer wants another woman at her birth, that she must have a midwife or family and friends. I do not want a midwife at my birth (as of now, anyway) because I do not want to be medically monitored. I do not need anyone directing me how to give birth, just as I don't need anyone directing me how to have sex. I don't have any friends that I'd feel comfortable coming to my birth. Luckily for me, my mom is very supportive and she is going to be at my birth. But if I did not have my mom, I would probably look for a kind-hearted doula to support both me and my husband while I (not a midwife) deliver my child. And I would most definitely pay her for these very special services.
If, God forbid, an emergency happened at the birth, I would not expect a doula to do anything more than the cable guy or my husband or my mom. Truly. Honestly. If I hire someone knowing that she is only there to be supportive, then that's what I expect of her.
I definitely see where you guys are coming from. If something bad did happen, and the doula stepped in to help to her best ability, and someone (who though?) wanted to charge the doula with practicing medicine without a license, and
the birthing mother +/- partner wanted to press charges, then
the doula could be in serious trouble. But that's a lot of "ifs" and "ands", ya know?
So really, I guess it all depends on how well you know the birthing mama, how well you trust her and/or her partner, and what you'd be willing to risk if all of the above happened. It's a very unlikely situation, though, in my opinion, as long as you assert your intentions from the start.
Good luck with whatever you decide!