The "I might be pregnant but I wasn't trying" thread - Page 76

[Samanthavv]

So, update on me.

(TMI WARNING)
Out of curiousity, I checked my cervical mucous yesterday and again today. It's in transitional phase. It's less white today than it was yesterday and more stretchy today than it was yesterday, so it's possible I could ovulate (even though I havent had a period yet.)

And I don't know if I'm just freaking myself out, but I'm getting ovulation twinges or pains, they don't hurt, it's just a strange feeling.A strange slight (but noticeable) sensation on the left or right. I've been having it on both sides since last night around 10... not at the same exact time, but I have noticed it on both sides.

I'm mostly concerned because I did a search on google, and all I really found that pertained to the situation, was that if you WANT to become pregnant, make some sudden changes in breastfeeding routine, and we had, about two weeks to four weeks ago. They weren't SUPER-sudden, but they weren't very gradual, you know?

[karmamamaa]

Hey Guys,

I know when I first posted I didn't make a proper indtroduction....kind of at the time I think I did so not to be rude...only because I barely believed it was true at the time it was so early and I didn't want to panic or be dramatic...all the signs are here and AF didn't arrive yesterday.
Its a really bad time for us, and we did what we did and we should have known better. I'm kind of panicking in a way and though my AF is like clockwork there is always a few days leeway- I just cannot test I barely believe it can be true.
I want a large family like nothing else in the world and I only want the best for them. DD was a surprise, shes all we have right now, and right now we're at a transition phase. I recently switched to real estate and while the money is coming in there is so much more in the pipeline 6-12 months in. I am a flight attendant and I went part time my salaried income is 1/6 of what it was and while the $ will come I am terrified.
The symptoms are still here, no AF, and husband will not listen! I tried to tell him last evening (sorry we drank some wine and had a nice time but I ended up spilling the beans....) Maybe once before I have panic-ed the first time before that being DD's pregnancy and if its not the case I'm so afraid to look like the boy who cried wolf. I feel like I have only you guys to tell to or I need to keep it to myself until proof arrives or else I look like a mess...to my husband...
I know what I want ( a huge family to love) but sadly, I also know what is feasable.
I regret us being silly during ovulation (we had a dear friend pass away and in a moments' fury we decided to...conceive?) it was "that" day and we should have known better.
I just need a hug right now and explaining it to my girlfriends sounds silly when I try...
If it is meant to be thats fine, if not thats great too
I just want to be in the best place when #2 arrives and I feel like I have no one who understands.
Thank you guys for listening and reading...I always do the best I can as a person and I just need some love right now to support me.

[SeekingSerenity]

Originally Posted by karmamamaa

Thank you guys for listening and reading...I always do the best I can as a person and I just need some love right now to support me.

You will have lots of support here.

[Samanthavv]

So, the cramping has gone down a bit. Just really mild now. I was reading somewhere that it could have been implantation cramping... especially since I've had it before with my previous pregnancies... It feels familiar.

My cervical mucous went to what's fertile (for me) last night, and returned to normal this evening.

I don't know when I ovulated... I'd say I ovulated yesterday or the day before (if I even did...) so... I'm just going to say I'm 4dpo (days past oops. lol)

It probably dosen't help me that my little guy isn't wanting to nurse much.

I ordered some internet cheapies to start testing at 7dpo (i've had positives as early as 9dpo) and yeah... Got 25 of them, so I have plenty to last me long enough.

I'm almost kind of hoping now. Does that make me terrible? It wouldn't be the worst thing if we had a baby right now.... After all, we'll be completely out of debt (minus our house payment) once we get our taxes back... So, it's feasible. It wouldn't kill us financially...

[karmamamaa]

Oh my.

Nausea just began. Big time.

Mentioned to my husband he says "lets get a good nights sleep" but I almost just want to run out to the drug store and get it over with.
I just feel like "how can you sleep at a time like this!" but I know he is probably thinking a little clearer than myself.

Oh well, maybe I'll test tomorrow...

[ms.shell]

the moon messed me up

did you poas this morning, karma?

I came here to post as I am starting the longest tww ever. We have been so adamant about avoiding that I have gotten nervous several months when there was NO WAY i could have gotten pg.
But now it looks like there is definitely a chance this month, as the moon screwed my cycle. I have been o'ing on day 18 (or later) and having long cycles. So when we dtd on day 9, we both thought we were totally safe not using ANY protection. And it had been weeks, so there was lots and lots and lots of fluid- more than i have ever noticed.
Then Sunday night, day 13 (with a bright, full moon), I clearly felt O, and then AGAIN on monday morning, early. So i think there is a possibility that we could have conceived twin girls! (We conceived twins in 2007, but they were lost). I remember noticing wetness when i wiped and clearly thinking, "that looks like fertile mucus." but i thought it was WAY too early and wondered if i had an infection.
It is SO NOT the time AT ALL in our minds. We have a baby now- he has his first birthday next month and is starting to walk and get to the toddler stage which ime is the most demanding phase, requiring so very much of my attention- how on earth could i deal with that and a twin pregnancy?
SO now I am reassuring myself that all the sperm could have died in 4 days, and also that plenty of ppl do it on the optimum day and conception does not occur. And that if conception DID occur, it would most likely be only one egg. And, also, knowing that if i do wind up pg, that it does not necessarily mean ANY babies.
When I did conceive twins, I could feel it in my boobs within a week of dtd and tested darkly positive pretty early (tho i cant remember exactly how many dpo, probably 9). SO I will be alert for symptoms (of course) and most likely start poas at 7 dpo- that way i may get an indication of singleton/twins based on how early the pos shows up. But hopefully i will not see any pos lines and aunt flo will show. I feel like making baby dresses, tho, as much as I am NOT ready to be pg yet....isn't that ridiculous!

[Carolyn R]

Well, I think I am safe this time.

Temp dropped this morning and I'm having some spotting.

Hello to those who are new here! Sending love and support to everyone!

When I realized AF was probably on her evil way, I was a bit grumpy. Dh noticed and said "You're sad that you're not pregnant, aren't you!?" I said "No, it's not that...I'm mad that I SHOULDN'T be pregnant. Mad because I WANT to be pregnant but I know it's not the right time. Frustrated that I have to be GLAD that AF is coming."

It all seems so confusing. I think our bodies and souls want to create and embrace new life, and it's like trying to get a creek to flow backwards to convince ourselves that we need to wait.

Ugh. I knew you ladies would get it.

[Samanthavv]

So, the cramping went away and turned into a tender/sore/swollen feeling. :-s If it was a period, I should have just kept cramping until i got it.

[NaturallyKait]

Originally Posted by Carolyn R

It all seems so confusing. I think our bodies and souls want to create and embrace new life, and it's like trying to get a creek to flow backwards to convince ourselves that we need to wait.

Ugh. I knew you ladies would get it.

I totally get it. I know exactly how you feel.

[justKate]

Hi Ladies. Never thought I would be here!

DD is 12.5 mos. old and I am not ready for another pregnancy. She is super high-needs; I work FT and feel wiped out all of the time; it's just not a good time. So I've been on the mini-pill since about 6 weeks PP. AF has not returned to date.

Monday night I went to bed without taking my mini-pill. Just forgot. Tuesday evening DTD for maybe the seventh time since DD's birth. A couple hours later I went downstairs and realized I hadn't taken the pill the night before. Took one as scheduled b/c the label says not to double up.

I am pretty fertile--got pg when I put off getting my depo shot for 3 weeks. Please tell me I probably haven't O'd yet so it doesn't matter. Please?

[Samanthavv]

Kate, you never know! I know plenty of women who missed "just one pill" and ended up pregnant. And from my situation and what everyone's told me, you CAN get pregnant before you get your first ppaf! Just take comfort in knowing that you'll never be given more than you can handle, even if it seems like you are.

As for me, I still have that swollen/tender feeling in my uterine area. Not as strong as it was yesterday, but its still there. And my cervical mucous went from having dried up for the most part the last two days, to being really thick and white and creamy, but not stretchy at all.

I'm really confused. I want to be pregnant, because otherwise I have to wait for another 2.5 years or another oops (which is unlikely to happen. Hubby is a condom nazi 99.9% of the time) and I really don't want to wait that long...

But on the other hand, I'm scared. I don't know how I'd handle three kids!

I'm also scared I'm getting my hopes up, but I feel almost 100% certain i AM pregnant.

So confused.

[chimomma]

Hi Everyone, I am new here. I've been lurking around for a couple weeks. Samanthavv, I think I am in the same boat as you. I have yet to get my PPAF, my youngest is 12mo. I really feel pregnant. It has happened before that I felt pregnant before having AF return, but this time I have almost all the pregnancy symptoms. I really thought I would get my AF last week, had a little bleeding when I bumped my cervix with my diaphragm (hadn't used it in a while) but I just felt like it was coming, like a full feeling, and some mild cramps, the same I had with both my pregnancies, too. I am sometimes seeing spots or getting lightheaded, been eating like crazy, and going to the bathroom like crazy! My CM is whitish, too, for the first time in who knows how long.

I am so nervous, can't sleep. It would not be the end of the world to be pregnant, but I have a 33 mo old and a 12 mo old. Things are already crazy around here to the max! I got pregnant with my 2nd after my first PPAF when my 1st was 13 mo old. If I am pregnant again now, it will be the same spacing, and it was a really difficult spacing! I am also dreading to tell my father and grandmother if I am pregnant. They act like I already have a million kids even though I only have two! I would probably wait until I was about 5 mo to tell them so it seemed like a longer time to them!

I ordered some pregnancy test off the internet and they should be arriving any day! I know I will be disappointed if it is BFN but if it is BFP it will be madness and craziness! AH!

[karmamamaa]

Well ladies a couple of days ago I took it (bought a two pack) and got a really, really faint second line. We're talking it could have been my brain playing tricks on me! But there was a faint line there I know it.

So then I take the other one out of the box (First Response) and I pee on it....and nothing! No control line!!!!!
It was a lemon!
Arrghhhh.....

So then I'm freaking out and I"m like "OK, now I have to go buy more pregnancy tests (btw don't you think First Response owes me another test stick!!!) and I totally can't deal with this drama"....

4-5 hours later.....AF comes......5 days late

So, either

A. Brain playing tricks on me/ stress

B. Chemical pregnancy maybe?

Either way, I must say I am relieved....but as it was so eloquently written above...I also feel the slight twinge of disappointment....

[BettinaAuSucre]

IUD consultation went well, though I am currently dealing with AF, i am unable to get it yet, as I need a complete physical as well as a pap. UGH. SO i have to wait until i am done with AF then get the physical, THEN i can get the IUD in a couple of weeks IF my insurance covers it. I went with Mirena as it has a shorter usage period and i want to ttc in a couple of years at least.

So i got the depo shot today so i dont have to abstain for a month until get the IUD.

wee fun.

[SeekingSerenity]

Originally Posted by karmamamaa

4-5 hours later.....AF comes......5 days late

So, either

A. Brain playing tricks on me/ stress

B. Chemical pregnancy maybe?

Either way, I must say I am relieved....but as it was so eloquently written above...I also feel the slight twinge of disappointment....

Was AF different in any way, like really really bad cramps or a strange bleeding pattern? I'd say it was a chemical if that's the case. (Although I hate that term... pregnancy is pregnancy, no matter how early it ends.)

(((Hugs))) I understand that twinge, btw. It's strange, how you know with your head that pregnancy isn't right at the moment, and it's for the best that it didn't pan out, but your heart knows something different.

[Thystle]

Updates ladies?

[justKate]

No news here. I've been pretty sick (the monkey brought home a bug) and trying not to think about it. I'm 6 days post-oops, and since termination is not an option for me i'm just not going to think about it. I don't drink and try to take good care of myself anyway (since I'm nursing, especially), so I'm going to try to forget about it unless symptoms pop up. Ugh.

I hope everyone else is getting the news they're hoping for.

[ms.shell]

i poas friday afternoon (like 5 dpo, if that)- of course i got a bfn.
sunday morning, same thing. but then, sunday evening i looked at the test again and thought i could barely see a line, so i poas again and got another bfn. i only have one more test, which i wont use again before weds, should probably wait until friday.
feeling crampy and tired.

[First Time Mama]

I need to join this thread, even though I feel kind of rideculous doing so. DTD yesterday morning, I had abundant fertile cf. I have been CTA but have not been temping for several months. Based on mucus I think I O'dd yesterday or maybe today, still had wet sensation and spots of fluid on underwear today. My last cycle was 34 days, but usually they are 30 to 32 days long. I can't really say it was an oopsies, since both of us knew I was fertile and talked about it and then chose not to use a condom, but I was feeling so conflicted about it, I can't really say I was wholeheartedly TTC either. DS is 2 and 1/2 so if I were pregnant, he'd be a little over 3 years old, at the time of the baby's birth. I think that spacings fine, what I'm worried about is finances. DH is a grad student and I am a sahm, and we live entirely on student loans. Student loan amounts don't exactly take a family's expenses into account. I'm afraid we won't be able to afford to pay for the birth. I had a traumatic c/s with DS and I won't set foot in a hospital again if I don't have to, and want to plan a hbac, but don't know where we would come up with the money. DH says not to worry we'll find a solution. If I even am pregnant. I was in a panic and freaking out about it yesterday and today. How early can I test? 8 to 10 DPO or what I think was ovulation? I'm not sure I can wait until a missed period and not go crazy.

[Amatullah0]

I'm starting to think I'm pregnant again. DS is 9mo, and i got my first(and only!) pp AF around Jan 22nd, so i'm kinda hoping i am pregnant, though DH is hoping i'm not but its been a while since AF, and I feel pregnant(but then again, i've felt pregnant since before we even DTD for the first time PP and taken at least 6 pregnancy tests in these past 7 or so months. I just wanted to post this somewhere where, maybe, someone would understand! haha I bought a handful of dollar store tests, and only have one left, but i'm just so tempted to use it! I'd like to wait a few days, see if AF pops by to visit, but OMG! the wait is just SOOOOO HARD!