The "I might be pregnant but I wasn't trying" thread - Page 86

[mommatooth]

oh this is exactly where I wanted to be- somewhere I can drivel a bit :)

I've recently found the man of my dreams...ok I'm in new love. So all of the hormones I am experiencing could be to blame.  We are both older, I have a daughter etc- and I admit I have been a bit teenage about birth control- we have been practicing the withdraw method...I know, I know.  My question is this:   If you had a particularly amorous afternoon say where you needed to withdraw 3 times in as many hours... are there still live sperm lurking about and if that afternoon in question was day 13 of your cycle...

so here I am 7 days po, bloated, crampy, eating everything, tired. cranky... I normally don't get pms, except for the cranky momma part really.  I feel like I am losing it, that could be the love part too- after so long.  anyone want to weigh in on the risk potential of repeated pull-outs?  I assumed that sperm hits air= dead in minutes.

Thanks for listening while I quietly freak out... in good and nervous ways

[dreamingtree]

My understanding is that if the man doesn't urinate or go a specified number of hours (6??) between ejaculations, it increases the chance that sperm remain in the pre-ejaculate for the next time....

I don't think the exposure to air kills sperm so quickly.  Does anyone have a statistic on that?

I think there is only a 25% chance any given cycle for couples actively trying to conceive to actually catch the egg, at least that's what everyone keeps saying on the fertility/TTC boards,  so I'd go with that statistic if it makes you feel any better :)
 

Originally Posted by mommatooth 

oh this is exactly where I wanted to be- somewhere I can drivel a bit :)

I've recently found the man of my dreams...ok I'm in new love. So all of the hormones I am experiencing could be to blame.  We are both older, I have a daughter etc- and I admit I have been a bit teenage about birth control- we have been practicing the withdraw method...I know, I know.  My question is this:   If you had a particularly amorous afternoon say where you needed to withdraw 3 times in as many hours... are there still live sperm lurking about and if that afternoon in question was day 13 of your cycle...

so here I am 7 days po, bloated, crampy, eating everything, tired. cranky... I normally don't get pms, except for the cranky momma part really.  I feel like I am losing it, that could be the love part too- after so long.  anyone want to weigh in on the risk potential of repeated pull-outs?  I assumed that sperm hits air= dead in minutes.

Thanks for listening while I quietly freak out... in good and nervous ways

[CookiePie]

I just posted a new thread about this but then found this....I just realized that I'm 5 days late BUT Dh had a V about 2.5 years ago.  He did the follow up tests & the last one I think at 6 months he had zero sperm count...he continues to pull out because he is paranoid.  So considering all of those things I feel like my chances of being p/g are very, very slim, but I've never been more than 3 days late other than when I was p/g!  So now I'm just not sure...what are the chances???  TIA!

[dreamingtree]

Check out "The Great Sperm Race" on Youtube....  it's not your traditional documentary on reproduction. After watching it, you can't help but think it's amazing that ANY soldiers make it to the prize, if you know what I mean, considering the epic journey they have to make to get there.

[CookiePie]

I just got my period....

[okeydokeysmokey]

ok i joined specifically so i could post in this thread... don't judge me  lol

the bf and i were naughty and used the pull out method for a week and a half back in the middle/end of november. he's usually pretty good at pulling out, so i don't THINK he got any in there, but one time after getting up to clean off i do think i felt/saw some slide out. plus we did another no-no and did it 2-3 times in a row multiple times, so there could've been leftover spermies in his pre-ejaculate (tmi sorry i know).

now, i just got off birth control early last month, AF came immediately after on the 8th of nov. so i'm not sure if i ovulated because my hormones may still be out of whack, BUT i do know that the last time i came off birth control, my period came the very next month, so i would assume i ovulated the month i went off bcp. if i did ovulate, it would've been anywhere from the 18th to the 25th of november (i never keep track of my ovulation, but i did notice i had ewcm from the 19th-22nd).

i started feeling really odd about the 28th, i had to pee a lot and i wanted to eat everything in sight except for cinnamon poptarts, which i normally love. i also had extreme fatigue. this went on until the 2nd of december. i don't feel like i have to pee quite as much, although still a little more than normal. still hungry. i'm extremely tired all the time, i have random achey lower back pains that come and go, and very light cramping which has been going on since probably the 1st. it's not AF cramping, either, it's actually much milder and a bit more constant.

now, my period is regular in that i have one every month, but my actual cycle tends to very from 28-35 days in length, which is driving me crazy in this situation because AF COULD have come today, but it also has a week left to show up before i can call it late.

i went to the doc. on the 1st to pick up a new bcp, they did a urine test obviously and it turned up negative, although i'm fairly certain it would've been too early to show up at that point. i took an FRER this morning because i'm paranoid and POAS is oddly satisfying, and it turned up negative. but today has been the WORST as far as fatigue goes, i got 8 hours of sleep last night, woke up exhausted, took a 2 hour nap just a bit ago and i'm still tired.

i'm not sure if i don't trust the negative because secretly i want to be pregnant (which is dumb because it's not great timing at all and bf would be happy, but not immediately) or because i'm not out of the woods yet.

i do know i don't like seeing the BFN's even though i'm not supposed to want a baby right now :(

also, i don't temp so this may be irrelevant, but i do know my normal temperature is anywhere from 97.1-97.4, and this morning it was 98.1.

sorry for the novel ladies!

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by okeydokeysmokey 

ok i joined specifically so i could post in this thread... don't judge me  lol

the bf and i were naughty and used the pull out method for a week and a half back in the middle/end of november. he's usually pretty good at pulling out, so i don't THINK he got any in there, but one time after getting up to clean off i do think i felt/saw some slide out. plus we did another no-no and did it 2-3 times in a row multiple times, so there could've been leftover spermies in his pre-ejaculate (tmi sorry i know).

now, i just got off birth control early last month, AF came immediately after on the 8th of nov. so i'm not sure if i ovulated because my hormones may still be out of whack, BUT i do know that the last time i came off birth control, my period came the very next month, so i would assume i ovulated the month i went off bcp. if i did ovulate, it would've been anywhere from the 18th to the 25th of november (i never keep track of my ovulation, but i did notice i had ewcm from the 19th-22nd).

i started feeling really odd about the 28th, i had to pee a lot and i wanted to eat everything in sight except for cinnamon poptarts, which i normally love. i also had extreme fatigue. this went on until the 2nd of december. i don't feel like i have to pee quite as much, although still a little more than normal. still hungry. i'm extremely tired all the time, i have random achey lower back pains that come and go, and very light cramping which has been going on since probably the 1st. it's not AF cramping, either, it's actually much milder and a bit more constant.

now, my period is regular in that i have one every month, but my actual cycle tends to very from 28-35 days in length, which is driving me crazy in this situation because AF COULD have come today, but it also has a week left to show up before i can call it late.

i went to the doc. on the 1st to pick up a new bcp, they did a urine test obviously and it turned up negative, although i'm fairly certain it would've been too early to show up at that point. i took an FRER this morning because i'm paranoid and POAS is oddly satisfying, and it turned up negative. but today has been the WORST as far as fatigue goes, i got 8 hours of sleep last night, woke up exhausted, took a 2 hour nap just a bit ago and i'm still tired.

i'm not sure if i don't trust the negative because secretly i want to be pregnant (which is dumb because it's not great timing at all and bf would be happy, but not immediately) or because i'm not out of the woods yet.

i do know i don't like seeing the BFN's even though i'm not supposed to want a baby right now :(

also, i don't temp so this may be irrelevant, but i do know my normal temperature is anywhere from 97.1-97.4, and this morning it was 98.1.

sorry for the novel ladies!

Hmmmmmmmm - with the BFN's its hard to tell. If you really did ovulate between the 19th and 22nd, it would seem like you would be turning up a BFP.

That being said, you did do some no no's with the several times in a row without at least peeing in between. Even better to wait 24 hours! LOL So, it is a definite possibility that you might be pregnant. 

When I got off bcp's a long time ago (I was on them for 7 months) I only had the withdrawal bleed immediately and then got pregnant that very cycle so I never really got my REAL period.

If you were on BCP's why was your period every 28-35 days? Or is this from before you were on the pill? Because right now your cycle could be out of whack from the hormones in the pill forsure. 

The temperature is a little high - but without at least six temps BEFORE you ovulate it really doesn't tell you anything positively. 

Anyways - I guess only time will tell!! Keep us updated! 

[okeydokeysmokey]

the BCP never regulated me quite like it was supposed to. i was on yaz, and i found that i either would get my period during the 4 inactive pills like i was supposed to, OR it would wait and come at the beginning of the next pack. and i was never stressing myself out about being pregnant then, so i don't think it was delayed because of stress. more often then not, i tended to have slightly longer cycles.

i haven't had a real period either, just the withdrawal bleed. and there is absolutely no sign of AF right now. i know CP is kind of unreliable but i checked this morning and it's pretty high up there. i just hate that i don't REALLY know if i ovulated, cause for all i know i could be destined to be on a 60-day cycle :(

my temp was 98.2 this morning. irrelevant but oh well  so annoying, it's higher than my normal temp by a good bit but not feverish at all.

it's driving me crazy trying to figure out why else i would have these symptoms!

[okeydokeysmokey]

ugh -  just got that "Wet" feeling after walking the dog outside for a bit. got in and thought SURELY AF has come, but nope - just a load of very creamy cm.

[okeydokeysmokey]

still no sign of AF.... but my temp dropped to 97.5 this morning and my cp is high and soft. ......you think i'm JUST now ovulating??? so weird lol

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by okeydokeysmokey 

still no sign of AF.... but my temp dropped to 97.5 this morning and my cp is high and soft. ......you think i'm JUST now ovulating??? so weird lol

With the creamy CM it is a definite possibility! Of course some people get creamy cf when they are pregnant too! LOL gotta love our wonderfully confusing bodies sometimes 

[okeydokeysmokey]

well. i went to the dollar tree to get some christmas stuff and figured i'd pick up a test while i was there, and i picked up an OPK just for funsies. dropped peed on both of them.... both negative! so i'm not ovulating or pregnant apparently. i dunno what's wrong with me haha.

i haven't had much cm since yesterday afternoon, i've mostly been pretty dry... cp being high and soft is so odd though. usually right before/during AF it's really really low and pretty firm for me. i called the doc's office to make an appointment for a blood test because i'm impatient, but they haven't gotten back to me yet 

[Simonsez2u]

I'd like to join.  DH and I went to a Christmas party this past weekend and between LSU football and spreading a little holiday cheer got a good bit intoxicated.  We always use the pull out method...except this past weekend.  Of course (TMI alert) my CM was abundant and of perfect consistency all day that day and the day before.  So here I am. 

I have two little ones, one 2.5yrs and a 10 month old.  We've discussed a third and had somewhat planned to start trying next year probably around June.  I will be 36 in a few days and DH is 37 so we feel a little pressured to have our babies.  Even though we are "older" we had no trouble getting pregnant on the first try for 1(chemical), 2 (first try after chemical), and 3 (second try). With that said I would be happy to welcome a new baby if the Lord sees fit but was hoping to wait a little longer.  It's about to drive me bonkers wondering if it's really possible that the one time we get a little "irresponsible" I get a little pregnant.  I am imagining little twinges in my uterus constantly.  Really though how good are my chances that we nailed (no pun intended ) the exact right moment in the month to conceive?  I tested at 9DPO with my other two and got a positive so I guess I will wait until then to test. 

[okeydokeysmokey]

booo LSU, ROLL TIDE!!! just kidding :P i live in AL but i don't much care for college ball since i didn't grow up here. good luck with the wait, hope you get the result you want :)

as for me.... a good 45 minutes after i call to schedule an appointment for tuesday, AF shows up, trying to make me look ridiculous. at least i still need a pap smear so i don't need to cancel and look like an idiot 

i assume it's AF anyway. no flow yet but i wiped and it's brown cm with teeny streaks of blood, which is not uncommon for me to get the day before/the day of AF. so i'm counting myself out for now!

Edited by okeydokeysmokey - 12/8/11 at 3:17pm

[Simonsez2u]

Um well I had a little brown spotting today and AF is not due until next week...but an early test said negative.

[Simonsez2u]

I am in utter shock and disbelief.  I took two test today and both were BFP  !!!  I CANNOT believe it.  I'm happy and hopefully it is a sticky bean but wow was not prepared to be pregnant again so soon. 

[OSTC]

Originally Posted by Simonsez2u 

I am in utter shock and disbelief.  I took two test today and both were BFP  !!!  I CANNOT believe it.  I'm happy and hopefully it is a sticky bean but wow was not prepared to be pregnant again so soon. 

Congrats! All the best for a healthy pregnancy! :)

I've been subscribe to this thread for a few years and I am in fear and trembling that I"m going to end up here again as well lol I had my 3rd baby 12wks ago and as much as I'd love to have more kids. I am planning to wait at least 2yrs before even thinking about getting pg again.  I want to finish bf and then do some major detoxing and get my health back in order first... Thing is that every time try to get pg I don't, & every time I try not to I do Plus my body is acting like it wants to restore it's fertility now rather then wait till I finish bf....

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by Simonsez2u 

I am in utter shock and disbelief.  I took two test today and both were BFP  !!!  I CANNOT believe it.  I'm happy and hopefully it is a sticky bean but wow was not prepared to be pregnant again so soon. 

congrats! Happy and healthy nine months to you!  Sending you positive vibes. I totally understand how sometimes it is a bit overwhelming to be pregnant. 

[MacKinnon]

This thread doesn't look very active right now, but I need a place to worry a bit, so here it goes!

My DH and I have three beautiful kids, nearly 8, nearly 5 and 16 months. We are pretty sure we are done, although DH has been on the fence about wanting to try for a fourth. He was hedging on doing anything irreversible, which truthfully, makes me hesitate. He keeps saying he "just feels like there is another person out there for our family." So, New Years, we of course, decide to have a few to celebrate. We've been relying on loose charting (mostly CM monitoring)/avoidance of fertile times and withdrawal as birth control. Not the best plan, but it's worked for us all this time, like 15 years, as our primary birth control, and hormonal birth control makes me nuts. After quite a few glasses of champagne, neither of us were being to careful. I said yes, when I should have said no, and he forgot his, umm... duties.

Yep, we DTD right smack dab in the middle of my most likely fertile days. I was not temping/charting, so I don't really know for sure. But I temped and charted for long enough, to have a really good idea I am pretty much as fertile as possible right now. DH and I very, very torn. We had not been SURE we were done, but we were about 90% sure we were done. I suppose if we were more sure, we would have been more proactive about birth control. We're planning on moving this summer, we're going through some tough times right now and a pregnancy would be difficult. I have had three miscarriages too, and the stress of the last pregnancy, spotting, progesterone, BETA tests and U/S, it was just all a lot and we felt at the time it was enough reason to not want to go through it all again. Ah well, what will be will be! I won't test until at least 1/14 (which is DH's birthday!) or so...

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by MacKinnon 

This thread doesn't look very active right now, but I need a place to worry a bit, so here it goes!
My DH and I have three beautiful kids, nearly 8, nearly 5 and 16 months. We are pretty sure we are done, although DH has been on the fence about wanting to try for a fourth. He was hedging on doing anything irreversible, which truthfully, makes me hesitate. He keeps saying he "just feels like there is another person out there for our family." So, New Years, we of course, decide to have a few to celebrate. We've been relying on loose charting (mostly CM monitoring)/avoidance of fertile times and withdrawal as birth control. Not the best plan, but it's worked for us all this time, like 15 years, as our primary birth control, and hormonal birth control makes me nuts. After quite a few glasses of champagne, neither of us were being to careful. I said yes, when I should have said no, and he forgot his, duties.
Yep, we DTD right smack dab in the middle of my most likely fertile days. I was not temping/charting, so I don't really know for sure. But I temped and charted for long enough, to have a really good idea I am pretty much as fertile as possible right now. DH and I very, very torn. We had not been SURE we were done, but we were about 90% sure we were done. I suppose if we were more sure, we would have been more proactive about birth control. We're planning on moving this summer, we're going through some tough times right now and a pregnancy would be difficult. I have had three miscarriages too, and the stress of the last pregnancy, spotting, progesterone, BETA tests and U/S, it was just all a lot and we felt at the time it was enough reason to not want to go through it all again. Ah well, what will be will be! I won't test until at least 1/14 (which is DH's birthday!) or so...

I honestly have never been *super* excited about any of my pregnancies (I have three bio kids) - but I sure do love my little kiddo's! I hope you get what outcome you want, and peace vibes if you get the one you would rather not