The "I might be pregnant but I wasn't trying" thread - Page 89

[Renaissance31]

Warning! Rant alert!

Ok... Let me start by saying I have always had crazy regular cycles. Like so regular that I had an OB tell me that it wasn't possible for them to be THAT regular, that I had to be mistaken. Mmhmmm. Well yeah. They are. 28 days. The end. I can count on one hand the number of times I have had a cycle that wasn't 28 days (well since I began paying attention about 10 years ago) and when it has strayed from 28 it is 26 or 27. The only time it has been longer than 28 was my 2 full term pregnancies. Well here I am, 6 days late. No BFP to show for it either. Well, as of 2 days ago. I'm out of tests. Gonna get more today I guess. This not knowing what is going on is killing me. I can't focus on anything. Seriously. I feel like a vegetable. With our DS, my first pregnancy, I tested positive on the day my period was due. With our DD, I didn't get BFP until 5 or 6 days after my period was due so here I sit 6 days late.... BFN at 4 days late.... Waiting till this afternoon to go to the commissary to pick up a few more dollar tests. Ugh. And my brain is mush. MUSH!

Ok. I think my rant portion is done.

So in other news, we weren't going to start trying for our third for a good long while so this has thrown a wrench at that if I am pregnant. Which is ok. We're planning to stop at 4 (maybe haha) so it's not like we aren't ok with being pregnant again. But we wanted some time. Our first two are 14 mos apart. I love it, my husband loves it, but we were hoping our stress level could... Level out a bit, haha, before the next one. Also money stuff. Blah. I hate money. But for me, my main concern is my body. I still had some extra weight around from DS when DD came along, so now I have some extra weight from both. I feel like a blob. I used to run marathons. I was hoping to get back in shape and run one between DD and our #3. And now with this maybe surprise baby, DH is saying...hey since we don't know one way or the other let's just keep DTD until you for sure are and then we will know (he still doesn't quite understand girly stuff, bless him, lol)! I think he has gotten attached to the idea of another baby now. So now even if it is for real a BFN and AF shows up he has the baby itch! lol

Oh boy. Or girl? lol

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by FruitOfTheWomb7 

I need thoughts from wise women!  I just had DS2 April 8th and this morning i woke up with light bleeding.  For the last week or so DH and i have DTD almost every night.  What are the chances of this being implantation bleeding.  I know i sound naive (forgive me) but with my other LO's i did not get my first period until they were over 1 year and no longer nursing through the night.  Since DH and i have been so active lately i am wondering if it is even possible for this to be AF.  Any thoughts?

With my DD2 - I had weird random spotting for a few days here and there up until about 4 months PP. With DD1 and DD3 (K in my siggy is my adopted step-daughter) I had no spotting after my Lochia was done. Not sure what causes it really. But anyways, I didn't get a real PPAF until 10 months so the spotting was random.

Originally Posted by Renaissance31 

So in other news, we weren't going to start trying for our third for a good long while so this has thrown a wrench at that if I am pregnant. Which is ok. We're planning to stop at 4 (maybe haha) so it's not like we aren't ok with being pregnant again. But we wanted some time. Our first two are 14 mos apart. I love it, my husband loves it, but we were hoping our stress level could... Level out a bit, haha, before the next one. Also money stuff. Blah. I hate money. But for me, my main concern is my body. I still had some extra weight around from DS when DD came along, so now I have some extra weight from both. I feel like a blob. I used to run marathons. I was hoping to get back in shape and run one between DD and our #3. And now with this maybe surprise baby, DH is saying...hey since we don't know one way or the other let's just keep DTD until you for sure are and then we will know (he still doesn't quite understand girly stuff, bless him, lol)! I think he has gotten attached to the idea of another baby now. So now even if it is for real a BFN and AF shows up he has the baby itch! lol
Oh boy. Or girl? lol

Good luck!! Maybe if anything you could start getting in shape while preggers? Harder said than done, I know! I was about 10ish pounds over my *goal* weight when I got preggers with DD3 and I didn't start GAINING weight until about 15 weeks. I just stayed where I was. 

Here's hoping you get the outcome you want 

[Renaissance31]

Thanks Annie! I agree. When I was pregnant with DD I thought I would do that, but then when I wasn't busy enjoying DS I was just too tired. Not to mention we live in the desert so it is HOT and our house at the time had a swamp cooler and was a bit cramped so it was too hot to workout inside even. But now we live in a bigger house with wickedly cold refrigerated air so working out inside is a breeze- haha. I have been doing the Firm and plan to keep it up, baby or no baby, and running will just have to wait I guess. I have too many back and knee issues and have been out of running too long to jump back into it if I am pregnant. I would love to find a cheap elliptical on craigslist though. Hmmm. LOL

For me, I will never weigh what I'd like. Too much muscle and bone density. Sigh. Lol So I go by size. I am two sizes away from my goal size right now so I'm trying to focus on slimming excercises, though I won't be slimming my midsection so much if I am pregnant! Maybe I can just focus on these wretched thighs!

[blissbeyond]

I guess I just need a talk down! Since I got my period back pp about 8 mos ago my cycles have been short 21 to 23 days. I'm on day 26 and no moon so I'm worried I might be pregnant. Could someone tell me something to calm me down like it's possible that all of a sudden my body's settling in to it's old rhythm and that pull out method works! We had a night on day 15 of my last cycle so chances are slim that's the case right? I just want to stop worrying about this! Thanks so much :)

[sleepingbeauty]

Count me in.  I'm 6 days late.  I feel pretty normal.  I have thiese cramps that send me running for the bathroom, tampon in hand and NOTHING!  Testing on Monday....

I HAVE had some pretty crazy vivid dreams recently.  Eating cake, fighting, kinky sex...  I have weird dreams often but these were so REAL.  I'm more tired, I guess..but I'm also moving house.  And hungry...but when am I not?  I *might* have been a little nauseous yesterday but (a) it's too early for that and (b) it was a hot day.  I'm sure it was just the heat screwing with me.  Maybe my boobs are swelling a little..but that's not uncommon for me.

Ugh.  I just want to know at this point.  Preferably via bloody toilet paper. 

[sleepingbeauty]

Oh, I DO have more sensitive smell.  But couldn't that be a PMS thing too?  They're just too damn similar!!

[sleepingbeauty]

BFN!!! BFN!! BFN!!!!!!  YAAAAAY!!!!!  

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by sleepingbeauty 

BFN!!! BFN!! BFN!!!!!!  YAAAAAY!!!!!  

Glad you got the outcome you wanted! 

[sleepingbeauty]

Yeah, definitely!!  I'm still waiting on AF though.  1 week, 6 days late...  calling the gyno on Monday and retesting tomorrow morning. 

[vachi73]

Uh oh. Just got a BFP for what could be #5. Hopefully not a second set of twins. Not at all planned, and to be honest, the only thing I feel right now is embarassed. I am horrible at pregnant (very, very sick) and our twins are only 2.5.

Not excited. And DH will not be either. One too many months putting off a vasectomy.

[sleepingbeauty]

vachi--Sending hugs to you.  Are you going to be alright?

[annie2186]

Originally Posted by vachi73 

Uh oh. Just got a BFP for what could be #5. Hopefully not a second set of twins. Not at all planned, and to be honest, the only thing I feel right now is embarassed. I am horrible at pregnant (very, very sick) and our twins are only 2.5.
Not excited. And DH will not be either. One too many months putting off a vasectomy.

 I hope you will be ok 

[vachi73]

Me again. Yep, I am pregnant with a #5. Good news is that it appears to be a singleton, and intrauterine (not tubal ... though I have no idea why I worried about that). Conceived on cycle day 25, and I usually have 31 day cycles. At least it wasn't as much of a total screw up as I originally feared. Still reeling, though. Started vomiting yesterday (6w5d), like clockwork. Although have not thrown up today.

I go back next week (8w) to confirm normal growth and re-confirm heartbeat. At that point, will have to have a painful discussion with DH. Just not sure we can do a fifth. Ughhhh.

Thanks for the kind words. I really appreciate it.

[sleepingbeauty]

vachi--Sending huge hugs and lots of strength your way.  You do whatever it is that you need to do for you and your family.  If you need to chat/vent I'm always online.

[junebirdie]

I am glad I found this thread because I am starting to worry. I had a Mirena removed last month on the 17th and AF came the day after. I only had the IUD in for three weeks.I bled for about three days with little to no cramping. I usually have really painful cramping but not this time around. DH and I have been using withdrawal since then but we weren't able to be intimate during what I believe was my fertile period due to a yeast infection. (I'm not really sure what my fertile period is at this point because I had a miscarriage and then the IUD put in so this is my first month back to "normal" so I am going by the time I normally ovulated before)

I am not due til next week but the past few days I have been extremely tired to the point that I can't keep my head up during class and I've been sleeping at least ten hours a night. My back has been cramping some and I've been cramping intensely after intercourse. Also, I am irritable and having a voracious appetite. I know all of these symptoms can mean that AF is coming but because these were the main early symptoms I had when I got pregnant back in March, I'm starting to get paranoid. We didn't have any oops moments with the pulling out that I know of. Am I reading too much into it? I am almost tempted to go the dollar store to get a test to put my mind at ease but I don't know if it would read correctly at this point.

DH and were not trying to conceive when I got pregnant in March but when I had a  miscarriage it really tore us up (even thought we didn't feel "ready" ) I think perhaps my emotions are getting the best of me. I haven't really had anyone to talk to about it.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.
 

[littlerocknroll]

Hi all, I'm new to MDC but I sure found the thread I belong in. I am obsessing just a bit, because I am only about 5 dpo. SO and I got lazy (once) on vacation, but it was definitely my O day. Since then I've had a vivid "2 pink line" dream (which was several nights ago, and I'm still too early to actually be prego!), swollen breasts, super irritable, 4dpo I had loads of cream CM (i only really notice if its ewcm, so maybe this is just normal?), gagged brushing my teeth--happened my whole pregnancy with my DD, had some minor cramping, eating a ton, spells of exhaustion, lower back pain, had some wine but it tasted like rubbing alcohol...most of those could totally just be PMS. A few stick out as super odd, but isn't it just way too early to have any REAL signs, especially things that happened days ago? 

I'm trying not to sweat it. We have been a little more lax lately but never this close to O time. I guess I'm okay either way, but the waiting is making me crazy! It's good to have a place to get these feelings out. Good luck to all in the same boat.

[Mrs.Oz]

Oh. My. Goodness.  I haven't been on here in about three years and I can't believe this thread is still going!  How awesome!  My little girl below was the first BFP on this thread, back on page 9.  How crazy.  It's been a good three years :-)

[mataji4]

Sorry vachi...sometimes the feelings get more complicated.  I am on day 5 of "Not bleeding but sometimes there's a speck of brown or red on the toilet paper."  Which is what I do for 6 or 7 days when I'm pregnant.  I've spotted for two days before a period but usually the spotting is more substantial.  I keep saying "holy shit."  This would be baby number 6 for us.  Embarrassed, I can relate to that.  But also just shocked!  The only sex we had this month (because I was out of town for a lot of it) was on day 6 (the last day of my period) and day 24.  Funny how this month I read an article on how our hormones during sex can cause an egg to drop early.  Wow.

I also had a dream a couple of nights ago that I was clearly pregnant and playing with baby's foot.  And last night I couldn't sleep and I felt all this intense energy in my lower abdomen, as if I was radiating energy from there.  Seriously.  Now I will be shocked if I'm not pregnant.

Not talking to husband now, he just started back teaching yesterday, is swamped and has a bad cold : (    So thanks for listening! 

[47chromosomes]

Oh gosh, I love that this thread is here for us to get our feelings out.  DH and I have not been charting at all, though I can usually just tell from experience having previously charted about when I ovulate.  We have been instead using condoms full time as we weigh out whether a vasectomy is right for us.  Well, the other day I thought I would do my DH a favor and buy him the fancy ultra-thin-like-nothing-there condoms... yeah.  On about day 13 this cycle one of those fancy condoms bust wide open during DTD... DH actually said before we discovered it, "This condom almost feels better than nothing."  LOL  Well, as soon as we noticed why it had been so great for him, I shot out of bed to use the restroom, you know, in hopes the sperm would just fall out or something. Bought a new Basal Thermometer the next day and started to taking my morning temp the day after that.  CM was copius and stretchy starting the day after that condom breakage incident, four days later I had a really deep temp dip, then after that CM dried up and temps have gradually risen... so by my estimation I O'ed about 4 to 5 days after... so I suppose anything can happen.  For us, we will not be devistated to be preg... I think we would be rather joyful though stunned and overwhelmed, however we will be quite relieved if we are not, too.  But this waiting, scrutinizing any little thing going on with my body, is really getting to me!  Actually, this whole incident has brought feelings up in me I did not expect... we were trying very diligently to avoid as our last birth was traumatic for everyone, but now... gosh, to hold another baby in my arms...  sigh.  We will see what happens... and if anyone is in need of a supply of fancy very thin condoms, well, we got some for ya!
 

[mataji4]

I know, imagining a baby...I get attached to the idea quickly.

I was thinking about this sixth day of spotting, and I thought, "what else could be causing this?"  I remembered during my period last month I was sick and took antibiotics.  I did some research, and apparently antibiotics and being ill can both effect the menstrual cycle.  Most women reported being about two weeks late on average.  I was right on time, but just spotting instead of bleeding. So not really the same thing.  

I won't try a pregnancy test until Saturday.  By then if I'm pregnant this spotting will have petered out to nothing.  It's like a thriller...."IS JENNY REALLY PREGNANT?  WILL HER HUSBAND DIG A HOLE AND BURY HIS HEAD WHEN HE FINDS OUT?  IF SHE'S NOT PREGNANT WILL THEY DRINK TEQUILA?  STAY TUNED NEXT WEEK..."