Early May 2WW - Page 8

[Kayda's Mom]

Originally Posted by Katie34

Hello-
'I am having this beautiful cramping right now- it feels more expansive than contracting.

It is funny- I have told DH recently that when TTC all these signs that might usually be annoying are actually a joy. So now when I say- I am cramping and my breasts are sore- he says- good!

LOL
My DH is the same. Last week I emailed him from work and told him I felt like cr*p and he replied "it's a sign honey!". I emailed back and said..."no..really..I feel like cr*p". Plus I was really fatigued and he was excited. Sounds bizarre to outsiders...LOL

[corikodjo]

Originally Posted by Lauren31

Cori-- I guess it could be implantation spotting, but I thought that was normally more brown and DEFINITELY not enough to fill a tampon. It's possible you had a really off cycle, you know?

sorry had to go out and do errands. so....it's only brown spotting now. only red the first wipe. maybe it really is implantation spotting.

[corikodjo]

Originally Posted by Nicole R.

I stared and stared at your chart, and no other days seem likely for ovulation. It would be bizarre if your LP was suddenly so much shorter. I'm sorry that I don't know anything about implantation spotting; I never had any myself. But what else could it be?! : for you!!

Thanks so much Nicole for staring at my chart. I think it's etched in my brain now. Anyway, it's just brown spotting now - guess I'll wait and see. I know - I've never had such weird cycles till I started TTC.

[Nicole R.]

Originally Posted by corikodjo

Thanks so much Nicole for staring at my chart.

It's nice to stare at someone else's chart for a change! Mine isn't that exciting. It's exactly the same as it was when I entered this morning's temp at 7:30 a.m.

[laurelg]

Originally Posted by Nicole R.

It's nice to stare at someone else's chart for a change! Mine isn't that exciting. It's exactly the same as it was when I entered this morning's temp at 7:30 a.m.

Geeze Nicole, didn't you know if you squint really hard, spin around three times, click your heels twice and stand on your head, your chart will totally change to a YES or NO?

[laurelg]

Originally Posted by •Adorkable•

on a more personal note (wow what could be more personal than poas plans?) the last thing my Beloved did as he shipped out was reach down as we were hugging and crying and rub my belly just for a second and whisper thoughts of a baby. it was the first time he has ever done anything like that, that image and memory is stamped into my mind and will carry me thru quite a bit

Sheesh, Adorkable - you're making me get teary-eyed at work! That is SO SWEET. I am crossing all my crossables for you... and I can even include my legs now, hehe! Your chart looks so good, especially with your last two temps leveling out so high... Maybe 8 DPO was an implantation dip, and that's why 9 DPO was too early? I sure hope so!

Thanks for all your well-wishes, as well. I'm definitely sending all my leftover baby dust your way!

IIRC, your DH is Army - will he be able to schedule his mid-deployment leave for January?

[~Adorkable~]

Originally Posted by corikodjo

I've never had such weird cycles till I started TTC.

aint that the true, tell it sister!

Originally Posted by laurelg

IIRC, your DH is Army - will he be able to schedule his mid-deployment leave for January?

my Beloved is in a very small unit that cares very much about the families and considers us a part of the unit thru and thru, this goes miles in making this deployment easier. And yes the have said that they will work everything they can to get the 2, hopefully 3, men that are expecting babies hope for the births or a time of their choosing. It is war so no promises can be made.

That being said, we are not sure if aiming for the birth is the best choice for us, it is a long way off. We have thought about him coming home while i could still travel and us going to a tropical resort as a prebabymoon, or him coming home when he is sure to see his offspring in person, rather than sitting around having me feel pressured to give birth before he leaves.
With it being my first pregnancy and just a 18 day R&R window and all the things that can get delayed on either side, catching a birth would have to be letting it up to chance and we knew that going in. I am going to have a home or birthcenter water birth and he knows himself and being a medical person feels a certain level of stress about that, so has not decided if he wants to be in the room anyway. He also respects my right to birth however i feel safe and knows i am in good hands with my mother (who birthed me on her bed) and my close friend that is a nurse and giving birth to her second child in water in dec. I respect his honesty and his right to do what is best for him, he should only be there of his choosing, just as i should birth in the manner of my choosing.

it is all theory now, i wait and see. but as you can tell we have talked a lot of about this aspect

[Aly22681]

•Adorkable• I'm sorry your husband left, hopefully you just tested too early, one of my BEST FRIENDS had been TTC for over a year and just found out that she got pg the NIGHT before her DH deployed. Maybe this will ring true with you as well.

My DH should be deploying in sometime this summer, however his unit only does 3-4 months at a time. During that time however, I will be doing IVF (if this month did not work) so HOPEFULLY, He will come back to a 2nd trimester pregnant wife. I can only imagine the gossip around post when my DH has been gone for 4 months and comes back to a 3 months pg wife HAHAHAH!!!!

Take care of yourself!!!

[laurelg]

Adorkable - I know what you mean about not wanting to schedule FOR the birth. A friend of mine is expecting in August - her husband is in Iraq right now, and he's planning to come home a couple weeks after she's due so he'll actually get to meet the baby. But - a last vacation for "just the two of you" is a great idea, too!

My husband is also very supportive of my desire to homebirth... He was skeptical at first, but has pretty much done a 180. He doesn't feel compelled to be at the birth, but said he will attend if I'd like him to. I initially couldn't imagine giving birth any other way, but have been giving a lot of thought lately to not having in the room until after the birth - probably after I deliver the placenta, actually. I'm just afraid he'd be an unintentional distraction and throw me off my game. (Don't get me wrong - I know he'd try his hardest to do everything he could for me... and that's the problem! The poor guy isn't a mind reader and I don't want to attack him if he does the wrong thing, lol.)

[corikodjo]

Originally Posted by •Adorkable•

aint that the true, tell it sister!



my Beloved is in a very small unit that cares very much about the families and considers us a part of the unit thru and thru, this goes miles in making this deployment easier. And yes the have said that they will work everything they can to get the 2, hopefully 3, men that are expecting babies hope for the births or a time of their choosing. It is war so no promises can be made.

That being said, we are not sure if aiming for the birth is the best choice for us, it is a long way off. We have thought about him coming home while i could still travel and us going to a tropical resort as a prebabymoon, or him coming home when he is sure to see his offspring in person, rather than sitting around having me feel pressured to give birth before he leaves.
With it being my first pregnancy and just a 18 day R&R window and all the things that can get delayed on either side, catching a birth would have to be letting it up to chance and we knew that going in. I am going to have a home or birthcenter water birth and he knows himself and being a medical person feels a certain level of stress about that, so has not decided if he wants to be in the room anyway. He also respects my right to birth however i feel safe and knows i am in good hands with my mother (who birthed me on her bed) and my close friend that is a nurse and giving birth to her second child in water in dec. I respect his honesty and his right to do what is best for him, he should only be there of his choosing, just as i should birth in the manner of my choosing.

it is all theory now, i wait and see. but as you can tell we have talked a lot of about this aspect

Adorkable. Its' so important and wonderful that your DH is supportive of your right to birth however you'd like. I'm a doula and I see so many women not choosing homebirth because of their partners.

My husband is very supportive. His sister is a midwife -- so he's known all about this stuff before he even met me. But after seeing The Business of Being Born - he was so pro homebirth it was amazing.

I can't wait to birth my baby at home!!

[biomama]

Originally Posted by •Adorkable•

on a more personal note (wow what could be more personal than poas plans?) the last thing my Beloved did as he shipped out was reach down as we were hugging and crying and rub my belly just for a second and whisper thoughts of a baby. it was the first time he has ever done anything like that, that image and memory is stamped into my mind and will carry me thru quite a bit

Awwwwww, that is so sweet. I'm so glad you had that moment together before he left, and I really hope he (and all the others) come home soon.

Laurel, congratulations! I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and beyond!

Aly, I can just imagine the gossip! How funny!

Cori, I really hope that was implantation spotting! Have you had any more or was that it?

Kati, sorry about AF

For me, I'm just trying to wait without going crazy... I am hopefully going to wait until Monday morning, but maybe I'll break down this weekend. DH is out of town and I hate to test without him. AF would probably show up by Monday too, and I can usually tell when she is about to start her visit

how's everyone hanging in there?

[Kayda's Mom]

Originally Posted by corikodjo

Adorkable. Its' so important and wonderful that your DH is supportive of your right to birth however you'd like. I'm a doula and I see so many women not choosing homebirth because of their partners.

My husband is very supportive. His sister is a midwife -- so he's known all about this stuff before he even met me. But after seeing The Business of Being Born - he was so pro homebirth it was amazing.

I can't wait to birth my baby at home!!

I birthed my second daughter at home and it was the most joyful high a person can have. DH would say the same.
I have to say my recent m/c has taken some of that joy away and I hope to be able to get back to those fond memories.

[KJRSMR]

Hi all,

No af. I did test tonight and bfn. I will try again in the am. I cramped all day all day. BB's are still stinging. My right nip is going crazy. I tried to convince myself not to test tonight because of the amount of fluid I have had today. I wanted to test on my day on the list. Keep your fingers crossed!!!!

[corikodjo]

Originally Posted by biomama

Cori, I really hope that was implantation spotting! Have you had any more or was that it?

I don't know biomama. I'm still bleeding but it seems lighter than AF - so I guess I'll have to wait till tomorrow and see where my temps go. I've been doing a lot of online searching and have seen that some people can mistake implantation spotting as early period. I can't imagine how my LP has gone from 14/15 days to 9. That's weird.

[Lauren31]

Adorkable,


My hubby is Army so I know all too well about the deployments. DH JUST got back (in november) from a 15 month deployment... needless to say it defintiely makes you feel like you biological clock is ticking three times as fast as a normal persons would. does that make sense?? Either way, I wanted to let you know that deployments SUCK but honestly you will be fine, stronger, and a better wife because of it. I don't know how it happens, but it does love always,
Lauren

[biomama]

Hi ladies,
I love hearing about y'all's birthing plans - it brings back thoughts of why we're all going through this crazy TTC process to begin with!

I have no strange symptoms, but I'm going nuts anyway. I have to wait at least until Sunday night to test (DH is out of town) but I swear I think I have a triphasic chart already! I'm trying to prepare for another BFN, and wouldn't believe our luck if our first IUI worked... but could it have? It's possible, right? I swing between getting my hopes up, and then trying to be realistic and reasonable... and it doesn't help that DH is gone :

How's everyone else?

[Snapdragon]

Biomama
Your Chart is Beautiful!
Maybe you could go ahead and expect the best?
I know we all have to figure out how much to balance hopeful with cautious, right?
But I am thinking now it is more fun to be hopeful than cautious anyway!

[corikodjo]

Good Morning All. AF showed her mean head tooo early this time. I don't get it. So....I'm out. I'm hoping all of you get your BFPs and I'll see you in the DDCs soon!

[LibraryMo]

Originally Posted by corikodjo

Good Morning All. AF showed her mean head tooo early this time. I don't get it. So....I'm out. I'm hoping all of you get your BFPs and I'll see you in the DDCs soon!

Cori! Is AF behaving normally? It seems like a 10 day LP is really short for you. I hope you take a nice long, hot bath and have a great glass of wine tonight!

[Aly22681]

Originally Posted by corikodjo

Good Morning All. AF showed her mean head tooo early this time. I don't get it. So....I'm out. I'm hoping all of you get your BFPs and I'll see you in the DDCs soon!

UGH, that AF lady sure does suck!!! Hopefully next month will do the trick!