Originally Posted by daniedb
We do it constantly. We're in Texas. I had no idea people "hated" it and that it "annoyed them terribly". Damn, that's some serious emotion about some kids trying to be polite.
If an adult offers an alternative as a preference, then we always go with that. But wow...to be offended by a child calling you Miz Firstname when they first meet you? That's harsh.
Whoever said it's our generation's compromise between the formal Ma'am/Mrs. Lastname and the completely casual Firstname- I think you've hit the nail on the head. I know I grew up calling adults Mrs. Lastname, but it would feel so odd to hear a child call me
that. I really just don't think of myself that way!
I also believe Miss Firstname intended as a sign of both familiarity and respect. I do agree with those of you who are saying that people should be addressed as they prefer, and I'd tell my kids it was all right to call you, and only you, by your first name if you asked. But on the flip side, I would find it very uncomfortable to correct an adult who introduced me to her children as "Kristi". I could not bring myself to say "Actually, I'd really like for you to call me Miss
Kristi- that's the way we do it around here!" I'd feel rude for correcting them that way, and I guess I'd just hope that the local culture would rub off on them.
I guess I'm a little perplexed by the thought of people being offended or annoyed or really deeply disturbed by the Miss Firstname custom. I can understand that it would sound funny to your ear if you were not used to it, just as an adult being called Firstname by a child around here would sound 'off'. But it wouldn't be upsetting, just different. Not a big deal...
And I wouldn't assume the child had no manners whatsoever, without proof of that in other ways. Whereas it seems like some are making assumptions that children who do
use Miss Firstname are in some way oppressed or not respected. Respect goes both ways, and around here, Miss Firstname is one of the ways kids show respect to adults.