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Main reasons why you home school?

post #1 of 17
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Hi everyone!
I wanted to create a poll so that I could print it up for my report. I was hoping to chart the main reasons why parents decide to home school their childre.
Any input is very appreciated!


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post #2 of 17
there are so many reasons why we've decided to homeschool....but I suppose the main reason is because dh and I love spending time with our ds, and believe he'll receive a better education thru one-on-one learning with us than he would in a classroom full of kids and an overworked teacher!

We also like the fact that we're not living under someone else's pre-determined schedule. We wake up when we're ready (instead of having to be up by 7am to make sure ds is in school on time). We get to vacation in the off-season without having to pull him out of school. We learn everyday, throughout the day as opportunities arise, not in scheduled blocks. And we are able to adjust our routine to fit ds...some days he's frustrated with learning to read, so we drop it...some days he wants to do nothing but arts-and-crafts, so that's what we do...and some days he wants to do workbooks all day long, and we accomodate!

(Of course in living our own schedule, it helps that dh and I own our own business and can usually set our own hours -- as long as we meet our deadlines and keep our clients happy!)

Another thing we considered when deciding to homeschool is ds' temperament. Ds is an introvert by nature. He doesn't like being in large groups of people. He enjoys playing alone. He is shy and uncomfortable with strangers. For "socialization" we go out in smaller groups, meet just one or two new people at a time, and give ds space and time to feel comfortable. He wouldn't get this if he went to school.

And last (but not least), we're definitely conscious of the fact that by homeschooling, we will have a bigger influence on ds than his peers -- at least for a while. We are not controlling parents, and always try to encourage his independence....and it's comforting to know that by homeschooling, we have greater opportunity to encourage him to be himself and think for himself (and not follow the crowd), than we would if we sent him off to school eight hours a day, five days a week.

Sorry, I went on and on. Hope this helps with your research! (Though I may have given you more information than you're asking for!)
post #3 of 17
Here are my reasons:

1) We travel with dh who does contract work and this allows us to school, see new places, and stay together as a family.

2) It allows me to work with ds at his pace. He is ahead on reading and science but needs more work on math. We don't have to spend time doing busywork. We can work on what he needs rather than what a class as a whole needs.

3) He has ADHD, and I can provide a low distraction atmosphere and one-on-one attention to control his distractablility instead of drugging him as the ps system pressured me to do.

4) I think the ps system oversteps their boundaries by trying to tell parents how to discipline, how to feed, how to treat children healthwise, etc. This keeps us out of the overreaching arm of the government and allows me to parent as I see fit.

5) The ps system was unwilling to monitor ds's diet or follow my recommendations regarding his activities while he was there.

6) I can be actively involved with ds's learning process.

7) I have control over who ds socializes with and what he picks up. Ds picked up racist, sexism and anti-gay rhetoric while in the ps system. He was also teased and bullied due to poor supervision on the playground.

I am sure there are more but these are all I can think of right now.
post #4 of 17
So many reasons. In no particular order:

1) I would be a teachers worst nightmare. I don't perticularly think school or homework for that matter are all that important in the general schem of life and so there would be many missed days and tardies and missed h omework assignments. Really I could never get out of the house by seven every morning. I can't get out of the house by 9:00 for goodness sakes.

2) I really think it is disrespectful to make children ask to go to the bathroom (and then to be told no when they have to go:mad: ) and to ask for a sip of water or to only be allowed a few sips of water. I also want my children to eat when they are hungry and stop when they are full. This is hard when you have to eat luch at 11 and won't be able to get a snack for another 5 hours. Eat all you can wheter you are hungry of not cause it will be a while befor you get anything else.

3) I want to be incharge of the way my child is taught and what she is taught. I think religouse reasons fall into this catagory.

4) I think children learn best in a home environment. it is so hard to larn when you are surronded by 34 other students of baring degrees of commitment and intellegence.

5) It is cheaper and provides more oppritunities for the good stuff without having to sacrifice you health.

6) Better for the immune system to not be locked in a room with 34 children of varing health whose parents may have drugged them before school to make them appear healthy so she wouldn't have to take a few hours off work or find a baby sitter.

7) Socialization
post #5 of 17
Schedule: Dd is a nightowl, at her best at about 7pm. That's when we work on the tough stuff (contrary to the "do it 1st thing in the morning when they're fresh" philosophy). Also, it'd be a fight every day to get her out of the house on time.

Dd doesn't want to go to public school.

Don't want to be under someone else's authority about when our family can do stuff together, like travel or go to the zoo.

Having moved state to state a bit, it's absolutely mind-boggling how much the cutoff dates vary. This bugs me. It shows that kids grade level is determined by the whims of the system rather than their abilities. Dd is all over the place as far as grade level, and has made sudden leaps in abilities.

I always say PS teachers should be writing me thankyou notes for keeping my kids out of school...I'm sooooo opinionated I'd drive everyone nuts. Dh is even worse! We'd be getting in the way of the relationship the child should have with a teacher.

Bugs me that kids change teachers every year (if not in Waldorf or Montessori) so relationship doesn't develop. Hmmm...I'll have to work on a better way to express the problem here, but that comment will have to do for now.


Younger sibling learns from older since they're both home. Family is closer (sibs can be better friends). Kids don't learn to exclude non-age-mates.

I'd be doing most of the same "educational" stuff whether dd went to school or not. This way we have more time to do the educational stuff (reading, field trips, kitchen science, life skills, math games, foreign language, music dance, gymnastics, etc., etc.) and adequate goofing off time. I have a friend who does as much with her PS educated kids as I do with my homeschooled dd...what's the point of sending them to school?

Homeschool kids seem on average to be more internally motivated.

Lack of a good Montessori school in the area. I'd strongly consider school if a good alternative existed.
post #6 of 17
We're not homeschooling yet...

My dh and I are thinking of taking ds#1, who is 6 out of the system because: we never make it on time
the teacher is obsessed with enumerating his many wrongs at pick up time(shaming to say the least)
he hates going everyday
he is bored
is jealous of 2.5 year old ds at home with mummy all day
we never go to the museum
his learning has dropped since he started going to school (he was writing his name at age 2, counting, exploring and just a sponge with any knowledge)
he loves to learn on his own, according to the teacher he is easily distracted in groups and never finishes assigments on time (he is in kindergarten!)
he is a self directed learner and does not do well without choices
his self-esteem has suffered...

spirited mama
post #7 of 17
We homeschool our kids because they would be completely bored all day in school. We did the kindergarten thing one year, and that was it. At home they are free to learn what they want, and what I want them to learn when we want. Plus I can teach them better than anyone else could. We've been at it for 4 years now, and I know they will not ever go back
post #8 of 17
1. I do not feel there is any substance the the ps curricula.

2. I do not want my dd's spirit crushed into some clone/drone semblence of a child.

3. I do not want my child exposed to the value system ps's purport to have.

4. I want to be with my child to answer her questions, find answers with her, and experience her to the fullest.

5. I don't want my child exposed to "food" at ps or advertising by Pepsi and others.

and ????????????? much more I am sure
post #9 of 17
This Monday we took ds #1 out of Kindergarten and it feels great! His behaviour was much better: he was kinder, more respectfull, and more cooperative!

All the indecision and not-knowing what we were going to do was much worse. There is an Alternative School across the street, although to register they make you jump through hoops...

I keep reading stories that end..."and we never went back". So, I think we may never go back...However, my ds chose school. We had intended to homeschool. He is a spirited child and I had a feeling he would not fit in.

spirited mama
post #10 of 17

baa baa baa baa

I would prefer my children not be turned in to sheep so early in their little lives. I am certainly not the cookie cutter mom; my life, my family, my children are unique and I like it that way. We unschool, though the kids have tons of workbooks and we do use 5 in a Row principles with our own books. Learning is not just something we do in a building over there with them; it happens right here, everywhere, all around, all the time. I want my kids to KNOW that, learn it from me and with me.
post #11 of 17
ITA with all of the reasons that Clancysmum listed. I will not have my child subjected to self-degredating rules like raising your hand to go to the bathroom, not speaking at lunch, etc. The textbooks are full of falsehoods and inconsistancies that children are forced to memorize and spit out onto tests that they will be "graded" on. Plus Channel One and the Coke banners everywhere... it is disgusting.
post #12 of 17
* Not wanting ds to have to follow an artificial schedule. ("Put down that book you're reading/poem you're writing and go to your next class")

* I think that his education is my responsibility, before and after he's "school age"

* Schools don't prepare people for life outside of school. I want to have time to teach him to cook, clean, take care of kids, change a tire/oil, balance a checkbook, grow a gardeen . . . all the things school steals your time away from.

* I want him to be able to learn about whatever he's interested in at the time. If he wants to learn about bugs or rocket science, I want him to have the freedom to run with it.

*School strips kids of basic rights; privacy, solitude, the freedom to eat when they're hungry or go to the bathroom when they need to.

* Schools teach kids that parents aren't important. Ex: the school nurse helping girls obtain abortions.

* Schools use students as a captive audience to advertise to.
post #13 of 17
Reasons why I will homeschool--specifically unschool...
  • I believe that public school sucks the natural desire to learn right out of children
  • I believe public school teaches children poor social attributes like follow the crowd, bullying is fun, etc.
  • I believe public school is an artificial environment. Why not give your child the real thing?
  • I believe there are many topics and subjects that public school skips over and I want my child to be allotted the time to pursue them.
  • I believe that children given the time and the resources will learn everything that they need to know without pressure or constraint.
  • I believe children gain a self-confidence and self-assurance when they take control of their own education. I know that I did.
Those are the ones most pertinent to me...though there are many more.
post #14 of 17
School strips kids of basic rights; privacy, solitude, the freedom to eat when they're hungry or go to the bathroom when they need to.

I am glad someone else thinks this is a serious reason to homeschool.
post #15 of 17
1. Philosophy of learning/education.
Belief/experience that learning is only relevant when chosen/consented to by the learner, and best acomplished via hands on, real life methods. Conviction that it doesn't matter if a child is 3 or 13 when they begin to read/do math/operate a computer/etc, but it matters a great deal if they are forced before they are ready. Knowledge that one on one, personalized attention/education is far superior to mass, institutionalized education.

Too much shallowness, comercialization, bullying, cliques, teasing, conformity, etc. Too many suicides and murders and traumas and exposure to b.s. like sex at 13 or drugs at 7.
A conviction that socializing with a wide range of ages and situations results in a maturity far beyond being segregated with only those of one's age and general neighborhood.(Gee, who better to model for our children than others with their same level of experience and skill NOT!!! They need others, of all ages, younger to nurture, older to guide, other than those paid to tend them. They need to spend most of their time with others who are with them out of love/honest interest, not obligation. And who have something to offer in terms of their real life interests/occupation.

3. Our family schedule/lifestyle.
School was nothing but a huge hassle for us. Son late sev. times a wk, life built around school schedule and activities, too little time for real life adventures/togetherness/family transitions, etc. (sorry, we can't go to the beach this week; it conflicts with school

4. A rejection of the whole idea that the government/state has the right to compel citizens to submit themselves and their children to a standard, approved education/brainwashing for 12 yrs. I think acceptance of such a system holds great potential for abuse/danger. (not to mention mediocrity Remember, the Germans were the first to establish compulsory, public education, and this was one of the first things they took over when invading a nation, instituting their propaganda as the standard curriculum. IMO, too much about PS is about indoctrination and control, and too little about true learning.

5. A refusal to subject my children to the risks and abuses so common in the system today.
Strip searches, locker checks, metal detectors, random drug tests, censorship of their press/speech/religious freedoms, see through back-packs, and "panty inspections"(can someone please tell me why lifting the skirts of girls at the prom, in the presence of male classmates, to make sure they were not wearing thong panties is a "safety issue", as was claimed by the principle in question? A local story.)
I fail to see how "students" subjected to such gross violations of their rights and responsibilities as granted by the Constitution and Bill of Rights can be expected to mature into "citizens" who know and value those rights/resp. IMO, they won't. They will accept what they have learned to be acceptable. I have REAL issues with that!
And the schools cannot, despite such police state measures, ensure the safety of the children in their care. It is extremely foolhardy, imo, to have all our children collected together in institutions as opposed to spread out within their respective families/communities. Too many shootings/bombings/stabbings/infections/possibility of terrorist attacks, etc.
(Not to mention, tho’ I will, the crass comercialization so common; ads, channel one, vending machines, junk food franchises, “nutritional education” provided by the meat, dairy and sugar industries, etc.

6. I actually enjoy the company of my children.
I know, I must be nuts but I do. I missed my son dreadfully when he was in school that yr, and I was working ft. (no, I was not sitting home pining away, but busy all day with a job I enjoyed. Still...) When I did see him(a few hrs a night) I felt as if I didn't know him anymore; he had changed so much for the worse. Tired, cranky, putting on a demeanor of cool, self-conscious, commercialized, adverse to "learning",etc. Like a different child.
They are young for so brief a time, even compared to the brief lifespan we all enjoy. Why rush to "grow them up"/get rid of them/ prepare them for the so-called real world??(brings to mind the question of if the real world is as it is mainly because of the preparation for it Hold them, protect them, love them, exercise your infulence over them, and be with them as long as possible, imo. Poo-poo to those who would guilt you into turning them over to the gov/corporations asap. for manipulation by those who do not know them/care one whit about them compared to their parents. They will go when they are ready, and be better prepared to live as authentic Human Beings. JMO

7. Experience.
I know that I learned most of what I know on my own, not in school. I hated school from the 6th grade on, and left it at 16. I later got my GED(at 18, with no studying/problem, with very high scores)and went to college, where I kept up a 4.0 GPA.
I saw a good idea recently; make a list of all you know/could teach someone else. Then note how much of it you actually learned in school. My list is almost all out of school stuff.
As I watch my kids grow, I become more and more assured that they will thrive without schooling. My 10 yr old already knows more on every "subject" than most adults I meet. (from reading, talking, tv. etc) By the time he reaches 18, he will be better "educated", in a far more well-rounded manner, than most coming out of the system. And anything he lacks, he can learn as needed(as I did; never touched a computer until I was in college, and later worked for a dot.com company. IMO, the mentality that we have to start them out at age 2 is idiotic; I also never learned to drive 'till I was 35, and needed to for the first time. No biggie. No need to take drivers ed in preschool

8. As someone mentioned, the food in schools is abysmal. And my son is a vegetarian(which meant that 2 days out of the wk he could get something he could eat, the rest, we had to send something. All this talk about "choices of food" , ususally meaning junk food, and it's too hard to offer a veggie option out of the two options a day? I guess so.

Those are the ones that spring to mind. Probably more
Kimberly, mom to Forest, 10 and Lily, 2;.5
post #16 of 17
To me, unschooling means life. Nothing more, nothing less. We do waht happens/we create each day. If that meansw a trip to the Science Museum, okay. If that means fixing the car or washer, okay as well.
Humans have always learned from watching those in their families/communities/doing according to their interests/needs. Institutionalized , compulsory schooloing is a very new thing.
We don't segregate "learning" from "life". I don't think it is possible to transmit/measure true learning via a standardized curriculum or testing. But when my son offers up solutions to everyday problems from his store of "knowledge", I know that he has truly learned it. When he can refer one "subject" area to another, I know he understands the underlying issues/meaning.
There is context and cohesion.
Our typical day might not inspire awe but it is typical; Might mean a trip out to the zoo or museum. Might mean the library for a few hrs out of the whole day spent reading or playing. Might mean going to pay the water bill and then getting the car inspected. might mean doing nothing But overall, we learn so much.
IMO, it is all about trust and faith; trust that your children will WANT to and LEARN without being forced to. Faith that they will master the skills and knowledge they require regardless of an organized plan. That they will grow into mature, competant Human Beings without professioanl instruction(only yours and that which life offers). And with experience, such faith/trust tens to grow, ime. You watched them learn form birth; to breathe(sp?why does that look odd) to nurse, to crawl, to speak, to master the laws of physics, language, socialization, etc in a million ways. Why, at age 5 (or 3 or 4) should this process STOP, to be replaced by some other, profesionally guided one? Nonsense, imo. It can and will continue uninterupted if allowed to.
Kimberly, mom to Forest, 10 and Lily, 2.5
post #17 of 17
OOPS! That lat post was intended for another thread Sorry!
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