I've been NT going on 4 years now. I was very strict about it for the year before I conceived, and all throughout my pregnancy. I hardly ate a thing that wouldn't be approved by SF herself. So, along comes DS, and his birth was beautiful and much less painful than I expected. He weighed 7lbs 12 oz, but shot up to the 90th percentile within a couple weeks. I was a milk-making machine. When DS got older, his weight began to drop, until he was in the 25th percentile. He developed black circles under his eyes. He came down with colds frequently, and the colds would last for weeks on end. They also often developed (and still do develop) into bigger issues, namely bronchitis and ear infections. DP and I have been very upset over this for a long time now. I know that kids get sick, but my kid seems downright sickly. Even when he's not sick, he's got those damn circles under his eyes, and the number 1 comment made about him is that he "Looks tired." I suspected a food allergy a long time ago, so I cut back (back when ds was ebf) on all the obvious suspects for a couple weeks, with no change in ds. I also took ds to a very expensive Doc who was into homeopathy and was natural-medicine inclined. He did not suspect a food allergy. So time goes on, and I finally took ds to a naturopath who agreed that ds likely has a food sensitivity. I got him blood tested for it yesterday, but I am feeling very upset and sort of betrayed by my scrupulous NT diet. When I read SF or Aviva Jill Romm's "Healthy Babies and Kids," I read that it is my fault that ds is unwell. I fed him too many of the wrong foods. In fact, DS enjoys a wide variety of foods. He did love and consume a lot of raw milk, raw cheese, cultured dairy, and pastured eggs, but that's exactly what's prescribed by SF. We have ready access to, and enjoy, the best quality foods. I was very into TF foods and herbs, and even met my DP at herb school. It was kind of ingrained in me that when kids are sick, it's the parent's fault. I felt that way too, and I never imagined I've have a kid who got sick so much. On the flip side, though, ds is a very beautiful child, with a large, perfectly shaped head, wide palate, and very pleasing facial features. I'm not going to stop eating or feeding my family TF foods because I still agree with the diet, but I just am having a hard time getting over the notion that if you do everything "perfect" with your kid, they'll never have any problems. I cringe when I hear parents brag about how their kids didn't get the sniffles until age 10 or something. It makes me feel like a horrible mother. Of course, if my DS never got sick I'd attribute it to his "perfect" diet. I guess this post was mainly a rant. It's an issue I've been struggling a lot with lately, so I suppose I needed to get it off my chest.
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4/22/08 at 4:13pm