When To Call People Who Do Not RSVP?

[lucyem]

Party is on Sunday, today is Wed. Nine days ago invitations were given out. Less then half have responded. I have emails for a couple of parents so I was thinking I would send some emails off today and then call the others tomorrow. Or should I wait? Thanks!

[meesa143]

I just read something about calling the night before. hth

[crissei]

I would assume that the people who did not RSVP are not attending.

[limabean]

I think it depends on what type of event it is -- is this a casual, backyard get-together where there'll be plenty of food for everyone no matter how many of the invitees come? If so, I'd probably wait until Friday or Saturday to check in and see if people are planning to come.

If it's going to be catered or there's otherwise an issue with ordering/buying the right amount of food, I'd check in with people today so you can try to get an accurate head count.

[lucyem]

Its a backyard birthday party but I am making things for each child. So its a bit of work on my part and I need some time to get it all done. This happened last year but then it did not matter. And a number of people never RSVP'ed and just showed up that time so I cannot assume.

[jempd]

It is so rude to not RSVP when the invitation says RSVP on it. This is a pet peeve of mine.

My ds had a birthday party two weekends ago, and the place we had it at asks you to call with the final count of guests two days before so we had to call about half of the guest list. One mother told me when I saw her at school that her son was coming and to please e-mail her the address, time, info again. So I did. They never showed. Don't get me started about my wedding.

Even if you're not having something catered or at a place that wants to know how big the party is going to be in advance, people should respond politely which is to thank you for inviting them in the first place--that is, thanks for inviting us! we will/will not be able to come.

[limabean]

Originally Posted by lucyem

Its a backyard birthday party but I am making things for each child. So its a bit of work on my part and I need some time to get it all done. This happened last year but then it did not matter. And a number of people never RSVP'ed and just showed up that time so I cannot assume.

Oh, I didn't realize that it's a b-day party -- how rude to not RSVP for that! I'd call people tonight or tomorrow -- you can be really nice about it and just say you're checking in so that you know how many kids to plan for. Have fun on Sunday!

[*Kelly*]

I always have that problem with my kids parties. I usually just buy extras of everything. But, if it was something I absolutely had to know in advance, I would call the night before.

[SAHDS]

Originally Posted by jempd

It is so rude to not RSVP when the invitation says RSVP on it. This is a pet peeve of mine.

UGH, me too. Do people understand that RSVP means to simply respond, yes OR no?

Anyhoo, I'd call the day before.

[dimibella]

Originally Posted by jempd

It is so rude to not RSVP when the invitation says RSVP on it. This is a pet peeve of mine.

Me too! We recently had DS' 6th b-day party and out of about 20 invites only 6 people RSVP'd, same thing happened last year. I seriously do not understand people. Last year I called everyone, this year I didn't worry about it since I wasn't doing anything individualized for the party favors, but come on people it takes 5min or less to call someone and say yes we'll be there or no we won't.

[Nolamom]

We live in a community where no one takes the RSVP seriously. For birthday parties for my DD & DS, I have totally given up on the RSVP. On my DD's last invite, I didn't even put it!
After several occasions where no one (not one out of about 15-20!) RSVP'd, but almost everyone showed up, I said enough is enough! Now, I just make sure that i have enough party bags, food, etc. for all invitees. Yes, we had some leftovers, but that was okay with us.
I wouldn't call, but just would make sure you have enough to go around.

[laila2]

Originally Posted by Nolamom

We live in a community where no one takes the RSVP seriously. For birthday parties for my DD & DS, I have totally given up on the RSVP. On my DD's last invite, I didn't even put it!
After several occasions where no one (not one out of about 15-20!) RSVP'd, but almost everyone showed up, I said enough is enough! Now, I just make sure that i have enough party bags, food, etc. for all invitees. Yes, we had some leftovers, but that was okay with us.
I wouldn't call, but just would make sure you have enough to go around.

Dito. For the ones who do not RSVP, they get the left over hats and party bags from last year without their name on it. I can not deal with the calling and junk.