Originally Posted by YesandNo
I see no benefit to watching TV. My daughter is 1 month now, so I'm not dealing with this yet, but I don't want her to grow up like I did.....in a house where the TV was always on a "background noise".
Moving out, getting my own place, learning that I don't have to have that noise and distraction on all. the. time. was a huge liberator for me.
More recently, while I was pregnant I was zonked and watched several hours a day of TV. Stuff on TIVO, no channel surfing. Then the writer strike happened, I got sick of crappy reality shows, kept it off. I read a lot, did more visiting, organized my closets. Again, it was like my life opened up. I had so much more time every day. I had to think of things to do instead of zombie-ing out.
So, right now the plan is no TV for the kiddo.
The question is....... how many first-time parents feel that way, only to "succumb" in a couple years (or less)? I don't mean that in a judgmental way. Having a baby has taught me that my pre-birth expectations were sometimes laughably wrong. I can say now what I want for my child as she grows up, but I'm not so arrogant as to believe that I'll know what it's really like until I get there.
I lived in that same house!
When I first moved out, I found the silence deafening, and I started doing the same thing. Then when DH and I moved in together, we had a TV (wedding gift) but no cable and very few movies, so I had to get used to it. I was awful at first, I honestly got a bit depressed. It was like a life long friend had died. But once I got used to it (and it really tooks years!) it was something I cherished.
We started out wanting no TV for DD1, and although they both watch very occasional DVDs now, they don't watch TV at our house. When DD1 was little I used to avoid places with TV, ask people we were visiting to turn thiers off, etc - but what I'm realizing now is that I don't want to make TV this big forbidden thing, and give it power in that way. So they watch a few cooking shows at my moms with her, sometimes see a show at a friend's house, etc. It's no big deal. Just not something we go at home.
This has worked really well for us so far, and I can't imagine getting cable at any point. DH and I aren't interested in missing time with each other to zone out (we had cable for about 6 months as a promo with our internet - our relationship took a serious downswing) and there's nothing there we need. We rent or buy movies for the tow of us, or the family occasionally. So yes, I think you can go without TV (or DVDs or any of it), indefinetly, if that's what you feel is right for your family.