"When I grow up, I want to marry *sister*" - Page 2

[One_Girl]

My dd told me she is going to marry me and about half the kids in her class as well and they are all going to live with us. I just said okay. From what I have heard this is a normal thing for kids to say and they grow out of it on their own without needing anyone to tell them the problems with it.

[2shy2post]

Originally Posted by IdahoMom

It would sure make it easier to deal with the in-laws. . .

Originally Posted by LynnS6

"Oh," dd replied. "When I get married, I'm going to do that with *brother*.

[Xoe]

Originally Posted by IdahoMom

It would sure make it easier to deal with the in-laws. . .

LOL!

My DD1 is going to grow up to be a daddy and a king. Then she's going to marry her baby sister (the princess.) And then they are going to have wedding cake!

xoe

[emaye_to_2]

My DS is almost five. He has also told me he will marry his little sister when he grows up. I just think it's adorable.

[RachelSerena]

I wanted to marry my brother when I was about 5

I told my mom and she just said that usually when people get married they want to have babies together, and that if I had babies with brother, it was possible that the babies would have messed up bodies.

I think that pretty much IS the reason (besides psychological ones, lol) that marrying your siblings is verboten.

My DD says she wants to marry her Uncle (who is 7 mos older than her).
I basically told her the same thing, adding also that you don't need to marry someone who is already in your family.

[Elastagirl]

My son was the ring-bearer in my cousin's wedding when he was almost 3. The little girl who was the flower girl was at least six and didn't really spend any time with ds except to pose for pictures and walk down the aisle, but for WEEKS afterward, ds insisted that he had married her! He kept talking about, "When I got married to Flower girl, it was really FUN!"

[hollytheteacher]

Originally Posted by 2shy2post

What do I tell DS about this? (he's 5)

The first time, I said, "Oh, that's so sweet, I'm glad you love your sister so much."

Then he asked me if he could marry her and I said, "No, you're too young to get married"

Then he said, "No when we're grown ups. I want to marry *sister*."

I'm sure there's a simple answer to all this ~ but for the life of me all I can think of is "because that's gross" (which, I obviously didn't say to him )

This is what we say to kids at the preschool i teach at:

child: I want to marry my brother/sister/mother etc when i grow up
Teacher: Well, the cool thing about your brother/sister/mother is that he/she is [I]already [I] IN your family. The idea about marrying someone is that you are inviting them in your family so usually you find someone that isn't already in your family, but you love SO MUCH that you want to include them in by marrying them.

[MommytoTwo]

Just say ok. He WILL get over it. LOL

[angela&avery]

my dd is 4 1/2 and says she is going to marry her 6 year old brother often!! She loves him so!!
she also says she is going to marry her Dad... LOL

I just say oh really??

Recently ds said NO YOU CANT and she said why and he said bc you cant and i just explained to her that people dont usually marry their brother or sisters....

[angela&avery]

Originally Posted by MommytoTwo

Just say ok. He WILL get over it. LOL

i know, right?? LOL that is my take too, but then ds has to speak up and ruin the easyness....lol

[mommy68]

All 3 of my children wanted to marry either me or my DH. It's completely normal (or at least I hope so). My DD is 6 now and the last time she wanted to marry someone was when she wanted to marry her oldest brother. She also wants to marry her daddy and she never wants to move out of our house (okay with me). My 13 y o now refuses to believe that he told me he wanted to marry me when he was 5 of course, but he did, I swear he did!

I agree with the others, just say OK!

[mommy68]

Originally Posted by IdahoMom

It would sure make it easier to deal with the in-laws. . .

..orrrr would it?

[GooeyRN]

At least they like each other!

[AuntNi]

When my DD was a tiny newborn, her 5- and 1- yo boy cousins were ooh'ing and aah'ing over her. My 5yo nephew asks, "Who's Beau (little brother) going to marry when he grows up?" I replied, "I don't know. Why?" 5yo nephew responds, "Because I'm going to marry Mar-nay-na." I replied, "But you can't marry her, because she's your cousin." He started bribing me. "But I'll build her a nice house!" It was so sweet!

Now, he can barely stand to hold still while she plants a kiss on his cheek, so it definitely did pass! :LOL

[hipumpkins]

My DD is 5 and is going to marry her brother. He is going to be the dad and they are going to drive Shop Rite all by themselves.

I said, "sounds like fun"

[hattifattener]

Seems like the general consensus is to not say anything. That's totally fine, but I think it's also OK to give a brief explanation if you've got a child who's really invested in figuring everything out.

I gave my little scientist a brief run-down on genes, and I told her that brothers and sisters have very similar genes, and that people who want to get married and/or have children need different genes for a healthy baby. She was fascinated- not upset at all.

[Belia]

My dear nephew, who's the light of my life, is in the stage where he says he's going to marry me. I'm so sad for the day when he outgrows those thoughts and I become just another relative he has to be nice to at holidays.