Modest Dressing Mommas - Page 8

[momma_unlimited]

And while I'm on my soapbox...

I even think that it is dangerous to go out and condemn people mentally for their skanky clothing. It would be far more "spiritual" to notice a woman in immodest clothing and pray for protection for her in her naivete or brazenness, than to put her down. Right? I wish my mother had taught me to do that, rather than to look down on women showing their cleavage.

[momma_unlimited]

I don't know. I find the idea that the Amish flaunt their modesty to be somewhat absurd.

Just to clarify I was not thinking of the Amish when I mentioned flaunting modesty. I was thinking more of some women I know who do not have cultural reasons to dress differently, but do it to make a point and have a rather sour attitude towards women they consider immodest.

[annettemarie]

Oh, I know. I think I was piecing together several posts in my mind and picturing flaunting Amish. I just couldn't see it.

[bmcneal]

I try to dress modestly. I don't really wear sleeveless, I only *like* wearing ankle/calf length skirts (I've been wearing pajama pants, but that's only because they have the drawstrings. For some reason even though I'm "showing" a little, my skirts are mostly too big now?) I've been trying to find dresses like the "teen princess dress" here but they don't have them in my size. I just like how modest they are, and how they aren't all "Here I am. Come have a look." I haven't seen anywhere to get them, and I don't have a sewing machine, so if any of you know where I could get one, please let me know.

I have been wanting to cover my head for some time now.

[Liquesce]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

Those weird "modest" bathing suits, however, I totally think are modest to a fault.

: I've heard the same said by calf-length skirt wearers about women in ankle-length skirts, non-hair-coverers about women who cover their hair, hair coverers about women whose hair covers don't cover ears or neck, and so on ... I'm a little wary of the whole "my modesty is ok, and yours is too much" thing.

Originally Posted by bmcneal

I've been trying to find dresses like the "teen princess dress" here but they don't have them in my size.

Maybe not exactly what you're looking for, but you might try something from here.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by Liquesce

: I've heard the same said by calf-length skirt wearers about women in ankle-length skirts, non-hair-coverers about women who cover their hair, hair coverers about women whose hair covers don't cover ears or neck, and so on ... I'm a little wary of the whole "my modesty is ok, and yours is too much" thing.

That was actually my point. We all have our own opinions, but I don't think we can apply our own motivations and convictions to others.

[Liquesce]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

That was actually my point. We all have our own opinions, but I don't think we can apply our own motivations and convictions to others.

I'm not above missing something in someone's tone, apparently ... bummer, 'cause I was looking forward to getting all soapbox-y.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by Liquesce

I'm not above missing something in someone's tone, apparently ... bummer, 'cause I was looking forward to getting all soapbox-y.

Your pictures in your signature are absolutely beautiful, btw!

[Liquesce]

Oh, thank you.

[Kidzaplenty]

Thank you for that link. I love modest dresses. My biggest problem is, of course, nursing and wearing them. I am going to have to make my own, I guess (if I ever get my sewing machine fixed). Or if I can find any that are nursing dresses (I know they make them, but finding them and affording them are my problem).

Oh, well! For now, I will stick to my skirts.

[annettemarie]

Mennonite cape dresses are great, because they're made for nursing. I'm actually wearing an older style Motherhood nursing dress today, and it reminds me of the cape-style dresses.

I generally wear tops and skirts when I am nursing.

[damona]

going back a few posts to the how to keep your legs warm in winter bit... i bought a couple pairs of pettipants at the renaissance faire last summer, one is cotton and one is silk. they work great in summer to keep your legs from getting chafed and in winter they help to keep you warm! they have an elastic waist and the ankles and are kind of blousy, not form fitting like leggings. of course, i have long legs, so i usually end up with the "ankles" just below my knees!

i also double up skirts when it's chilly. i have a bunch of those ankle length, crinkled cotton skirts, so i just put one under the other like petticoats.

[heidirk]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

That was actually my point. We all have our own opinions, but I don't think we can apply our own motivations and convictions to others.

I had a feeling this would come up, and rightly so! I'm not judgeing the Amish. My dad grew up plain mennonite, and so did my Grandmother on my mom's side. The knew and worked with a lot of Amish families, so they are in a position to know and understand attitudes, etc.

It's funny because they judge each other on their standards of plain dress, with some Amish thinking the Mennonites are not modest, and some Mennonites thinking the Amish are affectatious in their modesty. My dad said that how plain you were was definately a point of pride among church members, and that they did look down on the English for their 'wild' ways.

Neither my father or my grandmother joined their churches, partially because of these attitudes. When my mother was in elementary school, the plain girls would tease my mom and her sisters because their skirts were too short, and said they could smell their crotches because of it.

So, yeah, there's some prideful flaunting going on there.


On a different topic- I found a promising site for nursing dresses, I think it's in my favorites, let me go see. . .

http://nursingmamas.com/e_commerce/c..._detail&p=6230

There it is!


And Moonshoes- No, it's not flaunting to follow your convictions, even when noone shares them. That's strength! I'm not going to do or not do certain things (like swear, for instance) just because I would be conspicuous otherwise, I just do not swear, period. It does make me stick out, but it doesn't mean I'm flaunting my nonswearingness!

[tricia80]

I am a conservative mennonite convert... I used to dress immodestly even though i thought it was quite modest at the time... I wear a full cape dress and a headcovering and yes i do get stares even though i live in mennonite country ( i used to live in the city and that was way worse).. I feel people can stare all they want.. I am letting my light shine.. by looking at me and talking with me they know i am a christian and I follow my bible and church accordingly. Some days it would be easier to just throw on a pair of pants and go but that is not what the Lord has led me to do and i personally am convicted that women are to dress different than men.. That is MY opinion.

At the same time I will NOT degrade another persons attire they so choose or at least attempt not to (yes i am human). I will actually pray for that person and hope that they are kept safe especially with all that is out in the world. Personally if you are flaunting ur figure or whatever u are looking for attention and definately in the wrong way. Again that is MY opinion. I don't force my opinion on anyone. I have lived on both sides of the fence and this stems from MY experiences.

Some amish and mennonite churches are just modern churches with the word amish and mennonite in them. And some are just culturally mennonite. There are tons of mennonites out this way with varying views. it is too hard to generalize them all because the beliefs maybe the same but the applications from the bible are different.

Ok i have no idea what i am writing anymore or if its even beneficial at this point.. but hey its typed up now..

[heidirk]

No! I understand what you're saying! I did try to specify that this was my family and area and experience. . . HTH

[intorainbowz]

Backing up a bit, I find that for formal wear, it is easiest to combine a shirt and skirt. When I was pregnant I found a lovely long sleve crepe blouse at maternity. Problem was that it had spagetti straps in the liner tank. (WHO can wear spagetti straps while pregnant and not have their bra show. I mean I needed the industrial strength bra.) I bought a coordinating blouse with cap sleves, which fit my definition of modesty and sewed it into the blouse. After the formal, I unsewed it, and had a cute top. I love mixing and matching things to make something immodest modest.

For me, modest does not include being frumpy or not calling attention to myself with my clothes. I'm LDS, and others have described our clothing requirements. I LOVE LOVE LOVE to be fashionable. I adore looking at fashing magazines and figuring out how to combine things to make them modest, and still fashionable.

Oh, and I'm in love with those tunics linked above.

I've really thought a lot about getting one of these style suits http://www.bodykini.com/ or http://www.splashgearusa.com/ I'm ok wearing a one piece and skirt, but my skin is so pale, I'm very limited by the sun. If I had one of those suits... I could play outside in the water all day. Plus... not having to shave every day I'm on vacay (what is that? I forgot) would be a HUGE plus.

[bmcneal]

I have a question about head coverings. What do those of you who wear them use? I purchased a head covering from our church, but DH would like for me to only wear it during liturgy or times of prayer, so I need something more day-to-day. I've looked at scarves, but I'm not sure how to wrap/wear them, so any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.

TIA!

[imnottelling]

Originally Posted by bmcneal

I have a question about head coverings. What do those of you who wear them use? I purchased a head covering from our church, but DH would like for me to only wear it during liturgy or times of prayer, so I need something more day-to-day. I've looked at scarves, but I'm not sure how to wrap/wear them, so any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.

TIA!

These are pretied bandannas which are pretty simple to wear -- they have elastic on the bottom, and tails from the side so you don't have to tie them.
http://www.covermyhair.com/index.php...c49d8347d48aed
http://coveryourhair.com/WomensPreTiedBandannas.html

Alternatively, here is a great guide to tie scarves:
http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/tying.pl

http://happyheadwraps.com/ looks cute, but I haven't tried them out myself.

[moonshoes]

speaking of coveringings...is there a tribe/thread specifically for head-covering mamas?

[bmcneal]

I don't know, but that would be nice if there was