I use to dress to show off my err assets kwim. But when I was in the middle of my military service I 'found' God and spirituality with a pretty strictly modest church. The women dont wear make-up, jewelry, pants, skirts above the knee, sleeveless, or low cut nor do they cut their hair. I loved it for a while and noticed that when I was dressed modest strangers tended to respect me more, co workers even corrected their behavior and language around me without my request. I struggled with the religion for a while and 'relapsed'. During that time I met my husband and his mother who was attending the same kind of church I use to go to and I took this as a sign. It has taken me 3 years to get back to church but I have been compelled to dress modestly and stop cutting my hair off. I dont know if I will give up jewelry or tattoos or piercings (ones you cant see unless your my husband).
I feel that there is a freedom in modesty and I would like to carry it as far as head coverings and I have started wearing my hair up and contained in public. I am not bragging but my hair is beautiful and by far my best feature and it causes people and men to stare and have lustful thoughts. I also like the thought that only my husband gets to see my hair down or me dressed un-modestly and that its something that I save for him only. I hope that I can show him the goodness of it but for now he thinks I am strange (in a loving way). He does like it when I dress sexy but I think that I can be sexy-sophisticated and still be modest for him.
I talked to a lady in church and we are going to get a skirt sewing party together soon. The best thing about skirts is that they are easily adjusted in length and width and they can be used throughout your life and last longer than pants, they are also easy to make at home and not look homemade (if anyone cares about that I have to wear business attire for work so it makes a difference).
There is the issue with heat and extreme cold and thigh rubbing but there is that chafing cream out there and it works great, also Sears and JC Penny's sells modern bloomers and short like slips that come in cotton, or make a flannel pair; you can make petticoats for the winter under corduroy, jean and twill skirts - pair that with boots (UGGS are great in Alaska) and or leg warmers and your set for winter. Summer time is a big issue with heat. I lived in Arizona for a while and that's a challenge but make a pair of cotton bloomers, under shorts, wear boxers, bike shorts or coulots and that is solved along with knee length hems.
As for altering tops for modesty invest in some lace and make dickies or little inserts for low necklines. Look for pretty camisoles sold at bigger department stores and stock up during sales. I always layer even if its with an A-shirt (aka 'wife-beater' tank top) from the men's department, this gives me a sense of more modesty and I know that my mid-drift wont be exposed.
Hit the thrift stores, there are always skirts there and you can buy a pair of jeans to convert into a skirt but be warned its not as simple as cutting the legs apart and sewing them together so look for a tutorial on-line.
Maybe I will make a tutorial out of the skirt sewing day and post my results for everyone to see.
this is awesome I thought that only Judeo-Christian and Muslim dressed modestly I am glad that other women do to and that they realized the respect and dignity we receive in return. In some ways this is the anti-feminist feminine movement. I feel that the exposed way that women dress, according to popular fashion, is a form of feminine oppression. We are consistently told we are not beautiful enough and exposed to body competition and desensitized to the degradation. Men don't respect women that dress in-modestly and neither do other women. I feel that women can dress how they want to but they also nee to know that they will be treated the way they dress, even if they don't realize it.
I spent 4 years in the military working with men and half that time was spent modest. I learned valuable lessons. When I dressed like a hoochie men were rude to me and spoke in degrading sexual ways to me. When I dressed modestly they opened doors for me, offered seats, told each other to watch their language and corrected their discussions about me (I overheard a conversation about the women in my work space. The men were being disgusting in their conversation and when the subject turned to me they couldn't say anything gross, they were actually 'impressed' with my modesty. It was a good feeling and I was glad that even in privet the guys respected me. I was far more comfortable working around them after that)
Is there anyone out there who has had experiences like this?