Originally Posted by wytchywoman
So what exactly is considered modest dress. I'm sure it's pretty subjective but are there standard guidelines that most of you have in common? Some of it I'm sure is kind of common sense like no cleavage, no bootay showing out the bottom of your skirt, stuff like that....do some of you wear pants, or only skirts and dresses? What about sleeve length?
For me, modesty is.... subjective to the weather. I will admit that in those hot muggy days, I have worn even strapless dresses out, because I can't stand any more fabric sticking to me than I must. In general, dress for me is based off the idea that I want to look attractive, lady-like, feminine, and pretty. I do not want to look sexual, slutty, etc.
My general standards are:
-long skirts are preferable (mostly for personal style, and fun. they are so fun!), shorter skirts (around knee length) are fine as weather appropriate.
-when I need to, I will wear pants (like for work). only when needed. they are not "skin tight" jeans, though they are fairly tighter than I might like. (from pre-modest days, but I can't afford new jeans. they don't fit anymore though, so they're less tight).
-sleeves should be weather appropriate. I don't mind short sleeves, or even tank tops (but not the spagetti strap top, for the most part.) if it's hot out. however they do look sometimes odd with a long skirt AND headcovering long sleeves in winter, short in summer. I will even wear spagetti strap leotards and pants for workout, because a leotard is what I'm most comfortable working out in.
-clothes should not over emphasis my bust, butt, etc.
-clothes should be neither too baggy as to make me look unkempt, fat, or otherwise ugly, but should not be skintight. fitted is best. (exception would be leotards. I grew up in them. they feel perfect to me. to me they aren't sexual. I will wear a leotard and a skirt as an outfit happily.)
-I also cover my head in public and in front of unrelated men (and sometimes women I don't know well, it depends on how I feel)
they're just my standards, what I'm comfortable with.
Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove
What is y'alls prefered undergarments? I usually wear just a bra, but I am feeling pulled toward making and wearing stays
. The structure seems like it would be a lot more supportive for an endowed lady, such as myself, and would provide some nice back support. Did a mention redistributing for a smoother look? lol.
And the stays seem like it would be a lot more comfy than a corset.
umm that would be panties. I don't do bras (except very very rare special occasions, where I need the "shape". But it's so so comfy not to wear bras, and since I've always hated them, I've realized I don't want to live my life in that much discomfort. If I'm having bouncing issues, I wear a leotard under my clothes, and the ladies get squished close enough not to bounce. problem solved.