Originally Posted by purplegirl
Might I respectfully suggest that you re-frame how you look at her hair. It is what it is. Black girls have so many issues with hair that, as her mom, you need to encourage her to love it no matter what texture it takes or how unmanageable it is at times. I also take issue with your use of the word "nappy". Nappy is beautiful and simply means "natural state". That said, I suggest that you use natural products like olive oil, shea butter, or coconut oil.Also check out www.oyinhandmade.com
I love their products--all natural and homemade. Use these oils when her hair is wet. It might be easy to divide it into sections, plait it up and comb out small parts at a time. A very cute style on black girls is a single "afro puff" or two "afro puffs"-attained by parting her hair straight down the middle and gathering with an elastic band (not rubber) on both sides of her head. Do you know how to cornrow? If not, perhaps you can find someone who can do nice cornrows. They last for a good period of time depending on circumstances. Best of luck with your sweet baby!
Great advice, as a Black woman with biracial kids, 2 puffs is what I do for my dd's hair. Easy and cute, or when I detangle her I let her wear it out totally free.
Purplegirl is correct please be mindful of the language you use as your dd grows up, now personally nappy is a compliment to me, I am a nappy headed woman with locs
. Yet it took years to hear nappy as a compliment instead of the negative that its always seen as, and since I am guessing you are white, it might be harder for your dd to hear that language coming from you.
By the way, it does sound like washing only 1x a week will be better, I wash my locs every 7-10 days and they are fine. My dd has curly hair that is more white textured so washing daily works well with her but when my son was a baby I washed his hair just a couple times a week.
As for tangles, order the Greg juice from Oyin, I use that on my dd as well as my los and its amazing. When I detangle, I lightly dry her head (she is 2.75) and spritz her hair with the grad juice and sit her down (takes at least 20 minutes) an gently detangle, the greg juice helps a ton.