Originally Posted by purplegirl
I think it is a process that you have to be mentally prepared for.
That feels so weird saying because natural should always mean better, right? I wished it were that simple for women of color. Make sure that your self-esteem and image are solid. Be prepared for the comments; people are likely to say the stupidiest things and question your judgment. I have found black men to the ones who did the most questioning. That was hurtful because I needed to feel acceptance from them; that my beauty was appealing regardless of the texture and length of my hair. That said, I went natural a couple of years ago and haven't looked back. The questions and comments came but I endured and what made me determined was my strong sense of self that occured after years of self hate and poor self-esteem.
I wish you well in your journey! It is one worth considering!
ITA w/this.. going natural is a journey, when I changed my hair in some ways I changed my mindset. Its been 8 years and in that time, I have made lifestyle changes that were just a natural evolution from becoming natural.
It was hard because while my dh supported me, my Dad was a real UA violation, couldn't understand why I cut off all my "beautiful" hair
: to have a inch on my head. Even now he still throw a comment here and there but now I just brush it off, since he is the one with the issues, not me.
There was also the fact that in a simple act it was like I became invisble, but in becoming invisible by this society's standards of beauty, I have found myself.
Good luck on your journey!