Originally Posted by chfriend
I'm probably one of the people you are referring to. There's not a thing in the world wishy washy about me. Not being defensive, just the facts.
I've often said it's a weak mom that feels a need to hit their kid. By the same token, it takes a strong mom who loves herself and her children to stand against bringing punishment into the home, focusing rather on building a relationship experience by experience as we grow together.
If my 6 year old went to a neighbor's house without telling me and then ran from me, taking away a birthday party wouldn't solve whatever caused that to happen. It would be a giant heads up to me that my attention was needed in an immediate way to figure out what had gone so horribly awry.
Well I don't know what you read in my post that suggested that I do anything different than what you just outlined.
ITA with it...
It just seems like this whole thing has been blown out of proportion...like she beat her kid, or grounded him for a month.
What she did, keeping him home from the party, might be less than ideal, sure. But it isn't child abuse, and I am sure that the kid will be alright. I think that what he did was a really big deal, very dangerous, and in most households it would have earned him a spanking.
I would have imposed a consequence of some sort, and I try to avoid that at all costs.
I just feel like a lot of pp's are glazing over the seriousness of his actions in this instance. Like it is no big deal what he did. I don;t think he needs to be punished, but he needs to understand that he can NEVER do that again.
I don't think that what the mom did was all that serious considering the circumstances.
It is not what I would have done personally, but it really isn't worth it to me to pass some sort of judgment on her based on such a little thing. Sheesh!
She isn't even the OP...I wonder how she feels about dozens of strangers grading her parenting practices/decisions on the internet?