Originally Posted by IfMamaAintHappy
something that annoys the heck out of me about people not getting it... most people totally understand that dyslexia is a processing disorder of the brain, right? They totally get that if you have dyslexia, you actually see the letters and numbers we see, but your brain processes them and jumbles them up unpredictably. (That's a total generalization about how dyslexia actually works, but for the sake of explanation, go with me here..)... YET, when you try to explain that SPD is a brain processing disorder, they look at you like you're just trying to make excuses for your bratty, picky, immature kid. I just find it very odd.
I have a friend with a child who has audio neuropathy, and another friend with a child who has auditory processing disorder. They find it equally frustrating to try to explain this mysterious processing glitch to their friends and family.
All this plus heredity.
My Mom (born 1919) was called retarded, more often uglier terms. She is totally unable to write legibly (but she can type up a storm). She has no sense of direction, to the point that it is a family joke (with love). Many other "processing glitches" that show up occasionally, and more that she has compensated for so we rarely see. But she has 2 Master's degrees, and was a pioneer in her field.
We have just gotten in touch with a cousin (40 years younger) who has almost the exact same glitches! It is funny to hear them talk and compare symptoms. I have my share of neurological idiosyncrasies, mainly I just appear as a nerd who doesn't make eye contact, so people think I am aloof or snobby. But I truly can't handle certain chaotic noises, crowds, and a host of other common experiences. My YoungSon, 12, has a similar pattern, though with his unique flavor to it all.
So my Mom was called dumb, and received no support. But she also was born at home, no vax, extended BF, and never exposed as a child to many of the toxins around today. My cousin and I were considered behavior problems, sent to psychologists. We were both hospital born, bottle fed, fully vaxed, etc. All the well-meant therapy had nothing to do with what was going on, and we both just had to find our own niche in the world. My brother had delayed speech, dyslexia, and I am not sure what all else. And my boy is Dx'ed with autism, selective mutism, SPD, dyslexia, and I don't remember what all else. He was born at home, not vaxed, BF, and all that. We have had a total elimination diet (not really by choice), and know that with him at least, it is not diet. I am convinced that he will find his path as well as the other family members, but I think he has the advantage of no one trying to fix him.
On the other side of the family, my father was a musical prodigy, and spoke 7 languages fluently, and several more passably. He was a successful eccentric inventor; a total wacko in his habits, quirks, and life. If that isn't a description of Asperger's, I don't know what it is.
It seems to me it is the same package, just in different wrapping.