Originally Posted by Chantelle691
So here's a question. If cs can only be changed once a year, does that hold true for now, if we divorced in December with an agreement that was written in August that included child support $$ but no visit or calculation through Domestic Relations?
I don't know what state you're in, but I'm in PA and I've never heard of any restrictions on visits to DRS. Once upon a time, they used to charge the parent who was making the request for a change $25 to file that request, but that was eliminated about 8 years ago. Now it's free and, as far as I know, either party can file a petition to modify at any point in time.
As far as having shown potential income, in my experience, that is only good within a year or so of them leaving a higher paying job (voluntarily reducing their income when they've shown X as an earning capacity). I agree that a mangagerial job in retail may not have come with a big financial bonus, but the $55k sure changes his financial ability to provide for your daughter.
Personally, I don't think it's gouging for money if he's able to pay more. As someone else said, if you were still together, your daughter would benefit from his increased pay.
Perhaps you could file with DRS and explain to your ex (before he gets paperwork from them) that your attorney has recommended you file with them. That makes your 'attorney' out to be the 'bad guy' in the situation. You might also consider saying something like you were applying for WIC and they require you to file for support through DRS in order to qualify (but I have no idea if he'd believe this or not b/c I don't know what your income looks like or if that's feasible).
Good luck Saturday!! I'd hope he and his GF would be mature enough that a dinner wouldn't be awkward at all, but if that's not the case, I'd hope he'd have the good sense to excuse himself from the dinner!