To quote Skyastara, "Wow. Just wow." Your lecture certainly tells me where you're coming from (no lack of hormones there!). I can appreciate your passionate defense of Odent, especially after reading your post about your experience at the "Trust Birth " conference, but I still don't feel the love. I'll read more though.
While I do understand the hormone thing, I still feel the emphasis on it, in terms of bonding, does a disservice to mothers who have not had a "natural" birth, for whatever reason, suggesting they are now at a disadvantage and will have to work harder to connect with their baby than the mother who gave birth undisturbed, in a darkened room, with a midwife/mother-figure "knitting" in the corner.
Anecdote: My friend has a toddler who was a full term breech, large baby, via CS on recommendation from her midwife (she had planned a homebirth). Recently, a (now ex) friend (BTW she posts on MDC and has had 2 homebirths and is planning a third) said to her after seeing "The Business of
Being Born", "You didn't get the love cocktail" (and by implication) "and
I did." Just an anecdote, but very hurtful.
For the record, I have never said hospital birth is better than at home. I have said, several times, that I think it is a personal choice.
If you had no trouble bonding with your baby, then don't take offense, because I don't think anyone (other than your rotten excuse for a friend) is trying to make it offensive. I "didn't get the love cocktail" either, yet as I said in an earlier post, I bonded with my son very easily and intensely. To compare it to breastfeeding again, I don't take offense when people talk about how awesome breastmilk is even though I did use formula from time to time. I know that breastmilk's awesomeness is a proven fact, just like the "love cocktail" is a proven fact. It doesn't mean that babies fall over dead if they don't get breastmilk, and it doesn't mean that mothers who don't get the love cocktail will hate their babies. It's just science, but even science has its exceptions.
P.S. As a woman, you ought to know better than to blame anything another woman does on "hormones."