need encouragement for a very postdate friend

[tashaharney]

hey mamas,
i've a friend who is 42 weeks and 5 days as of today, and she is miserable. i'm just looking for encouragement, advice, stories from mamas who've btdt for her. fwiw, she's planning a hbac but i think she's starting to get really worried. i'm not sure what she's tried to bring on labor, but i imagine she's tried nearly everything.
i'm gonna send her the link to this thread so pretty please mamas, help her keep her head up!
TIA

[Catherine12]

I didn't go quite that late, but I did go 11 days "overdue" with my third baby... when I finally went into labor it was very fast (about an hour total) and fairly easy. My first two births were pretty much "on time", and labor was 20 to 22 hours and a lot harder.

[pixiepunk]

all i can do is offer her a big

i'm currently 10 days past my EDD and it sux. i can only imagine myself another week and a few days from now.

i would be curious to know what she's tried for bringing on labor. there might be a few things she hasn't tried yet that we could offer up as suggestions. i know being proactive and scheduling reflexology and acupuncture appointments, as well as having some talks with the baby, practicing relaxation techniques, doing fear releases, and focusing on downward moving energy in my body has helped me through the last couple of days!

fwiw, i have bumped into a surprising number of women in the last week who have gone about 3 weeks past their EDD's. one woman went 17 days past EDD with all three of hers. another was a day shy of 43 weeks when her daughter finally decided to come. it does happen, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong or that she won't get her HBAC, though i totally understand why she's worried. the best thing she can probably do for herself is to try and let those fears and worries go as much as possible.

ok, apparently i did have a few things to say

[chrissyb08]

I FEEL HER PAIN! I ended up going to 44 weeks and had a perfect homebirth. She should remember that the dates aren't exact and as long as everything seems to be okay with the baby, she can keep going. I knew that if something wasn't right with my baby, I would know it. The dates could be wrong or her body could just gestate longer than other women. I don't know what the case was with me, but my baby was normal-sized, still had some vernix on his body, and the placenta was perfectly intact. I truly believe that babies will come out when they are supposed to. Our bodies are waaaayy smarter than we are for the most part.

[Kidzaplenty]

My longest one was 42 wks to the day. But I understand her tiredness.

Has she tried castor oil to bring on labor. It has worked for me in the past. (But you have to take it in two doses about five hours apart.) Hope her labor has already started.

[Ekatherina]

i am currently 9 days overdue and i was 2 weeks overdue with my first so i know i dont have to worry. but i can imagine her stress and tiredness. in my case even my mw doesnt want to wait, let alone all the relatives together but me and dh have decided to wait till the baby decides it's his time and we are waiting...