Dd1, who will be 5 in 3 months, has always had a "sensitive vulva" but now I'm beginning to be concerned. I have always noticed that she presses really hard when she's wiping after peeing, and I keep reminding her that all she needs to do is pat lightly. She also won't even try to wipe herself after a bm, and I think it's a fear thing, like that she won't get clean all the way (and I have said I would help her, but she just wants me to do it). Anyway, she often complains that she itches or that her vulva hurts. Whenever I wash her in the bath I clean the outside and gently try to clean inside the labia and she ALWAYS says it hurts (and I'm not applying pressure at all) and tries to scoot away. I let her, on occasion, clean herself in the bath, but she told me today that she only cleans the outside and it hurts to clean on the inside. Does anyone else have experience with this? I believe her, but I do think that maybe it is part hurt mixed with part fear.... I am tempted to take her to a doctor, but I can't see a doctor saying much. What do you mamas think?