Wanting but Waiting tribe - Page 2

[LittleBirdy]

Count me in - wanting but waiting. I told DH last week I wanted to start trying after our birthdays this year (I'm Oct 29 and he's Nov 9). He'll turn 30 and I will be 26 (which is the age my mother and my sister both had their first). His response was, "Absolutley not. That's way too soon." Which is kind of what I expected. I only told him that because he said he wanted me to be honest

I think we'll probably start TTC in 2009. I am a little worried though. I really want a child, but I don't like the idea of daycare and I LOVE my job. I want to be a SAHM or WAHM (with my current job I could be a WAHM sometimes but not every day) and I really want to homeschool, so starting a family kind of means giving up my career as it currently exists. I struggle with that a lot - is anybody else in the same boat?

[Brown Lioness]

I need to be in here, me thinks.

To answer the question about dealing with waiting,.... .i just am at ease in knowing that this time in my life is strictly for my growth and to prepare for motherhood in one way or the other. I take solace in knowing that when we are comfortable with trying that it will be the most rollercoaster experience of my life and i like rollercoasters! However, i also need the line to be on the long side to prepare my stomach for the topsy turvy-ness of the ride.

[nicolelynn]

Wanting badly and was going to have to wait for 3 years, now you can see from my siggy...only 1 year to go!

[ann_of_loxley]

Af #1 down - only 6 more flows to go! lmao

[Oriole]

I belong here.

I imagine myself with a belly, and in birth. I imagine myself cuddling with a baby. I can "taste" being mommy. I'll be really good at it, I promise! I have ton of patience and creativity and love to give. I've been in my DSD's life since she was 7, she is now 15 and is living with us. She is a great kid, and keeps us busy, but I have to admit, I'm ready for a little one... I know we'll need to wait for a few things to settle first, but I want it sooo badly...

Fess up... Do you snoop around DDCs reading other people's posts? Or am I the only freak?

[ShwarmaQueen]

Oh my gosh, LOL, I do that!!!

[Brown Lioness]

Originally Posted by Oriole

Fess up... Do you snoop around DDCs reading other people's posts? Or am I the only freak?

OH yea, i lurk in the DDC's!! It's so much fun to imagine that you are where they are in pregnancy! Imagining and dreaming is all i can do right now, so yea, i love lurking in the DDC's and especially reading the birth stories.

[ann_of_loxley]

Originally Posted by Brown Lioness

OH yea, i lurk in the DDC's!! It's so much fun to imagine that you are where they are in pregnancy! Imagining and dreaming is all i can do right now, so yea, i love lurking in the DDC's and especially reading the birth stories.

Same here! - but I have to watch what time of the month it is because sometimes whilst that gives me joy...it can also really depress me!!!

It doesnt help that 70% of the people I know at the moment are also pregnant!!!! ...They seem to be everywhere! lol

[young_mama08]

Originally Posted by MEcatlady17

I also really want to learn more about FA so that when we do begin trying to conceive I have a better understanding of how my body works.

What is FA?

Im a single mom of one, so I'll probably not be ttc until way after everyone else in this thread I have to find a good man first! And I definately want to know the man for a long while before we move in together and start thinking about a child, not something that should be rushed into - as I learnt last time!

I dont have major baby craves but I do find myself longing for another sometimes, what helps me get through that is reminding myself of the reality of a baby and child, they cost a lot of money, and the lack of sleep is awful. I can finally sleep again now dc is getting older

[akaisha]

Originally Posted by LittleBirdy

I really want a child, but I don't like the idea of daycare and I LOVE my job. I want to be a SAHM or WAHM (with my current job I could be a WAHM sometimes but not every day) and I really want to homeschool, so starting a family kind of means giving up my career as it currently exists. I struggle with that a lot - is anybody else in the same boat?

that's the boat i very likely will be in when the time comes to TTC, which won't be for a few more years yet. DP and i were talking about this last night, SAH vs WAH vs SAH for at least the first year then work part time a couple of days a week. that is what we're aiming for, but only because DP works from home so baby wouldn't be in daycare at all. that would be a deal breaker for me, i'd SAH full time before i did daycare. i think 1-2 days a week of work would be really good for me for a variety of reasons, but not until i feel baby is ready for it. and pumping would have to go well because i'd SAH before i did formula.

[knittinanny]

I'm definitely 'wanting but waiting.' I'm hoping to start TTC in 2009 (probably late 2009) but there's so many things that need to come together first.

[MEcatlady17]

Originally Posted by young_mama08

What is FA?

FA is fertility awareness. Basically I want to learn more about charting. Essentially you monitor your temperature, cervical mucous, etc. to track when you are and aren't fertile, ovulating, etc... You can use this to both avoid pregnancy and to conceive. When used correctly it is supposed to be as effective as a hormonal birth control. Then when you want to get pregnant you know how your body works and and can be more aware of your fertile times. I am still learning, so this is my general understanding.

[LittleBirdy]

Sorry for the off topic - MEcatlady, I am jealous of your "In the woods, ME" location. DH and I are both from Bangor and desperately trying to get back to live in the woods too

[Oriole]

What's making it "ok" for you to wait?

For me it's the fact that my sister has been trying to conceive for two years now, and I'd feel pretty bad telling her if I just got pregnant all of a sudden. I really hope it will happen for her first. I bet, though, that my own baby fever won't die down when she gets her baby! heh

[~Yola]

Can I join?

Desperately wanting..I want at least 1, preferably closer to 5 more babe's, and Dh turns 40 at the end of this month, I feel like I'm in a bit of a time crunch!

But I'm waiting, Dh's stance is we can start trying for the next one when we own our own dirt...best-case scenario that means probably at least 2 years, and that's if we find 3-5 families wanting to go in on buying land and building a self-sufficient (think Earthships) community. It seems like a long time to wait, and with no real guaranty it will ever happen...the liklyhood of us ever being able to afford a piece of land is soooo far-fetched

I keep my spirits up with the knowledge when we do get our land and Dh starts building us one awsome house, I'll have his support in birthing as many babies as my womb will provide us with

[DogLady]

This is my place! I've got short wait, but it's still driving me crazy. We're TTC this summer, but fighting over which month. I want to start next cycle, DH wants to start in August.

Yola: Your DH's plan sounds awesome!

[lyterae]

You can count me in, wanting, but waiting until at least the end of August (3 more cycles) if not longer. I had 60 lbs I wanted to lose before getting pregnant again and I've only mananged to kick 30 of it so far, I'm heading for a HBAC so I want to do everything I can to be healthy for my next pregnancy...

Waiting is getting harder, I sometimes wish that we'd have an "oops" despite the fact that I really would like baby #2 to be something we both are excited for and waiting for. My dd was very much a surprise for us (fresh out of college, no insurance, etc...) I'm looking forward to it being an exciting rather than scary time next time around.

I'm also lurking on the DDC forums...

[holyhelianthus]

This would be me. It has taken me a long time to get to wanting another baby- DH was going to get the V but we prayed and felt God wanted us to have more children. That was a huge trial for me and still is for DH. I get hyper emesis while preggers (#3 wasn't so bad but #1 and #2 I was hospitalized)
and I also had a very traumatic birth with #3. Now I am wanting another baby but that thought of pregnancy and birth still scares me- not as much as before though. Before it made me vomit. I think I am healing nicely

I see most mamas here don't have long to wait but we are thinking when we are 25 or 26 which is 2 to 3 years from now to TTC. Our youngest will be 3 or 4 by then which will be nice. I'd really like to have a boy. DH doesn't care but for some reason I really want a son. Another DD will be just fine though! I wouldn't mind 2 more so I'd love to have twins (they do run in our family) so I have ONE pregnancy seeing as how pregnancy is a living hell for me. But I know I'm just dreaming. *sigh*


Beyond just age I want another bedroom home and more security- money in savings and all that. We shall see how things go. We are only 22 so we have a nice long while.

[Oriole]

I would not mind an "Ooops" at all. I'm so jealous that some of you are looking for this summer to try!

[DogLady]

Oriole, I'm one of those summer people....finally. I feel like I've been waiting for 5 years, which, come to think of it, I have! The wait is just hard, regardless of how far along you are. Then when I consider that it might not happen right away (my cycles are messed up after going off BC) I get really discouraged! I'm definitely one of those people who wants things now, now, NOW! I think I should work on my patience in preparation for motherhood.