Wanting but Waiting tribe - Page 26

[NewDirections]

Originally Posted by angelxxrose

I am still here! Counting down the months until we can TTC our first. I am trying not to obsess but it is hard. I can't wait!

I feel the same way! I'm so excited to ttc and my plan is to wait until May. But, that seems so far away to me. When I think about it rationally I know it's not that long. It's just waiting is excruciating for me. I was counting down the days for awhile. I don't know if that helps or makes it feel even longer.

[wearbaby]

I have about 5 reasons why we need to wait to TTC:
Work-maternity leave
Money
Weight (mine)
time with other kids
Time with husband

BUT it's so darn hard! We aren't really actively avoiding, but I'm def aware of ovulation. I know I should be doing more to prevent. I really want my kids to be close together. I also wanted to have a spring baby next time and that means waiting 6 more months to TTC. Please talk some sense into me! I don't need to get pregnant now!

[NewDirections]

Originally Posted by wearbaby

I have about 5 reasons why we need to wait to TTC:
Work-maternity leave
Money
Weight (mine)
time with other kids
Time with husband

BUT it's so darn hard! We aren't really actively avoiding, but I'm def aware of ovulation. I know I should be doing more to prevent. I really want my kids to be close together. I also wanted to have a spring baby next time and that means waiting 6 more months to TTC. Please talk some sense into me! I don't need to get pregnant now!

I feel the same way! I want a spring baby too. But, when I think about waiting until June to ttc in order to have a spring baby, wow that is far away! I'm also losing weight and I told myself that I'm not allowed to ttc until I lose it. But, I should reach my goal weight by February. I don't know how I'll wait from March to June without ttc.

My other reason for waiting to ttc is that I'm a teacher. If I get pregnant in March, I'd have the baby in December. I'd take a few months off and have to come back to school. If I have a baby anytime Feb-June I'll be able to stay home with the baby until late August until I go back to school. But then I think, if I wait to ttc until May so I have a February baby, there is no guarantee that it will happen right away. Part of my is scared that it will take awhile and that as soon as I reach my goal weight I should ttc. I feel better after writing that last sentence. Maybe I should listen to myself and just not try and also not prevent after I reach my goal weight. I feel better about that than waiting until June. Well, it will take me at least 6 weeks to reach my goal weight, so I have lots of time to think about it.

Lol, can you tell that I'm a little obsessive

[wearbaby]

Originally Posted by TatianaTiger

I feel the same way! I want a spring baby too. But, when I think about waiting until June to ttc in order to have a spring baby, wow that is far away! I'm also losing weight and I told myself that I'm not allowed to ttc until I lose it. But, I should reach my goal weight by February. I don't know how I'll wait from March to June without ttc.

My other reason for waiting to ttc is that I'm a teacher. If I get pregnant in March, I'd have the baby in December. I'd take a few months off and have to come back to school. If I have a baby anytime Feb-June I'll be able to stay home with the baby until late August until I go back to school. But then I think, if I wait to ttc until May so I have a February baby, there is no guarantee that it will happen right away. Part of my is scared that it will take awhile and that as soon as I reach my goal weight I should ttc. I feel better after writing that last sentence. Maybe I should listen to myself and just not try and also not prevent after I reach my goal weight. I feel better about that than waiting until June. Well, it will take me at least 6 weeks to reach my goal weight, so I have lots of time to think about it.

Lol, can you tell that I'm a little obsessive

You're not obsessive! I change my mind every other day! LOL. If I were a teacher though, I would definitely be going for a March/April baby. Most definitely. It is so hard!!! WTG for being so close to your goal weight though!!!

[Magelet]

wow, a whole group of other women wanting but waiting.

Praying for an accident... yeah that kinda describes me, though I know that now is not the time.

but as newmommy said so perfectly on the first page,

Originally Posted by newmommy27

I know we have a soul waiting for us...(s)he seems impatient

I have such vivid dreams about her, and sometimes I wake from them having to stifle my frantic cries for my child who is suddenly gone from my arms, until I wake up fully and remember she's nothing more than a 'twinkle in my eye', though that doesn't particularly calm me down always *sighs* is that crazy?

we aren't ready for kids yet, for a few reasons. I absolutely want to wait (unless an accident comes along of course. While I am 100% pro Choice, my own soul would offer me no choice, not that I would want it) until we are more financially stable. Our current financial situation doesn't seem fair to bring a child into. I'd really love to be in a situation where I could stay home at least until they were in school (or maybe homeschooling I don't know), and he would as well.

DP (lol, I've been calling him BF but I love that term... Dear partner, perfect description) and I want to have a nice (though somewhat small) wedding, and then a few years to ourselves before TTC. Also, one or both of us may be going back to school in the next year or two, which would of course make things harder.

The biggest reason though, is the financial stuff. My parents were able to provide a life where I never had to worry about where the rent was coming from or whether dinner would be on the table all week, and I will ensure my children never have to as well, somehow, no matter when I have them. It would be a lot easier to do so if WE weren't worrying about such things lol.

But god, babysitting my 8 month old cousin so his mama could get some work done these past few months, though an utter delight, made my heart yearn so. I'd say we're, lord and lady willing, 4-6 years out, no more, and while I'd far prefer it to be 4, I think realistically, it will take us about 5 or 6 years to get to the point where we're ready to TTC. (May the Lord make that easy) Anyways, I'm here, wanting and waiting, lurking, and learning about nutrition, family clothes, housekeeping, and living a touch vicariously lol.

[samy23]

Hi everyone Im still here too! :

Im very excited to start ttc however I still have a while to wait yet. Another 5 months to go! 5 more periods!

So excited : Its still a while away yet but time goes by fairly quickly most of the time, and I am enjoying being a mother to one so much I dont feel in too much of a rush to start ttc number 2.

On the other hand, I cant wait to start the whole ttc process, pregnancy tests, experience pregnancy again, have a newborn to look after, breastfeed, give my dd her own little sister or brother etc etc So excited! Also a tad nervous aswell. :

Probably should start figuring out how to get my body and my life best prepared for ttc, pregnancy and a baby!!!!!

[SquishyBuggles]

Hi, can I join you all? I have 2 dds, aged 2 and 4. H and I have recently been talking about adding our final addition, but we're probably going to wait until Feb or March to TTC.

[Kama82]

I took a break from this thread for a while but I decided to stop by today and say hi, how is everyone doing?
I am kind of sad because my name is still on the ttc in 2009 list even though our potential ttc date has moved from possibly 2009 to possibly never, for sure not now.
The primary issue here is my weight. I have to lose weight before we ttc. The problem is the very fact that my husband and I both feel like I am too overweight to plan for a baby is depressing being depressed is not good for my prospects of losing weight.
Well here is to hoping 2009 is a better year for me.

[soccermama]

Glad to have found this thread! We were going to start TTC #2 back in August of this year, but things happened - lay offs, etc., and then more things happened with me - two periods in the month of November, etc., So, we're looking at late Spring or early Summer of 2009 to TTC #2.

[soccermama]

Originally Posted by samy23

Hi everyone Im still here too! :

Im very excited to start ttc however I still have a while to wait yet. Another 5 months to go! 5 more periods!

So excited : Its still a while away yet but time goes by fairly quickly most of the time, and I am enjoying being a mother to one so much I dont feel in too much of a rush to start ttc number 2.

On the other hand, I cant wait to start the whole ttc process, pregnancy tests, experience pregnancy again, have a newborn to look after, breastfeed, give my dd her own little sister or brother etc etc So excited! Also a tad nervous aswell. :

Probably should start figuring out how to get my body and my life best prepared for ttc, pregnancy and a baby!!!!!

I'm right there with you!! I love being a mama to DS, but I also can't wait for him to experience a new sibling - something I never got to experience myself. I loved being pregnant, I loved nursing, babywearing, etc., We just need for things to be stable for a few months, look for a bigger home in a better school district, etc.,

[CorasMama]

Kama82:

My best friend weighed over 225lbs (possibly over 250) when she got pregnant with her second child. She had a perfectly healthy pregnancy, and actually lost a little weight in the first trimester because of eating healthier!

I know that's anecdata, but large pregnancies don't have to be unhealthy ones.

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So, I'm irritated with my doctor right now. She set back my ttc by a month.

We have to get me off the medications I'm on now before we even think of taking out the IUD. One of the meds is a teratogen, and the others are just bad for fetuses, including a strong narcotic. So the plan is tapering them off slowly over the course of several months, but this month she wrote my prescription for the same dose as last month (it's time-release, so I can't cut it up). DH picked it up and filled it, so I didn't notice until after it was filled, which was too late!

Sigh. I want a baby NOW, darnit!!! And this also means we have to wait til June. Even though we'll probably be ready in March, we have so many December birthdays in our family, and December birthdays suck, I told dh that the womb is closed March through May, so as not to risk another December baby! Now, if we start ttc in June 2009, and we haved conceived by March 2010, I think I'll feel differently. But if conceiving is easy, no more december babies!!!

[SquishyBuggles]

I have endometriosis. I had a doctor appt yesterday and my doc scheduled a laparoscopy for later this month. He asked if I wanted any more kids and of course I said 'yes, one more.' he said the best thing I can possibly do for my body right now is to get pregnant. Woo! So, tentative plan right now is to have the surgery and start trying again in Feb or March!

[millefleur]

Count me in!

Just had/still having a loss, and I would be trying again as soon as possible, but I am a prime candidate for PPD and I think having a baby in fall or winter would really increase my risk. Plus our financial situation and my health could be better. So, I will be wanting and waiting too. Probably we will try again this summer - to try for a spring 2010 baby.

[guestmama9917]

i am jumping in here, but i am not sure if this is where i belong.

for the last few months i have been trying to convince myself that i want to wait to ttc. however, i am now realizing that i am only giving into my husband's desires. i have endometriosis (for 10 years) and i am almost 27, we have good jobs, no debt except for our mortgage, i have great maternity leave. so what are we waiting for?! DH won't say when he wants to try he just keeps saying he wants to wait. i feel like he is witholding from me and each time he won't tell me when we can start ttc i feel like i want to just leave him!

we are using withdrawal and he wears a condom around my fertile times.

thanks for letting me share.

[mwright]

I really should join this thread! Does anyone here dream every day and hope every month like me??? Geeeze!! I'm going crazy here! I am wanting and waiting until who know's when tho!!?? I am so ready but DH is not so I am trying to just chill until he is ready I guess. The thing is he wont even really talk to me about when he can start TTC. He just tells me there is a "time" to have another baby and right now isn't it. Grrr..so I'm trying to bite my tounge and pray that things will turn out how they are suppose to. I'm working outside of the home so that keeps me busy but oh how my arms ache for another baby.Our dd is 2 1/2 yrs old and I feel like I've been waiting for a long time to add to our family.But I guess not. I'm also saving like a mad woman so that I can stay home when the 2nd is born while I figure out a way to earn an income while staying home with the kids. So far I have $1500 saved..I got a ways to go!!

Glad to meet you lady's!! Oh, we are using pull-out and DH is very controled so I don't think there's a chance for an "oops".

[mwright]

Originally Posted by courtrn

i feel like he is witholding from me and each time he won't tell me when we can start ttc i feel like i want to just leave him!

Ooooh how I sooooo know that feeling..: I just don't understand my man. uuuuugh!!!

[funfunkyfantastic]

Gosh, i can think of so many reasons not to get pregnant right now, and the same with DH.

*I just had a baby 3 months ago
*My body is so not ready for another one
*The last pregnancy was tough on my back (even though I'm fine now with chiropractic care)
*The thought of going through that "newborn" phase again terrifies me... i'd so prefer to skip the first month or two.... lol.
*Handling one kid right now is a handful, two sounds overwhelming
*DH deploys in summer of 2010, and i'd be stuck home alone with two very young kids

I can only think of a few reasons i'd like to be pregnant now

*I'm anxious to try for my "boy"
*I want DH to be home for the whole pregnancy and birth this time, plus be around for the early newborn stages so that i'll get all the help I need

I have no idea why I even have an interest in being pregnant again. Maybe it's cus my best friend is pregnant with a little boy right now, and i'm jealous. lol.

[NewDirections]

I'm doing a little better about waiting now that it's 2009. Ttc doesn't seem as far off now. My goal is to start to ttc in May or June. I can wait 5 months, right? I better work on my patience

[Laggie]

So... DH and I had a 'real' discussion on the weekend... because I want a baby and he knows it! But he doesn't want more kids. He has a daughter from a previous marriage, I have no kids of my own (ended up on MDC because of the blended families section but wow have i ever learned a lot!)

Well, to make a long story short - DH says that, while he doesn't want to keep me from having a child, he doesn't want to be part of it. And that he's accepted the idea of divorce over it. Yep, he said the D word.

I said that I would have to make up my mind and come back to the topic in 6 months. I still hope I can talk him into it but... damn. It doesn't sound like it's going to work

The biggest hurdle is that his relationship with his ex was destroyed by her pregnancy... she 'forgot' to tell him she stopped taking the pill, and got pregnant. He never trusted her again and still has a huge amount of anger about it... 10 years later! He loves his daughter dearly though, of course.

[Sihaya]

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